Welfare

[Jaded]

I have a friend in her 30's who quit her job a while back and now gets welfare.

She's a single mom with two children, doesn't get child support from either of the fathers, no disabilities, and recently started community college, bill footed by the state.

She has a cell phone and she has the internet and she goes out drinking and partying several times a week, all paid for by the state.

Is it wrong of me to think this is ludicrous?

I'm not trying to be judgemental but I am also a single mother of two and have always made it on my own with no help from the state.
I have never gotten welfare, I have always worked long hours and sometimes two jobs to make ends meet.

It's awkward when she asks me to go out and party with her.
Part of me doesn't want to go because I don't want to condone her partying on someones tax dollars.
The other part of me says what the hell, you're paying for it anyway.

I give her credit for trying to continue her education but I do not think that she should be getting all of this free from the state.

Are my feelings wrong? What do you think?

Thank you for letting me vent.

 

[RoseRed]

I have a friend in her 30's who quit her job a while back and now gets welfare.

She's a single mom with two children, doesn't get child support from either of the fathers, no disabilities, and recently started community college, bill footed by the state.

She has a cell phone and she has the internet and she goes out drinking and partying several times a week, all paid for by the state.

Is it wrong of me to think this is ludicrous?

I'm not trying to be judgemental but I am also a single mother of two and have always made it on my own with no help from the state.
I have never gotten welfare, I have always worked long hours and sometimes two jobs to make ends meet.

It's awkward when she asks me to go out and party with her.
Part of me doesn't want to go because I don't want to condone her partying on someones tax dollars.
The other part of me says what the hell, you're paying for it anyway.

I give her credit for trying to continue her education but I do not think that she should be getting all of this free from the state.

Are my feelings wrong? What do you think?

Thank you for letting me vent.

So are you.

 

[Jaded]

So are you.

Sorry thats what I meant. I meant I might as well go since I'm paying for it.

 

[janey83]

No, I understand where you're coming from. She shouldn't be spending money on cell phone/internet though, there should be limits on what state money should be spent for -- ie, baby food, groceries, basically helping to support the kids. Does your friend have a job?

 

[mAlice]

No, you're feelings aren't wrong. They're very right. Maybe if she can't find anyone to party with, she'll stay home and tuck her kids in at night, then go study.

 

[AK-74me]

Sounds like a real POS, I'd call her out on it. If she dosen't like it, o well.

 

[Jaded]

No, I understand where you're coming from. She shouldn't be spending money on cell phone/internet though, there should be limits on what state money should be spent for -- ie, baby food, groceries, basically helping to support the kids. Does your friend have a job?

Not anymore.
She quit.

She's talking about getting a part time job now but I don't think she will once she realizes that she'll get kicked off welfare.
She can't work full time though because of school.

 

[Pete]

So are you.

I think she was speaking in 2nd person narrative.

 

[janey83]

Not anymore.
She quit.

She's talking about getting a part time job now but I don't think she will once she realizes that she'll get kicked off welfare.
She can't work full time though because of school.

she could work full time & then take nightclasses. :shrug: do what you have to do.

 

[mAlice]

she could work full time & then take nightclasses. :shrug: do what you have to do.

That's kind of pointless, unless she has family that will watch her kids for free.

 

[Jaded]

she could work full time & then take nightclasses. :shrug: do what you have to do.

But then when would she party?

 

[Pete]

I have a friend in her 30's who quit her job a while back and now gets welfare.

She's a single mom with two children, doesn't get child support from either of the fathers, no disabilities, and recently started community college, bill footed by the state.

She has a cell phone and she has the internet and she goes out drinking and partying several times a week, all paid for by the state.

Is it wrong of me to think this is ludicrous?

I'm not trying to be judgemental but I am also a single mother of two and have always made it on my own with no help from the state.
I have never gotten welfare, I have always worked long hours and sometimes two jobs to make ends meet.

It's awkward when she asks me to go out and party with her.
Part of me doesn't want to go because I don't want to condone her partying on someones tax dollars.
The other part of me says what the hell, you're paying for it anyway.

I give her credit for trying to continue her education but I do not think that she should be getting all of this free from the state.

Are my feelings wrong? What do you think?

Thank you for letting me vent.

Why are you friends with a person like this?

 

[Jaded]

That's kind of pointless, unless she has family that will watch her kids for free.

She has people who watch her kids so she can drink.

 

[mAlice]

She has people who watch her kids so she can drink.

My point is, if she's not with them, she has to pay someone else to watch them, unless family is doing it for free....working to pay for child care.

 

[Jaded]

Why are you friends with a person like this?

We've been friends a long time.
This just happened a few months ago.
I am re-evaluating the friendship at this point.

 

[mAlice]

I am re-evaluating the friendship at this point.

I would, too.

 

[Pete]

We've been friends a long time.
This just happened a few months ago.
I am re-evaluating the friendship at this point.

People change, some for the better, some for the worse. I don't lend the term "friend" to people who's life choices and lifestyle are 180 degrees out from mine. They are free to suck off the teet of an overly generous government, but I don't have to embrace it or condone it by being their "friend".

 

[Flipside]

I have a friend in her 30's who quit her job a while back and now gets welfare.

She's a single mom with two children, doesn't get child support from either of the fathers, no disabilities, and recently started community college, bill footed by the state.

She has a cell phone and she has the internet and she goes out drinking and partying several times a week, all paid for by the state.

Is it wrong of me to think this is ludicrous?

I'm not trying to be judgemental but I am also a single mother of two and have always made it on my own with no help from the state.
I have never gotten welfare, I have always worked long hours and sometimes two jobs to make ends meet.

It's awkward when she asks me to go out and party with her.
Part of me doesn't want to go because I don't want to condone her partying on someones tax dollars.
The other part of me says what the hell, you're paying for it anyway.

I give her credit for trying to continue her education but I do not think that she should be getting all of this free from the state.

Are my feelings wrong? What do you think?

Thank you for letting me vent.

How do you know she isn't turning tricks on the side?
That's not something a woman would share with a judgmental friend.

 

[Jaded]

My point is, if she's not with them, she has to pay someone else to watch them, unless family is doing it for free....working to pay for child care.

She has friends watch her kids.
I don't think she pays them.
She never paid me anyway.

 

[Jaded]

How do you know she isn't turning tricks on the side?
That's not something a woman would share with a judgmental friend.

This is true.
I wouldn't put it past her.