13 yr old Lusby girl, dies on Valentine's day.

[Baja28]

Maybe the schools try 2 do 2 much 2 protect the kids when the kids shoulbe learning how 2 protect thmesevles.

I want to thank you.

Even though you deleted a couple posts, it was too late. Many saw and a couple quoted them, so now everyone can see what a complete moron you are.

Keep up the good work Corky!

 

[kwillia]

Very respectful comment. Thank you

the reality is that the schools, the doctors etc.. do too much to keep possible problems from the parents.
To make it simple to understand where I am coming from.

My own daughter was "heavy" most of her life. she was picked on, she never told us.
She was always the happy girl, nothing wrong, nothing bothered her.

then about 8 months ago I noticed that she was loosing too much weight, so I started to watch for things.
turns out (without giving specifics) that she had turned anorexic.
we took her to the doctor, he did the tests, and she was low on every blood count, the we took her to a shrink,, did not work, then we sent her to a facility ( Shepard Pratt) for in patient treatment, followed by another 6 weeks of out treatment...
She is finally back in school, doing well, but we have to keep such a close eye on her that it is actually exhausting.

So, when those of you comment without any experience in this type of thing, understand, until you go through the anorexia, the cutting, the suicide thoughts,, you have no clue what it takes to try to keep up with it.

just saying.

Excellent post. Teens are very capable from hiding their true feelings and emotions from their parents. In this day and age of technology our teens are flooded with drama and constant negative stimulation. I remember how tough it was to get through the teen years before the constant bombardment... I can only imagine how much tougher it is these days.

Think about it... we ALL currently know adults who can't handle the constant stimulus and thrive on making drama... its even worse for our kids.

 

[Bann]

Excellent post. Teens are very capable from hiding their true feelings and emotions from their parents. In this day and age of technology our teens are flooded with drama and constant negative stimulation. I remember how tough it was to get through the teen years before the constant bombardment... I can only imagine how much tougher it is these days.

Think about it... we ALL currently know adults who can't handle the constant stimulus and thrive on making drama... its even worse for out kids.

 

[xobxdoc]

Excellent post. Teens are very capable from hiding their true feelings and emotions from their parents. In this day and age of technology our teens are flooded with drama and constant negative stimulation. I remember how tough it was to get through the teen years before the constant bombardment... I can only imagine how much tougher it is these days.

Think about it... we ALL currently know adults who can't handle the constant stimulus and thrive on making drama... its even worse for out kids.

Thankfully they have this forum to turn to.

 

[Misfit]

Originally Posted by ChesBchSportsmn
Youve dont see girls with odd colored hair dressed like the school whores? I do....

Who do you think I dated? My iggy list is growing.

 

[kvj21075]

I did the crazy hair color, black nails, chains and spikes thing and got picked on, bullied, beat up, even got a concussion from one guy. Some kids just handle it better than others. My parents never even knew about it until i came home one day with a bloody head. Its sad, its terrible this happens but I cant imagine the pain the parents have to go through

 

[keepsmiling]

This is why I originally posted that it was a suicide and I was asked to remove it, which I did out of respect for the family.....there are so many questions that the KIDS are asking parents. How do we answer them? If it was due to bullying, which is what I was told by a child who went to school with her. Then what do we as parents do to help the situation? What do we as adults do to teach our kids that nothing, and I do mean NOTHING is worthing taking your life.

I didn't know this young lady or her family. I saw pictures and you guys don't have it. (not being disrespectful to any of you in anyway).

She was tiny!!! Average 11-12 year old. She was far from a (what's the right words here) hard gothic, one side of her hair was colored green, or it could have all been colored light green!!

This child was 11-12, something happened to make her take her life. It's a tragedy. I only wish she had found an adult to seek assistance.

My prayers and deepest sympathy to her family and friends. May God be with you to find the strength to move on.

 

[Nickel]

What do we as adults do to teach our kids that nothing, and I do mean NOTHING is worthing taking your life.

