I haven't read all of your posts, but will say that Southern MD consists of the "Good Ol' Boys Club" when it comes to Fed. Jobs (civil service)- but they aren't all boys...
Many base employees have lived in Somd their entire lives and you won't find a position until someone retires or dies...(sad to say.)
Some of the programs that aren't in the spotlight are run by somd natives...
After 3 years of looking, I took a job in DC, and I am much happier. Commuting might be a problem from St Mary's County, but I rented a commuting apt in the area. Might be worth your happiness...
I can believe that to an extent. I've always thought that it is sometimes who you know not what you know, which for some is not a bad thing. But for others it can present a problem.