I want to pick this one, too!Wickedwrench said:
My SIL's neighbor is going through a rough time right now. Her husband, after years of stable marriage, nice home and two kids, decided he wanted to get strung out on cocaine. Now, through no fault of her own, she is trying to keep it together on her secretarial pay, deal with the kids' issues, and deal with her own anger and hurt - while the husband sits in jail.
She'll never see a dime out of him, let alone what this is doing to her children. She's lucky in that her parents are terrific and couldn't be any more supportive, plus she has all the neighbor women lending their husbands for yard work, repair stuff, etc.
But this has just been a nightmare for her. And no warning signs - he didn't do drugs before they were married or anything like that. Job pressure got to him and he commenced screwing up his life (and her life, and their kids' lives).
pixiegirl
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I'm not technically married but I may as well be. There's nothing I don't like about it. It's give and take. No I don't care for cleaning the toilet bowl after a man but I'm sure he doesn't like long hair in the bath tub drain. I like having my lawn mowed and he likes having clean sheets. I like having someone there next to me at night who knows me well enough to not get offended or hurt when I roll over to go to sleep because I'm not a cuddler but will make sure he's got a hand on me or a foot intertwined with mine because he likes to at least be touching. Comprimise. 
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The same thing happened to a woman at my old church, but she was the new mother of triplets. When her husband was in jail, she was able to get power of attorney and have the house and everything put in her name alone. Now, a few years later, she's married to another man from the church...a real nice guy, who was also divorced, and had 5 kids of his own (the oldest around my age). Things always turn around.vraiblonde said:I want to pick this one, too!
My SIL's neighbor is going through a rough time right now. Her husband, after years of stable marriage, nice home and two kids, decided he wanted to get strung out on cocaine. Now, through no fault of her own, she is trying to keep it together on her secretarial pay, deal with the kids' issues, and deal with her own anger and hurt - while the husband sits in jail.
She'll never see a dime out of him, let alone what this is doing to her children. She's lucky in that her parents are terrific and couldn't be any more supportive, plus she has all the neighbor women lending their husbands for yard work, repair stuff, etc.
But this has just been a nightmare for her. And no warning signs - he didn't do drugs before they were married or anything like that. Job pressure got to him and he commenced screwing up his life (and her life, and their kids' lives).
It only took me once to figure it out.
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Just confirmed that marriage is hard.
Just confirmed that marriage is hard.
That's what I told the neighbor - better days are coming. It's just getting through the here and now that's going to be tough.Nickel said:
She's certainly going to lose her home because she can't afford to pay the mortgage with her salary. And that's certainly not the end of the world, but it sucks while it's happening. And all because, like WW said, it only takes one person to screw it up for the both of you.
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My main issue is the remote control hogging. If I have to sit through one more Stargate or Battlestar, I will seriously go on strike!
Nickel
curiouser and curiouser
Lord knows I'm learning the lesson now (not marriage related) that what doesn't kill you makes you stronger, and you just have to realize that everything happens for a reason, and she'll get through it.vraiblonde said:That's what I told the neighbor - better days are coming. It's just getting through the here and now that's going to be tough.
She's certainly going to lose her home because she can't afford to pay the mortgage with her salary. And that's certainly not the end of the world, but it sucks while it's happening. And all because, like WW said, it only takes one person to screw it up for the both of you.
pixiegirl
Cleopatra Jones
vraiblonde said:That's what I told the neighbor - better days are coming. It's just getting through the here and now that's going to be tough.
She's certainly going to lose her home because she can't afford to pay the mortgage with her salary. And that's certainly not the end of the world, but it sucks while it's happening. And all because, like WW said, it only takes one person to screw it up for the both of you.
I hate to be crass but there's a lesson to be learned in everything. As we all know my ex was the king POS non-provider. I'm not relating the situations at all but I guess I learned early on not to rely on anyone to support me or my children. If said situation were to happen to me tomorrow and I were to never see a dime from B again I'd be able to support myself and my children where we're at reasonably comforatably. I guess what I'm saying is I hope your neighbor friend learns the lesson that's there from her experience. It's a totally $hitty situation but good can come out of it in the form of making her a stronger person.
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Talk to me in a decade.Nickel said:
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Kain99
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You are a very lucky woman Nick.Nickel said:
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Kain99
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I'l think about it!otter said:Was expecting better out of you...why don't you come back to this thread tonight..
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Are you on your period?pixiegirl said: