Yet another online dating observation

[vraiblonde]

A feller's gotta start somewhere. May as well be with your true dreams.

"Nice to meet you! Hey, uh, you mind if I call you 'mom'. I just wanna see if it fits...hey! Where y'ah goin'???"

I thought his honesty was refreshing.

 

[BadGirl]

One guy actually told me straight out that what he really wants is some insta-wife to show up, make dinner and throw in a load of laundry.

Hell, I want this, too.

 

[belvak]

So instead of getting out there and having fun, they're waiting for some woman to come along and yank them off the couch. And I can tell you from experience, yanking a guy off a couch is a futile endeavor. If they wanted to be off that couch, they would do it without my assistance.

My conclusion, unless something dramatic happens in the next few weeks, is that meeting people the old-fashioned way - through friends, at bars, through activities, etc - is still much more effective than online dating.

Heard an ad on the radio this morning for "Events and Adventures - An Activities Club for Singles." Not a dating service. If I were single, this sounds more like what I would look into rather than the online meat market dating type of stuff.

 

[mv_princess]

Heard an ad on the radio this morning for "Events and Adventures - An Activities Club for Singles." Not a dating service. If I were single, this sounds more like what I would look into rather than the online meat market dating type of stuff.

I have looked into those, what a scam they are!!

You first need to go in for an "interview" so they can see if you are the "right" fit for there adventures (meaning if you are pretty enough). Then if you pass that they will lay out the rules and how you need to pay. You will first pay their fees and processing, then for each event you might want to attend you will pay again for that event.

Yeah it's a good idea, just not really one

 

[DEEKAYPEE8569]

we dated from 2000 - 2005 married in 2005 and still married today



Richard

It's almost time for paper; or whatever the 10 year anniversary is.

 

[belvak]

I have looked into those, what a scam they are!!

You first need to go in for an "interview" so they can see if you are the "right" fit for there adventures (meaning if you are pretty enough). Then if you pass that they will lay out the rules and how you need to pay. You will first pay their fees and processing, then for each event you might want to attend you will pay again for that event.

Yeah it's a good idea, just not really one

Well that sucks! One more reason I'm glad I'm happily married! We'll be celebrating our 31st in just a few days.

 

[mv_princess]

Well that sucks! One more reason I'm glad I'm happily married! We'll be celebrating our 31st in just a few days.

Yeah you know I don't feel bad for myself anymore... I feel bad for people like my dad that now after 33 years finds himself entering the dating world Poor guy....

 

[SamSpade]

And if Don Juan de Keyboard were actually into hiking, scuba, wine tastings, going to the movies, festivals and classic car rallies, he'd be meeting women all the time. Who already did stuff he enjoyed.

With one important proviso I'd add, because it's in part of what you said -

You're gonna have to pick an activity that more than a few of the opposite sex are interested in. You're not going to meet men in scrapbooking class, and you're not going to meet women at fantasy football drafts. At least, not many.

And frankly, this IS where I defend the idea of online dating - I don't WANT to do some thing other than what I *am* interested in, just on the off-chance there'll be some woman there to meet. I'm perfectly fine being married to a woman who like girly things that I would NEVER have met her had I done otherwise. If I like something like classic cars or weekend football outings - I don't think I want to be married to someone who is just like ME in that regard.

I always wanted to meet someone NOT like me. And meeting someone doing activities I enjoy isn't going to do that. I like doing things with my wife, but I like the fact that she's her own person and has her own likes which don't align with mine. I prefer it that way. To me, having a partner who's in to all the stuff you're into is like going to work with them every day - you never get the time off.