What do you HATE about marriage?

[pixiegirl]

Who me?

But it was slightly mean and total b/s hence the .

 

[morganj614]

Yeah, but they aren't really saying what they hate about marriage, so it shouldn't matter. That's like me posting in a fat chick thread. I'm not allowed to converse?

 

[daydreamer]

I hate being made to watch a 5 hour lifetime movie.

Have more then one TV in the house it always a must. Hell, I have 4 in the house. I have to with 3 girls in the house.

 

[daydreamer]

But it was slightly mean and total b/s hence the .

Oh I know.

 

[Nickel]

I believe she's implying "married longer than a couple years"...:shrug: Marriage does have it's phases. You've heard of the "7 year itch" and the "mid-life crisis" years... there is some truth to that, but you'd have to survive a marriage for that many years to know what other folks are talking about.

Yeah, but even if someone has been married for 30 years, they're still only an expert on THEIR marriage, not mine, or anyone else's. Every relationship is different.

 

[vraiblonde]

I guess we can't all be angry old bitties.

But with practice, we can get better at it

 

[harleygirl]

I think what alot of people hate about a marriage is that they do not "feel happy." It took me 15 years in a first marriage that broke up to realize that you should not depend on anyone else for your happiness, it comes from inside yourself.

 

[morganj614]

Yeah, but even if someone has been married for 30 years, they're still only an expert on THEIR marriage, not mine, or anyone else's. Every relationship is different.

I didn't mean in years or anything like that. Even living with someone for so many years is common law marriage. All I meant was the thread question cannot be answered by someone who has never been married or shacked up.

 

[MMDad]

I hate being made to watch a 5 hour lifetime movie.

You could try growing a set. You can't walk out of the room without permission?

 

[kwillia]

Yeah, but even if someone has been married for 30 years, they're still only an expert on THEIR marriage, not mine, or anyone else's. Every relationship is different.

True. All I'm trying to say is that it's perfectly normal for married people to have rough times in their relationship and that if they truly are commited it doesn't have to mean it's the beginning of the end. :shrug: It seems folks go into marriage expecting to always feel like they do the first couple of years and then they think divorce is the only option when they hit a rocky period.

 

[kwillia]

I think what alot of people hate about a marriage is that they do not "feel happy." It took me 15 years in a first marriage that broke up to realize that you should not depend on anyone else for your happiness, it comes from inside yourself.

*DING* DING* *DING*

I completely agree. Figuring this out has definately changed me for the better. As simple as it sounds to read it, you don't know personal freedom until you actually wake up and realize this for yourself.

 

[pixiegirl]

I think what alot of people hate about a marriage is that they do not "feel happy." It took me 15 years in a first marriage that broke up to realize that you should not depend on anyone else for your happiness, it comes from inside yourself.

I think I've finally gotten that point through to the other half as well. With some outside help that I care not go into as well. People look for extrnal validation too much. It may be the Pixie show a lot but I'm very happy and I have no problem persuing my own happiness either or taking responsibility for my unhappiness and making/changing my own fate. This is my only shot at it so I better make it good. We all have amazing amounts of strength within ourselves; we just have to tap into it (got that Nic, I'm sure you already know that but at times like these ). I detest people bringing other people down because they're unhappy.

 

[juggy4805]

I think what alot of people hate about a marriage is that they do not "feel happy." It took me 15 years in a first marriage that broke up to realize that you should not depend on anyone else for your happiness, it comes from inside yourself.

Very true

 

[LexiGirl75]

I didn't mean in years or anything like that. Even living with someone for so many years is common law marriage. All I meant was the thread question cannot be answered by someone who has never been married or shacked up.

She means me, but I can't leave. Morgan, why can't I quit you?

 

[morganj614]

She means me, but I can't leave. Morgan, why can't I quit you?

Why do you think you are the only unmarried person answering the question? :shrug:

 

[LexiGirl75]

Why do you think you are the only unmarried person answering the question? :shrug:

:forumcomplex:

 

[Nickel]

We all have amazing amounts of strength within ourselves; we just have to tap into it (got that Nic, I'm sure you already know that but at times like these ). I detest people bringing other people down because they're unhappy.

 

[Chasey_Lane]

Been there done that. Never again.

I've got a purty ring that say's otherwise.

 

[daydreamer]

I've got a purty ring that say's otherwise.

 

[pixiegirl]

I think I've finally gotten that point through to the other half as well. With some outside help that I care not go into as well. People look for extrnal validation too much. It may be the Pixie show a lot but I'm very happy and I have no problem persuing my own happiness either or taking responsibility for my unhappiness and making/changing my own fate. This is my only shot at it so I better make it good. We all have amazing amounts of strength within ourselves; we just have to tap into it (got that Nic, I'm sure you already know that but at times like these ). I detest people bringing other people down because they're unhappy.

The two unsigned reds... Since we both know who it's from.... Please read the above because these days you need this message more then anyone I know.