Why is it...

[pelers]

So, by making an official request, moms are also saying "OK, if you choose to accept this assignment, it means no sharp objects, no pointy things, no treating the 2 year old like he's 20, no black smith work, no shoe-ing horses, no butchering, no tree climbing. Go get a few beers, your fishing rod and take him along. That way, when you fall asleep, there's a good chance he won't lose any limbs and you might even wake up before he drowns...I'll be back in 17 1/2 minutes. OK?"

Evolution.

... this sums things up disturbingly well. Huh.

 

[Cheeky1]

when a dad is left alone with the kids the mom tends to consider it babysitting and thanks him... It was like that in my household when mine were young too. It was always assumed I would be with them and if I wanted to make other plans it was always me that had to ASK my husband if he could stay with them or I'd have to line up someone else... mine are both young adults now but this has been bugging me since reading a firend's facebook entry where she literally thanked her husband for babysitting the kids so she could go run... why couldn't she just hit the door running and not look back if he was already home? Why did she have to "line him up as a babysitter"?


DISCLAIMER: This question is meant specifically for two-parent households.

To start, is there anyone here who doesn't have a problem with what kwillia described above?

 

[kwillia]

I'm pretty sure she was just being a jokester.

A) I didn't mention any names and B) All joking aside it's still a valid question...

 

[Toxick]

when a dad is left alone with the kids the mom tends to consider it babysitting and thanks him...

Positive reinforcement.


You thank someone for doing good things. Even if they're supposed to do them, it's a polite gesture that expresses gratitude and encourages a positive environment for the next time.


That's why I politely say thank you after every hummer.





Also, this:

 

[kwillia]

Also, this:

 

[vraiblonde]

I'm pretty sure she was just being a jokester.

aHA! So it was you!

 

[Larry Gude]

... this sums things up disturbingly well. Huh.

It's not me. It's reality, eons of it, speaking.

I have merely been sent here to observe and report on the obvious...

 

[Lurk]

Bubba has been been self sufficient since he turned three.

We only hear from him when he's bleeding or hungry..

We hope he finds a job this year.

Today was abnormal because he locked himself out while foraging outside for food and eggs, he had to bother me to let him in.. how thoughtless.

We always left a key under a specific rock next to the porch for occasions such as this.

 

[Vince]

I wash and wax my vehicle, cut the grass, and do a lot of my own home repairs.

I also clean the house, grocery shop and raise my own kids.

and I also know you are being silly, because you are a single dad and I'm sure you wash as many clothes and dishes as I do while doing all the manly things as well. That's why we are super heros.

The good news is, we don't have to clean up after another adult that should know not the throw their dirty drawers in the floor.

Never. But my daughter takes after her mother in the care of her car. It's probably never seen washing much less wax. To sit in the car passenger side, you have to move junk from the seat and floor. I tried to teach her car care, but that's one way she will always take after her mother. She does keep a clean house and for the most part she takes after me.

 

[MJ]

aHA! So it was you!

Like I would go for a run!

 

[K_Jo]

when a dad is left alone with the kids the mom tends to consider it babysitting and thanks him... It was like that in my household when mine were young too. It was always assumed I would be with them and if I wanted to make other plans it was always me that had to ASK my husband if he could stay with them or I'd have to line up someone else... mine are both young adults now but this has been bugging me since reading a firend's facebook entry where she literally thanked her husband for babysitting the kids so she could go run... why couldn't she just hit the door running and not look back if he was already home? Why did she have to "line him up as a babysitter"?


DISCLAIMER: This question is meant specifically for two-parent households.

Perhaps "babysitting the kids" is a running joke in the family because it's such a stupid thing to say.

 

[Misfit]

If I came home and the old ball and chain were changing the oil I would say thank you.

Or kick out the jack.

 

[kwillia]

Perhaps "babysitting the kids" is a running joke in the family because it's such a stupid thing to say.

Yeah, but no matter what we call it the concept is still the same, heck, most times we be sure to stock the fridge and order in pizza so they'll have somethign to snack on and won't have to cook dinner just like we'd do for anyone else we have in to watch the kids...

It's not a "one family" observation... it's a general obversation based on tons of families I've seen over the decades.

 

[daylily]

Because of the historical fact that when dads get left with the kids bad things tend to happen. So, moms being moms and having paid the price of being pregnant and bearing the little darlings, tended to become possessive of them and didn't want them to die or be maimed under the 'watchful' eye of a dad who would tend to get out the power tools, guns, climb up on the barn, work the herd and bring the kids along, send them on errands, give them something to do with the guns and tools or, often, simply forget where they were.

So, by making an official request, moms are also saying "OK, if you choose to accept this assignment, it means no sharp objects, no pointy things, no treating the 2 year old like he's 20, no black smith work, no shoe-ing horses, no butchering, no tree climbing. Go get a few beers, your fishing rod and take him along. That way, when you fall asleep, there's a good chance he won't lose any limbs and you might even wake up before he drowns...I'll be back in 17 1/2 minutes. OK?"

Evolution.

Yeah, that sounds about right!

Bubba has been been self sufficient since he turned three.

We only hear from him when he's bleeding or hungry..

We hope he finds a job this year.

Today was abnormal because he locked himself out while foraging outside for food and eggs, he had to bother me to let him in.. how thoughtless.

Is he good at weeding & pruning? I can use some help in the gardens!

Yeah, but no matter what we call it the concept is still the same, heck, most times we be sure to stock the fridge and order in pizza so they'll have somethign to snack on and won't have to cook dinner just like we'd do for anyone else we have in to watch the kids...

It's not a "one family" observation... it's a general obversation based on tons of families I've seen over the decades.

Ya know....I never even realized that I do that. GUILTY!