Too soon?

[SoMDGirl42]

I play with him, my husband and I actually take turns at night, when making dinner and such, he sits with daddy and watches *MASH and yes he IS at daycare all day long and CONSTANTLY stimulated I'm worried he's going to get TOO used to constant attention and stimulation that he feels he NEEDS the constant stimulation and excitment in order to be happy. I want him to be able to be content and learn that he doesn't NEED ATTENTION and EXCITEMENT 24/7 and it's okay to sit and play with some blocks without THROWING THEM AT MOM AND DAD or squealing and screaming until we pay attention to just him. Does that make sense at all?

Yes it does make sense. Just remember he is only 1. Their attention span is very short. A few minutes at the most. Hopefully he will learn to entertain himself as he gets older. All kids are different with different personalities. My oldest NEVER learned to entertain herself. But my son did, and my youngest daughter can now (age 6) sit for hours playing with one little toy by herself. :shrug:

In my opinion, at 1, he is telling you he is frustrated with being in the play pen in the evening and wants your attention. Kids at that age love to explore their surroundings, and should be encouraged to do so if it's safe.

He is your first, and kids don't come with learners manuals. Each kid is different and you have to find what works with all of you. If what you are doing now isn't working, try something new until it does work and you have a more harmonious time together. And don't take this as sarcasm, because it's not meant that way, but some kids are just plain difficult children. I know some, and no matter what you do, it's not going to help the situation. I do wish you well.

 

[vraiblonde]

I play with him, my husband and I actually take turns at night, when making dinner and such, he sits with daddy and watches *MASH and yes he IS at daycare all day long and CONSTANTLY stimulated I'm worried he's going to get TOO used to constant attention and stimulation that he feels he NEEDS the constant stimulation and excitment in order to be happy. I want him to be able to be content and learn that he doesn't NEED ATTENTION and EXCITEMENT 24/7 and it's okay to sit and play with some blocks without THROWING THEM AT MOM AND DAD or squealing and screaming until we pay attention to just him. Does that make sense at all?

Makes sense - my son did the same thing at that age. After I was ready to pull my hair out, a friend suggested that I was spoiling him and making him into a tyrant. So I went out of my way to ignore him for a few minutes before toting and fetching, and putting him in his bedroom if he pitched a fit. A couple weeks of diligence and life was peaceful again.

 

[doubtfull24]

I am not trying to offend you.Just trying to help.No one is a perfect parent especially me

 

[KDENISE977]

THANKS ALL ! NOT OFFENDED ONE BIT !! I'm asking advice and glad to receive it !! I'm a bit over the top with him sometimes and don't want my need for him to have EVERYTHING he wants turn him into a spoiled brat or a neglected toddler... FINDING A HAPPY MEDIUM is the key I guess. Like I said, they dote on him hand and foot at daycare, he's the favorite...so much that when I go to pick him up, he is sitting in the directors office playing with her every single day one on one. So like I said, I don't want him to be that 5 or 6 year old attention HOG kid that annoys the crap out of EVERYONE, but don't want to ever feel neglected. Also, I'll share a little story, that terrifys me...my M.I.L. told me, when my husband was 5 years old, his neighborhood took up a collection to send him AWAY to summer camp because he was that obnoxious. NO JOKE !!

 

[SoMDGirl42]

THANKS ALL ! NOT OFFENDED ONE BIT !! I'm asking advice and glad to receive it !! I'm a bit over the top with him sometimes and don't want my need for him to have EVERYTHING he wants turn him into a spoiled brat or a neglected toddler... FINDING A HAPPY MEDIUM is the key I guess. Like I said, they dote on him hand and foot at daycare, he's the favorite...so much that when I go to pick him up, he is sitting in the directors office playing with her every single day one on one. So like I said, I don't want him to be that 5 or 6 year old attention HOG kid that annoys the crap out of EVERYONE, but don't want to ever feel neglected. Also, I'll share a little story, that terrifys me...my M.I.L. told me, when my husband was 5 years old, his neighborhood took up a collection to send him AWAY to summer camp because he was that obnoxious. NO JOKE !!

Perspective: He's in the directors office one on one because they can't stand him They've already taken up a collection to send him to summer camp. It's all your MILs fault for saying to your husband over and over again "I HOPE ONE DAY YOU HAVE A KID JUST LIKE YOU".

Is it too late to get a refund? Did you cut off the hospital IDs with the price tag?

 

[KDENISE977]

He is the devil for sure ;-)

 

[bcp]

You are the meanest person ever. Hitting little kids.

that is about as low as it can get.

Go with the shock collar, that way people around you dont see you hitting him