What to do...

[tyky]

Yesterday my son 6 y/o got off the bus and said he got in trouble because he hit another boy in the face and the other boy hit him in the face, he said they were play fighting. I told him not to "play Fight" anymore. He said ok and that was the end of the discussion.

So just a few minutes ago the school principal calls and tells me he got a bus referral for hitting another student in the face. She goes on to tell me he and they other boy both said that they were play fighting and that she had already had them in the office and talked to them. She asked if I could just reinforce this at home. Of course I will but should I punish him. Afterall he did tell me and they were play fighting but should I punish him for it?

 

[sanchezf]

I would say that if you didn't punish him yesterday for telling you the truth, why would you do it today.

Just reinforce that it will not be tolerated in the future if it happens again he will be punished..

 

[Softballkid]

First off, why weren't you notified the first time?

I would bring that up to him, and depending on those answers, I would decide whether to punish or hold off to see if it happens again...

 

[tyky]

First off, why weren't you notified the first time?

I would bring that up to him, and depending on those answers, I would decide whether to punish or hold off to see if it happens again...

I was it happened yesterday afternoon and the school called this morning...sorry if it seemed confusing

 

[Mojo]

Yesterday my son 6 y/o got off the bus and said he got in trouble because he hit another boy in the face and the other boy hit him in the face, he said they were play fighting. I told him not to "play Fight" anymore. He said ok and that was the end of the discussion.

So just a few minutes ago the school principal calls and tells me he got a bus referral for hitting another student in the face. She goes on to tell me he and they other boy both said that they were play fighting and that she had already had them in the office and talked to them. She asked if I could just reinforce this at home. Of course I will but should I punish him. Afterall he did tell me and they were play fighting but should I punish him for it?

I don't think I would punish him this time. Just let him know that if it happens again, you're going to bust his ass.

 

[RaspberryBeret]

You've already told him that the "play fighting" is inappropriate. No need to punish just let him know the school called and that they think it's inappropriate as well. He should know that if it happens again he could kicked off the bus or out of school and that wouldn't make mom and dad too happy.

 

[tyky]

I would say that if you didn't punish him yesterday for telling you the truth, why would you do it today.

Just reinforce that it will not be tolerated in the future if it happens again he will be punished..

I don't think I would punish him this time. Just let him know that if it happens again, you're going to bust his ass.

You've already told him that the "play fighting" is inappropriate. No need to punish just let him know the school called and that they think it's inappropriate as well. He should know that if it happens again he could kicked off the bus or out of school and that wouldn't make mom and dad too happy.

Ok, I thought I should just talk to him again about it and let him know that the school called and warn him if it happens again that he will be punished

Thanks All

 

[RareBreed]

A few months ago, my son got a referrel for being loud on the bus. The driver never said a word to him but during school, he got called down to the principal's office and was given the referrel for me to sign. Later that day, when he got off the bus, he had tears in his eyes and was so upset about it. I told him to not let it happen again and if people around him start causing trouble to not join in. I think the shock of getting the referrel stopped any bad behavior that he might have engaged in the future. He has a need to be perfect and this blemished his reputation (in his own mind).

I think you handled it right. He told you the truth yesterday and you told him to not do that again or there will be consequences.

 

[sanchezf]

Ok, I thought I should just talk to him again about it and let him know that the school called and warn him if it happens again that he will be punished

Thanks All

Also let him know not only will he be punished at school but at home as well..

 

[Chasey_Lane]

I wouldn't punish him. He's such a sweet boy. Let him know it is a distraction to the bus driver and that his safety is important. He can play fight all he wants after school, but not during or on the bus.

 

[kvj21075]

get that kid a candy bar and a box of cereal! he was honest and didnt hide it from you

 

[tyky]

A few months ago, my son got a referrel for being loud on the bus. The driver never said a word to him but during school, he got called down to the principal's office and was given the referrel for me to sign. Later that day, when he got off the bus, he had tears in his eyes and was so upset about it. I told him to not let it happen again and if people around him start causing trouble to not join in. I think the shock of getting the referrel stopped any bad behavior that he might have engaged in the future. He has a need to be perfect and this blemished his reputation (in his own mind).

I think you handled it right. He told you the truth yesterday and you told him to not do that again or there will be consequences.

Thanks, I really try to encourage him to tell the truth, I always tell him he will get in more trouble if he lies. So as soon as he gets off the bus he tells me if he did anything wrong that day before I open his school binder and see what color he got for the day...
He is a great kid but does get carried away easily

 

[tyky]

get that kid a candy bar and a box of cereal! he was honest and didnt hide it from you

I would but I think you have bought all the Count Chocula in the county

 

[kvj21075]

I would but I think you have bought all the Count Chocula in the county

i hope so! mine mine mine!

people will start having to refer to me as me, me, me, i, i, i, mine, mine, mine

 

[clevalley]

You've already told him that the "play fighting" is inappropriate. No need to punish just let him know the school called and that they think it's inappropriate as well. He should know that if it happens again he could kicked off the bus or out of school and that wouldn't make mom and dad too happy.

Spot on! Exactly what I was thinking.

 

[LusbyMom]

You've already told him that the "play fighting" is inappropriate. No need to punish just let him know the school called and that they think it's inappropriate as well. He should know that if it happens again he could kicked off the bus or out of school and that wouldn't make mom and dad too happy.

I once got in trouble for doing the same thing as a kid with my bff. We both got suspended off the bus for 3 days. My mom drove us to school and his mom picked us up

 

[LusbyMom]

Thanks, I really try to encourage him to tell the truth, I always tell him he will get in more trouble if he lies. So as soon as he gets off the bus he tells me if he did anything wrong that day before I open his school binder and see what color he got for the day...
He is a great kid but does get carried away easily

FYI that won't last forever

 

[tyky]

FYI that won't last forever

yea, I figured that

 

[Dye Tied]

Take away his cell phone!

 

[JULZ]

Take away his cell phone!

You're a mess!