What's wrong with kids these days????

[citysherry]

I do get to do many thing that kids dont. I get to smoke, drink, cuss, stay out all night, have sex, do drugs, drive a car, ect. Right or wrong, kids dont get to. Yes, do as I say not as I do. And youll love this one too, sometimes in some circumstances, children should be seen and not heard. So there. I bet you children love walking all over you.

 

[somdebay]

If their under 18 they won't be doing any time...starts singing

 

[itsbob]

Yes, it's "do as I say, not as I do." You can't prevent a child from ever hearing curse words, so we feel we should teach them that those are grown-up words, and when he's a grown-up he can say them.

If you want respect you have to give it in return.. Swearing around a child is disrespectul, and telling them "it's a grown-up word" is demeaning.. if it's a bad work, show your children how bad it is by not using it. If someone else uses the word in front of them then explain that not all people are nice or respectful and chose to you use bad words because they aren't smart enough to express themselves any other way.

Teacher in High School never turned in kids for swearing, just looked at them and said "Swearing is a way of showing ignorance, how stupid are you?"

 

[itsbob]

AND if you tell them it's a "Grown up word" guess what they are saying to their friends when you aren't around just to show off how grown up they are.

 

[Bronwyn]

I'll tell you something funny about my four year old son. We were driving to Dominio's on rt four and we missed our turn because we were gawking at the new condos being built. We ended up turning around in Solomans and going back. Every single time we drive past there now my son tells everyone about it, even weeks later.

Do your kids do this?

 

[Cowgirl]

If you want respect you have to give it in return.. Swearing around a child is disrespectul, and telling them "it's a grown-up word" is demeaning.. if it's a bad work, show your children how bad it is by not using it. If someone else uses the word in front of them then explain that not all people are nice or respectful and chose to you use bad words because they aren't smart enough to express themselves any other way.

Teacher in High School never turned in kids for swearing, just looked at them and said "Swearing is a way of showing ignorance, how stupid are you?"

Well, in a perfect world, no one would swear. We all know this isn't a perfect world. I don't think there is anything wrong with kids knowing that there are things they can't do until they're grown-ups. How is it demeaning? When I was little, I knew there were certain things I couldn't do until I was grown up. What if they ask to stay up later at night? Are you going to let them because it would be demeaning if you told them they were children and had to go to bed at a certain time?

We can only control what the kids are exposed to the 50% of the time that we have them. The other 50% of the time they are with their mother and her family.

We don't swear very often in front of the kids, but sometimes someone slips up and a word slips out. Until we can control every word the kids hear, we will continue to tell them what language is not appropriate for a child.

 

[itsbob]

It's as hypocritical as telling your kids the dangers of smoking, while you light up prior to the lecture.. if it's bad, it's bad.. lead by example.

 

[Cowgirl]

It's as hypocritical as telling your kids the dangers of smoking, while you light up prior to the lecture.. if it's bad, it's bad.. lead by example.

I don't smoke, so I don't have to worry about that. But if I was addicted to cigarettes, I still have the right to lecture my kids about the dangers of smoking. True, I wouldn't light up immediately prior to the lecture. It's ok to warn kids and hope they don't make the same mistakes you do. Are you one of those people who think you can't tell your kids not to smoke pot if you smoked it when you were younger? They worry about being hypocrites. They should be worried about making sure their kids have the best opportunities and don't make the same stupid mistakes.

I'm sorry, but I still don't think there is anything wrong with telling kids they can't do certain things until they're adults. If they're going to hear a swear word now and then, then they need to know that it's not ok to repeat them. Mommy and Daddy can do things that they can't do...it's a fact of life. And you can't exactly compare smoking to swearing. One is dangerous (both for the smoker and for anyone else around), and one isn't. I agree on my BF on this one. They're his kids, so he makes the rules. If I really disagree with something he says, then I'll talk to him about it....but ultimately it's his decision. I happen to agree with him on this one. People raise their children differently.

 

[mehlert74]

I don't smoke, so I don't have to worry about that. But if I was addicted to cigarettes, I still have the right to lecture my kids about the dangers of smoking. True, I wouldn't light up immediately prior to the lecture. It's ok to warn kids and hope they don't make the same mistakes you do. Are you one of those people who think you can't tell your kids not to smoke pot if you smoked it when you were younger? They worry about being hypocrites. They should be worried about making sure their kids have the best opportunities and don't make the same stupid mistakes.

I'm sorry, but I still don't think there is anything wrong with telling kids they can't do certain things until they're adults. If they're going to hear a swear word now and then, then they need to know that it's not ok to repeat them. Mommy and Daddy can do things that they can't do...it's a fact of life. And you can't exactly compare smoking to swearing. One is dangerous (both for the smoker and for anyone else around), and one isn't. I agree on my BF on this one. They're his kids, so he makes the rules. If I really disagree with something he says, then I'll talk to him about it....but ultimately it's his decision. I happen to agree with him on this one. People raise their children differently.

