What if it was polygamy and you liked the other wife?
Keep her, dump him.
Although no woman in her right mind would want to co-wife with me.
What if it was polygamy and you liked the other wife?
Keep her, dump him.
Although no woman in her right mind would want to co-wife with me.
This is inspired by mAlice's thread, but not specifically about her or her situation so don't read too much into it - I don't know anything about her personal life. It just made me interested in the dynamic of change in a marriage.
Say you've been married for a long time - 20+ years - and suddenly your spouse undergoes a major life change. Embraces a new religion; wants to have a child to fill the empty nest; quits their job to roam the earth; takes up smoking or doing drugs; becomes a vegan hippie; whatever. What change would be a deal breaker for you? As in, what life change could your spouse make that would cause you to reassess the marriage?
Cant think of anything. We've been together for 23 years this December, however, only married for 2. If his ass started cheating at this point, more power to him and the one he's cheating with, she's gonna need a lot of patience. If he started doing drugs, I can only think it was advised by a Dr. besides that, I smoke cigarettes, he bitches about it but doesn't really do anything. He does like his beer on the weekends but for the most part is a happy guy and he is fun to be around, makes me laugh. Hell...I think even if he got a sex change, I'd still hang out with him cause he is fun. Nope, cant think of a thing that would make me leave.
Say you've been married less than that and your spouse gets diagnosed with some life altering disease. I'm presuming that's a major life change. Do you dump them then?
I think my second wife ran off when she started suspecting I was a lesbian.
Practicing or just tendencies?
I suspect she knew it was only a matter of time before I was out of the closet all the way.
I actually planned for my life change the very day i got married...20 yrs married then file for divorce.
Bitch beat me to it. Now i will never forgive her for destoying the family.
And remind the kids to blame mommy for any failure they may experience in life
If you intend on making a life change, be prepared for the fallout you inevitably will create
Maybe she didn't destroy your family. Divorce is not the worst thing for every relationship and sometimes it is for the best.
Instead of holding a grudge (not good for you), release the bad energy and move on. You'll appreciate your life more.
I guess my take is different - surprise surprise. When I choose a mate, he is chosen, not just grabbed off the street. If I wanted a Scientologist, or a polygamist, or a drug addict, or a homebody, or a gay man I'd have gotten one in the first place. So if my partner made a major life change that didn't coincide with what is best for me, I'd wish him well and we'd have to go our separate ways. I'd think he'd want that as well, considering any major change that had any impact on me would make me less attractive to him and less interested in continuing our marriage.
If my husband decides he's gay, or he embraces a religious cult, he is no longer going to be interested in me as a spouse. He will want to move on to his new life, and I would encourage that so that I can move on with my life.
Him getting sick is different because he didn't choose that; a major lifestyle change, however, was specifically his choice and means that he no longer wants the life we had together.