People will literally try to make you feel bad about helping your GROWN kids but How do u as a parent sit back and watch your child struggle??I don't care how old mine gets I will always be THAT parent! Short on your light bill??.... Mama got that!! Car broke down??.... Come get mine til' we get yours fixed!……You get in some trouble, even though I may not condone in it, Momma is coming…….you need a place to stay, let me get this room right till u get on your feet! I will not leave my child out here 2 be homeless, hooked on drugs or killed because the struggle was 2 hard 4 them! At some point we grow up (hopefully) especially when we know we are all they got! If somebody says my child was sleeping on a floor trust me it's cause they didn't wanna sleep in a bed!!....& If mama ain't got it, trust me, she gonna go out there & get it (even if it takes her a minute)... my children will always be mine, even when if we as parents feel forgotten at times. I will always be there however I can
*Copy & Paste if you are that parent too!*
**I AM THAT PARENT!!! My children will always have me as long as I'm breathing
This was on a friend's wall and I refrained from comment - see me being all adulty and just scrolling right on by?
See, I am and was not "that parent". I was the parent who was acutely aware I was raising future adults, not children. The handful of times I was "that parent" it bit me in the ass hard. I wanted to be "that parent" - the indulgent "Mommy fix" who swooped in and came to the rescue, but that never - not one time - worked out well for me. It just created monsters. Like overnight. As in all these years of teaching self-reliance came apart at the seams over one act of "Mommy fix".
When they're little kids and even teenagers, sure - you step in and parent/teach them. But 30 year olds still living "at home" and needing someone to pay their bills....uh, hard no. I left home at 18 and my parents haven't supported me financially or otherwise since. And I know a zillion others who are same, so it's not like it's impossible.
I think there's a pathology with parents who need to be constantly coddling their adult offspring. They don't want that kid to grow up and be independent, because then what's the parent going to do for self-esteem? They need to be needed, even if it does their kid no favors.
I'm interested in hearing from "that parent". Give me a different take.