When did parenting change like this?

[Beth_kennedy]

When in the heck did parenting take a change in this direction?

My daughter has a friend who thinks it is all right for her minor daughter to be out all night, doesn’t even have to know where she is because they have an "agreement" that the daughter would not drink. Which from what I have seen she does not even uphold that.

On top of that, she does not care if her minor daughter is sleeping with a 20 year old man.

Am I that old fashioned to think that this is not the direction I want my daughters to go? The battles I have gone through in the last month or so are all based on how everyones parents let them do this and that some of the parents even sponsor house parties where the kids can come drink and smoke (fill in the blank).

Am I that strict a parent to want to know where they are, who they are with and give them a curfew in this day of age?

 

[StrawberryGal]

When in the heck did parenting take a change in this direction?

My daughter has a friend who thinks it is all right for her minor daughter to be out all night, doesn’t even have to know where she is because they have an "agreement" that the daughter would not drink. Which from what I have seen she does not even uphold that.

On top of that, she does not care if her minor daughter is sleeping with a 20 year old man.

Am I that old fashioned to think that this is not the direction I want my daughters to go? The battles I have gone through in the last month or so are all based on how everyones parents let them do this and that some of the parents even sponsor house parties where the kids can come drink and smoke (fill in the blank).

Am I that strict a parent to want to know where they are, who they are with and give them a curfew in this day of age?

No, you are not "old fashioned". It shows that you care about your children and wants them to stay out of trouble.

Parents who let their kids drinks, sex, drugs, lack of curfews have more problems on their hands than parents who are "strict" with "rules".

 

[Beth_kennedy]

No, you are not "old fashioned". It shows that you care about your children and wants them to stay out of trouble.

Parents who let their kids drinks, sex, drugs, lack of curfews have more problems on their hands than parents who are "strict" with "rules".

Thanks... I really was starting to think I was "behind" the times. The mother of one parent argued, she would rather them drink at her house then some where else. But I asked, do you really think they are only going to drink at your house? What about the kids you have over with yours, don't you feel the parents feel the same?

 

[StrawberryGal]

Thanks... I really was starting to think I was "behind" the times. The mother of one parent argued, she would rather them drink at her house then some where else. But I asked, do you really think they are only going to drink at your house? What about the kids you have over with yours, don't you feel the parents feel the same?

You're welcome and no, you are not behind the times. My parents did same thing with me. I've never been to any of my high school friends' parties because my parents told me "No, because there are drugs, beers, sex, etc." I was upset, but got over it. Your kids will get over it as well and thanked you for looking out for them when they gets older.

 

[Beth_kennedy]

You're welcome and no, you are not behind the times. My parents did same thing with me. I've never been to any of my high school friends' parties because my parents told me "No, because there are drugs, beers, sex, etc." I was upset, but got over it. Your kids will get over it as well and thanked you for looking out for them when they gets older.

I can only hope.

 

[unixpirate]

When in the heck did parenting take a change in this direction?

My daughter has a friend who thinks it is all right for her minor daughter to be out all night, doesn’t even have to know where she is because they have an "agreement" that the daughter would not drink. Which from what I have seen she does not even uphold that.

On top of that, she does not care if her minor daughter is sleeping with a 20 year old man.

Am I that old fashioned to think that this is not the direction I want my daughters to go? The battles I have gone through in the last month or so are all based on how everyones parents let them do this and that some of the parents even sponsor house parties where the kids can come drink and smoke (fill in the blank).

Am I that strict a parent to want to know where they are, who they are with and give them a curfew in this day of age?

I thought all the trailer parks were gone

 

[Beth_kennedy]

I thought all the trailer parks were gone

You would be surprised the homes these parents live in, some in Breton Bay and Wildewood.

 

[lbreder]

Kids are doing what ever they want because there parents are allowing it to happen. The kids are ruling over the parents for fear the kids wont love them. I have two boys and I'd be damned if they tried to pull something and think they would get away with it. Your kids are what you make them!

 

[bresamil]

Your friend is not parenting. She is trying to be a pal. Some people are too lazy to parent properly.

