what would you do?

[lovinmaryland]

The reasoning behind that is if the baby is strong enough roll himself over onto his tummy, he can roll himself over onto his back if he's having difficulty breathing.

I'm guessing because if the baby can roll over by itself, it will roll over if it starts to smother. :shrug: Just a guess. :shrug:

Not always... that is normally what a baby learns to do first... roll from back to tummy, it takes quite a bit longer for them to be able to roll back over... at least w/ my 4 that is what happend :shrug:

 

[StrawberryGal]

Good Lawd!

One day, you're a horrible mother if you lay your kid on his tummy. The next day, you're a horrible mother if you lay your kid on his back. "Rules" change all of the time. These experts come up with new policy and guidelines every day of the week.

If a baby is content on his tummy, and there are no soft articles (blankets, toys, stuffed animals, etc.) to get in the way of his breathing, then just leave him be.

You'll drive yourself crazy if you try to follow every single rule put out to the public.

EEEHHHH! You're reading too much into my post. Here's a kicker: I couldn't keep first baby who was a newborn on his back either, but I left him to be because he liked to be on his stomach.

However, they recommended letting the baby sleep on back because of SIDS risks. It lower the risks when sleeping on the back. Once the baby can roll over by himself/herself, there is no need to put the baby on the back.

I agree that keep the stuffed animals, toys, or blankets out of the crib.

 

[MissMissy]

I would put the baby on his back. Let the MIL see you do this maybe she'll get the message. If she doesn't tell her, thats better than something happening to your baby.

 

[CableChick]

I :heart: you BG!

All 3 of my kids were/are tummy sleepers...

But .. I have only 2, not 3.

 

[lovinmaryland]

But .. I have only 2, not 3.

Well you better get hopin then girl

 

[morningbell]

My daughter trust me enough to let me take my grandson to church with us twice now. It would break my heart if she talked to me like that or even thought I would do something to hurt my grandson. I love him as if I had given birth to him myself. But I am concerned about who will be taking care of him when she returns to work. I believe it will be his other Grandmother that is not working right now and I am OK with that.

It would break my heart and MIL's if something happened to my child under her watch that could have been prevented. Once my mom lit up a cigarette while my son was upstairs, I told her to go outside and that there was no smoking in any house with my baby.

If you're concerned about infant safety and SIDS you'll either do research or ask mom what is best.

Hope other G'Ma is up on her infant CPR and has a Dr. Sears infant care book on hand.

 

[DanceMom]

When my MIL tried to get into my baby business, I reminded her that things have changed and that I will do things MY WAY - and I will do things that are RECOMMENDED by the CURRENT Medical community. I often tell her to mind her business....of course she gets pissed - I don't care, my child, my rules.

 

[deemerma]

If you are putting your child in group care and are going back to work, you could tell MIL that you want baby placed on his/her back b/c that is how they are required to place baby and you want him/her to get used to that and be able to sleep. That could spark the discussion into, "Really? Why is that?"

 

[itsbob]

When my grandson was born ( 10 weeks old now ) they told my daughter in the hospital NOT to put him down to sleep on his tummy. I was there when they told her that, they even showed her how she could lay him on his side with his head raise up if he was not happy sleeping on his back. I would ask your baby doctor, do not take a chance with your child.

And 10 years ago they said the total opposite, and ten years from now, they'll probably change their minds again.

 

[itsbob]

When my MIL tried to get into my baby business, I reminded her that things have changed and that I will do things MY WAY - and I will do things that are RECOMMENDED by the CURRENT Medical community. I often tell her to mind her business....of course she gets pissed - I don't care, my child, my rules.

Do you talk to, and treat your own mother like that, or do you save the special treats just for HIS mom?

 

[Wenchy]

The proverbial can of worms.

I agree with so many here. No sooner than the recommended guidelines are implemented by worried parents and then BOOM... the guidelines are reversed.

With my first she HAD to be on her tummy, and with my second he HAD to be on his back. I improvised and he slept in his car seat (upright) for the first three months or so. He preferred his tummy after he got out of his car seat and remained that way.

Bottom line: My child, and it will be done my way. MIL and my own mother knew this and went along with my wishes if they wanted to spend time with their precious grandchildren.

 

[deemerma]

Do you talk to, and treat your own mother like that, or do you save the special treats just for HIS mom?

why so hostile and confrontational with her? I'd biatch-slap myself if I talked to the woman that created my husband that way, jmo.

(and by no means do I love the woman, okay)

 

[unixpirate]

grammy (MIL) put 6week old down for a nap on his tummy. would you go in and roll him over or leave him be?