I agree with you completely...remember the old phrase,"Do as I say, not as I do." I tell my kids that all the time, and then tell them that when they are old enough to live out in the real world, then you can make your own decisions. I smoke, however, i choose to smoke outside everytime!! I lecture my kids about smoking and all that good stuff, and I hope they learn a lesson from it...but what they do when they grow up, it all up to them. And what ever they decide to do, or not do, at least i can say that raised them well.

And about this swearing thing..I slip up from time to time, who doesn't? but in the real world, if they are not going to hear or see the bad things that we do for their parents, they will hear or see it elsewhere, unless of course you barracade your children from todays society. This is life, this is how it is. We can not protect our kids from absolutely everything, it's just not possible or human. If there was such a thing as the perfect world, we would be living as robots and not humans..

 

[Nickel]

I'll tell you something funny about my four year old son. We were driving to Dominio's on rt four and we missed our turn because we were gawking at the new condos being built. We ended up turning around in Solomans and going back. Every single time we drive past there now my son tells everyone about it, even weeks later.

Do your kids do this?

Yes. My four year old remembers EVERYTHING. We'll just be hanging out, and he'll say "remember when..." and start telling me about something that happened two years ago. He even told me once that it was scary inside my belly.

 

[BadGirl]

I agree with you completely...remember the old phrase,"Do as I say, not as I do." I tell my kids that all the time, and then tell them that when they are old enough to live out in the real world, then you can make your own decisions. I smoke, however, i choose to smoke outside everytime!! I lecture my kids about smoking and all that good stuff, and I hope they learn a lesson from it...but what they do when they grow up, it all up to them. And what ever they decide to do, or not do, at least i can say that raised them well.

And about this swearing thing..I slip up from time to time, who doesn't? but in the real world, if they are not going to hear or see the bad things that we do for their parents, they will hear or see it elsewhere, unless of course you barracade your children from todays society. This is life, this is how it is. We can not protect our kids from absolutely everything, it's just not possible or human. If there was such a thing as the perfect world, we would be living as robots and not humans..

You should make your kids (and you) pay a dime into a jar everytime they swear, that way they'll always have money for lunch..

 

[Nickel]

I think that by making a big deal about swearing, you're all subconsciously making the little buggers want to swear more. I do not swear, but I have slipped and whispered the s word in front of my little one once when he was two, which he promptly repeated. I just said "Please don't say that again", and so far, he hasn't. :shrug: If I'd have raised a fuss and lectured him about it, I imagine it would've been a little more tempting for him to add that little nugget to his vocabulary. I realize that he's still very young and that concept will need tweaking as he gets older, but it works for now. He is a very well-behaved child.

 

[mehlert74]

You should make your kids (and you) pay a dime into a jar everytime they swear, that way they'll always have money for lunch..

Awww...thanks so much for the joke, you gave me my first real laugh of the morning. : sarcasm:

 

[kwillia]

Awww...thanks so much for the joke, you gave me my first real laugh of the morning. : sarcasm:

That was funny as shiat... I'm really glad you got the humor in it... you are going to do just fine here... welcome aboard...

 

[mehlert74]

That was funny as shiat... I'm really glad you got the humor in it... you are going to do just fine here... welcome aboard...

Yeah, I'm getting the hang of it, not to mention it is not worth getting upset over nothing...to each their own...we all have opinions and all. I love this place, it cracks me up sometimes..

 

[Nickel]

shiat

10 cents.

 

[kwillia]

Yeah, I'm getting the hang of it, not to mention it is not worth getting upset over nothing...to each their own...we all have opinions and all. I love this place, it cracks me up sometimes..

Exactly! You caught on quick! You will survive here just fine.

 

[kwillia]

10 cents.

Go eat your apple dappers, missy.

 

[hvp05]

I have not read this entire thread, nor am I a parent. But I would like to relate something I saw yesterday.

The location was a store in Waldorf. Mother is on her phone, having a conversating during which she became apparently irritated. I heard "sh*t" once, but I wasn't listening the entire time. One boy (~6 years) is walking around and the other (~2 years) is in the cart's child seat crying. I walked away and passed by them a few minutes later...

Mother is still on the phone, and the older boy has climbed into the cart (half in, half out). She halts her conversation to tell him he'd better stop "or else".

I wanted to permanently lodge that cellphone in the side of her head, not just for being an idiot... but for breeding children whom will no doubt become members of the next generation of idiots.

 

[Pete]

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