 

[Mousebaby]

No you are definitely not old fashioned. If my daughter even thought about trying some of the crap you described her butt would be mine and she's knows it. I make sure that my kids know that the reason that I am the way I am is because I love them and there is NO WAY I am going to allow them to throw their lives away like that. For the most part me and my husband and my kids get along and have a great time when we go out together. I don't know of many family's that can sit at the dinner table and laugh so hard together that they have tears rolling down their faces. We do this almost nightly. Our family is good together and I hope it stays that way.

 

[Beth_kennedy]

It is so good to hear from all of you. I put my foot in their ass. Of course I had to hear what a bad mother I was but oh well...

This is the first time I have heard it from other parents that they support their teens partying like that. I dont care how old they are as long as they are under our roof they have a curfew and no drinking until they are legally olde enough.... I catch them my toes will be wiggling out of their noses you can bank on that.

 

[Mousebaby]

It is so good to hear from all of you. I put my foot in their ass. Of course I had to hear what a bad mother I was but oh well...

This is the first time I have heard it from other parents that they support their teens partying like that. I dont care how old they are as long as they are under our roof they have a curfew and no drinking until they are legally olde enough.... I catch them my toes will be wiggling out of their noses you can bank on that.

Good on ya! By the way you just made me LOL!

 

[Beth_kennedy]

Good on ya! By the way you just made me LOL!

I guess it pissed me off to hear the other parents come down on me like that. Then to have my kids try it afterall this time. I was really thinking, I may have been wrong and living in the brandy bunch fantasy

 

[Mousebaby]

I guess it pissed me off to hear the other parents come down on me like that. Then to have my kids try it afterall this time. I was really thinking, I may have been wrong and living in the brandy bunch fantasy

I think when we are young parents we all go through the Brady Bunch fantasy. When they become young adults we get slapped in the face with reality and believe you me, it scares the he!! out of me. But I stick to my guns and even though my 15 yr. old towers over me, he knows not to cross me. He still shows me respect because I demand it. But he also knows, if he needs me he has me. That's what I hope I am doing right so far. I pray that is!

 

[CalvertNewbie]

It is so good to hear from all of you. I put my foot in their ass. Of course I had to hear what a bad mother I was but oh well...

This is the first time I have heard it from other parents that they support their teens partying like that. I dont care how old they are as long as they are under our roof they have a curfew and no drinking until they are legally olde enough.... I catch them my toes will be wiggling out of their noses you can bank on that.

I wonder how these "parents" will feel when one of their teenager's friends leaves their house drunk and kills themself or worse yet, an innocent party on the road? I bet they won't feel like great parents when they're being sued/jailed for allowing underage drinking in their home that resulted in the loss of life. I'd say you're acting like a responsible parent and those other "parents" are acting like friends instead of parents.

 

[Beth_kennedy]

aint nuthin that good old hickory switch cain`t cure they call your bluff you blister that azz

I remember a kid on our street had their parents do that. He called CPS.

From what the father said, it was a joke dealing with CPS. He told them if they did not like the way he was raising his kids take them.

They still have the kids.

 

[Beth_kennedy]

offspring learn by example, they respect you if you are a parent not a buddy, or just complacent to the fact they are trying to be young adults. bottom line u can`t be boss and buddy as parent it don`t work. many young parents forget what was fun is a responsibility period

That is true, all I ever heard was how cool so and so's mom and dad were and how their friends think I am weird because I wanted to know where they were at all times and made them check in. It breaks your heart as a parent.

I wonder how these "parents" will feel when one of their teenager's friends leaves their house drunk and kills themself or worse yet, an innocent party on the road? I bet they won't feel like great parents when they're being sued/jailed for allowing underage drinking in their home that resulted in the loss of life. I'd say you're acting like a responsible parent and those other "parents" are acting like friends instead of parents.

I doubt it, these type of people have a way of blaming everyone around them but themselves.

 

[baileydog]

hang in there and stay strong. Be a parent not a friend. Good luck, you sound like youre doing good so far.

 

[Beth_kennedy]

hang in there and stay strong. Be a parent not a friend. Good luck, you sound like youre doing good so far.

 

[baileydog]

When I was just 13 I got invited by a boy to go to a new years eve party. I begged my dad and he said NO, not only NO but HELL NO. And that was that. Of course I NEVER got to do anything fun cause my parents were so mean. But you know what, when I grew up, I still loved them. Isnt that strange how that happens in life.