Grand Dad here! Not sure why Grammy would put an (infant) :shrug: on it's tummy. I have my most beautiful Grandson Wednesday - Friday. He's 5 weeks old. I never put him on his tummy. He will roll over on his own
When he wakes up and fed, I put him on his side. Just in case Btw when I have him he sleeps with me so I hear all the girggles and coughs. "god please let grandpa sleep"!

 

[nicole_M]

Do you talk to, and treat your own mother like that, or do you save the special treats just for HIS mom?

I like to think that, as a mother of 5, my mother knows a little more than I. I go to her for advice, she is the woman I look up to... My children are still very young.

My mother has went against my wishes at times, like feeding my son mashed potatoes at 10 months, which I thought was SOOO wrong... In the long run, what difference did it make? None at all. She knew what she was doing and she would do nothing to jeopardize my children's lives.

I trust her 100% and I know that she will not always follow my rules... And that is fine with me. Grandma's are just that way, sometimes, I think.

I feel the same about my MIL... Her boys are 30 and 32 so she has been there, done that.

 

[Sonsie]

I had to have a little talk with my MIL about back sleeping but I kept it civil and she was cool with it. She is 72 and not up on the latest trends in baby care. I also learned how to do a tight swaddle from her and never had a problem with my newborns sleeping after that.
The only time I lost my temper with her was later when I caught her watering down my 6 month old daughters formula because she didn't think "she needed all that milk". It turned out she thought the baby was chubby enough and cutting her formula with water actually seemed reasonable to her.

 

[redhotmomma]

It's your child. If you feel that someone is doing something that you don't like then tell them. I went through it with my mom and MIL. I couldn't stand that. I always put my kids on their backs. My Moms a nurse she she know better! Don't be mean about it. Just talk to her about it.

 

[redneck_woman]

Both of my boys where belly babies and they are 12 and 7 now. I believe if you lay a baby on their belly and have the crib matress on a 45 degree angle they should be fine. I don't like laying flat, so I didn't lay my kids flat. Plus I have seen to many babies that lay on the backs all the time, their backs of their heads are really flat. If a baby is comfortable laying on their back, let them be.

 

[poster]

When my MIL tried to get into my baby business, I reminded her that things have changed and that I will do things MY WAY - and I will do things that are RECOMMENDED by the CURRENT Medical community. I often tell her to mind her business....of course she gets pissed - I don't care, my child, my rules.

Good for you.
My husband and I say; "I can live with you being mad, you'll get over it. But I can't live with myself if something bad happens, so....." they back down every time.

 

[LordStanley]

SIDS is the sudden death of an infant under one year of age which remains unexplained after a thorough case investigation, including performance of a complete autopsy, examination of the death scene, and review of the clinical history.

By definition, the doctors admit they dont have a clue as to why infants suddenly die. So lets give it a fancy name and instil fear in the general public.

::: American Sudden Infant Death Syndrome Institute :::

The medical community has no answer, so lets give parents a whole list of things we think "could" cause SIDS.

Its more than just putting a child on its back. (which I think is a crock) I was a belly baby, my wife was, my mother was, her mother was, my dad was..... OUR SON was... We tried to get him to sleep on his back for weeks after we brought him home. He never slept. He would fall asleep in our arms, we would lay him on his back, he would wake up. As soon I we said eff this and lets put him on his belly, he was out like a light!!!

So now the doctors are saying that not breastfeeding will increase the chances of SIDS... ARE YOU KIDDING ME?!?!?!?!?

What if the mother cant breastfeed? Is she now a bad parent that will get her baby killed??? Come on people, wake up!!!

Any time you read "Some studies have shown", its time to make your own judgement call and raise your child the way you want to. Or just go ahead and listen to the government. Cause we all know, they know how to raise our children better than we do.

 

[BadGirl]

By definition, the doctors admit they dont have a clue as to why infants suddenly die. So lets give it a fancy name and instil fear in the general public.

::: American Sudden Infant Death Syndrome Institute :::

The medical community has no answer, so lets give parents a whole list of things we think "could" cause SIDS.

Its more than just putting a child on its back. (which I think is a crock) I was a belly baby, my wife was, my mother was, her mother was, my dad was..... OUR SON was... We tried to get him to sleep on his back for weeks after we brought him home. He never slept. He would fall asleep in our arms, we would lay him on his back, he would wake up. As soon I we said eff this and lets put him on his belly, he was out like a light!!!

So now the doctors are saying that not breastfeeding will increase the chances of SIDS... ARE YOU KIDDING ME?!?!?!?!?

What if the mother cant breastfeed? Is she now a bad parent that will get her baby killed??? Come on people, wake up!!!

Any time you read "Some studies have shown", its time to make your own judgement call and raise your child the way you want to. Or just go ahead and listen to the government. Cause we all know, they know how to raise our children better than we do.

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