Agreed but I would think usually in the reverse. Bad at home, good at school. Kids are typically their worst with their parents.
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Agreed but I would think usually in the reverse. Bad at home, good at school. Kids are typically their worst with their parents.
Why are two neighbor boys over playing with your daughter? Typically at that age they want to stick with their own gender.
I vote "not harsh". Tell your husband that THIS is why YOU are the Mommy and not him.
We're not in a "neighborhood" and the older boy is related. They don't have anyone else to play with.
cattitude
My Sweetest Boy
I understand that. But when my "darlings" were younger, my SIL always thought my boys were the bad ones.
She had a girl....she changed her tune when she had her son. Sometimes it's just perception.
Heck, my grandkids who ARE good children tend to get a tad wild when they come over and while they KNOW they don't run and act like nuts when they visit grandma and poppa, they need to be tapped on the back of head to be reminded.
That was my first thought. At that age the last person I'd want to visit and play with would be a girl. Heck, it'd be enough just for me to play with a 7 year old, if I was 9.
I understand that. But when my "darlings" were younger, my SIL always thought my boys were the bad ones.
Sometimes it's just perception.
Heck, my grandkids who ARE good children tend to get a tad wild when they come over and while they KNOW they don't run and act like nuts when they visit grandma and poppa, they need to be tapped on the back of head to be reminded.
I've been around boys - my best friend has two boys, very high energy - there's never been a problem. I have another friend that brings over her son - no problems. And these two have been over several times and never acted like this.
I think they come because it's more fun at our house. There's more stuff and room and a bigger yard. I'm hoping in another year I won't have to worry about this anymore. The other reason is because they like to be around my husband. I don't think they get much attention from their own fathers.
chemommy25
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I partly agree. I know when i would be at work and i would be trying to get a kid to calm down b/c they were acting like complete jackazzes, the parents would walk in and they would act like perfect angels. i dont maybe its because they didnt wanna get into trouble.
jenbengen
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They are plenty old enough to know better. My kid wouldn't dare eat somebody's food/candy without asking while at their house. You did nothing wrong, in my opinion. I hate the "they're boys" excuse for bad behavior. Yes, boys tend to be more agressive. But there is a difference between more agressive and rude.
BUT, I wouldn't write them off without giving them another try or two. Every kid has their moment, I suppose.
Tell your husband he can watch them next time.
BUT, I wouldn't write them off without giving them another try or two. Every kid has their moment, I suppose.
Tell your husband he can watch them next time.
They are plenty old enough to know better. My kid wouldn't dare eat somebody's food/candy without asking while at their house. You did nothing wrong, in my opinion. I hate the "they're boys" excuse for bad behavior. Yes, boys tend to be more agressive. But there is a difference between more agressive and rude.
BUT, I wouldn't write them off without giving them another try or two. Every kid has their moment, I suppose.
Tell your husband he can watch them next time.
I'll let them come back but from now on I'm paying closer attention to if they're all playing "together" or just trying to hang at our house. I'll send them home till they get it. They'll either stay away or learn.
theArtistFormerlyKnownAs
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They are plenty old enough to know better. My kid wouldn't dare eat somebody's food/candy without asking while at their house. You did nothing wrong, in my opinion. I hate the "they're boys" excuse for bad behavior. Yes, boys tend to be more agressive. But there is a difference between more agressive and rude.
BUT, I wouldn't write them off without giving them another try or two. Every kid has their moment, I suppose.
Tell your husband he can watch them next time.
That is all I could think about through this thread. I was not rough on my toys like some kids were...nor did I disrespect an adult and take things without asking (at THAT age especially). It all depends on how you're raised I suppose :shrug:
foodcritic
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I think you did the right thing. I am surprised that some people on this thread thought you were to harsh. It is your house and you can have any rules you want. It does sound to me that they probably get no parenting at home and may want to hang out at your house because you represent a mother figure that actually sets boundaries. Unlike popular thinking these days kids like boundaries it makes them feel safe. I would tell them the rules of the house what will happen if they break them and try to teach them some manners. You may actually have a good influence on them. It will be hard but think of it as a way of possibly saving two children who may be headed down the wrong path. I wish more parents would step up and do what they are supposed to do and teach their children right and wrong.
kom526
They call me ... Sarcasmo
So you are trying to make up for it now I suppose?
2xmommie
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I would of called there parents and mad them go home. If I acted like that when i was a kid I would of got my but kicked!
Ok, so I did the right thing. I never did tell their parents, I considered it handled.
Now the 9yr olds father happened to say in conversation last night that he misbehaves at home after he's been to our house. I told him that's funny because he doesn't listen to me when he's over, I have the same problem. So he says I have his permision to correct him.
Well I already do that, he doesn't listen to me. My husband yes, but not me. Let me say this is a single father and no mother is in the picture. I don't think he sees women as an authority figure at home, I know his teachers are female. Any suggestions about how to deal with this?