I think we have a responsibility to our children that extends beyond just that (and it is an important point to make to them, so I'm not minimizing it). We need to teach our children that it is NEVER okay to bully another person, even if their friends are doing it (and there is importance in choosing their friends wisely). They need to take responsibility for their words and actions, and speak up when they feel someone is being mistreated. We need to teach our children to be good people and stop the cycle of bullying at its source. The thought of a child killing themselves over something that happens in middle school or high school is just heartbreaking. There is SO MUCH life to live beyond our teenage years.

 

[Baja28]

I think we have a responsibility to our children that extends beyond just that (and it is an important point to make to them, so I'm not minimizing it). We need to teach our children that it is NEVER okay to bully another person, even if their friends are doing it (and there is importance in choosing their friends wisely). They need to take responsibility for their words and actions, and speak up when they feel someone is being mistreated. We need to teach our children to be good people and stop the cycle of bullying at its source. The thought of a child killing themselves over something that happens in middle school or high school is just heartbreaking. There is SO MUCH life to live beyond our teenage years.

Can I borrow your vacuum?

 

[kwillia]

I think we have a responsibility to our children that extends beyond just that (and it is an important point to make to them, so I'm not minimizing it). We need to teach our children that it is NEVER okay to bully another person, even if their friends are doing it (and there is importance in choosing their friends wisely). They need to take responsibility for their words and actions, and speak up when they feel someone is being mistreated. We need to teach our children to be good people and stop the cycle of bullying at its source. The thought of a child killing themselves over something that happens in middle school or high school is just heartbreaking. There is SO MUCH life to live beyond our teenage years.

But good luck with that... there are alot of parents nowadays who allow themselves to be bullied by their own kids.

 

[mitzi]

To what extent is the bullying. I don't have kids in school anymore, so I really don't know. How different is it than being picked on. I was picked on school for certain things and I picked on some people too. Is it that extreme now?
My girl was picked on and harressed terrible by one girl in early high school. She even jumped her getting off the bus. I went to the school several times, not much could be done until we finally took a stand.

 

[4ps]

A very sad "solution" to a growing problem

First, I'd like to offer prayers to the girl's family, friends and relatives. A lost life so young leaves many unanswered questions. No matter what happened, this horrible event should help create a dialogue between ALL parents and children. This is a teachable moment, and I'm sure the girl's family would NEVER want such a thing to happen to anyone else. The girl would probably want others to know what she went through, but since that has not been released in the news (public eye) we all need to respect the family and their privacy.

Keeping the line of communication open with children does help during times of uncertainty about adjusting to growing up, making new choices and noticing other's differences. The Parent can be the role model....or not. It's up to the parents not the school, but really it could and should be a joint effort to ensure that all students are "protected" from bullying, teasing, or all levels of "psychological abuse" It starts at home, and for the very young, teaching kindness and tolerance and acceptance begins when the child makes their first friend. That often happens in school.

I'm not sure how the public schools handle such treatment of others, and if they provide workshops on cultural differences, peer differences, etc to ease the process of making choices while growing up. I can't imagine teachers just sitting back and watching teasing/bullying occur. I'm sure it's behind closed doors, like other types of abuse. TRUST in telling an adult needs to be reinforced and encouraged. If you think about it, adults can get a restraining order if they need one, what choice does a child have to protect themselves from a bully? If there is one, I'm not aware of any special law or rule.

Our private school has only one class per grade, and the students respect each other and share a love of God. They encourage one another (example school talent show)- no negative comments, just support.It's not a perfect place, but it's a caring place, with a wonderful sense of community and trust. Bullying is not tolerated at our school, and the teachers demonstrate respect.

Children understand that we all have Gifts to share. Outward appearance is not much concern or a burden. We have uniforms and the students are all equal. Sure they can wear stylish hair bands, but there are limits. It helps to not have to "worry" about that stuff. It's a distraction, and learning is most important on an equal level. Of course a student shines without coloring their hair (green etc.) They shine in what is INSIDE, their talents, academics, personality etc).

God bless the family who lost their daughter. She must have really been hurting to see no other way out. Typically, girls will "talk" about it, or show signs, before they "do" it. It's the boys that won't...

Hug your kids...

 

[Hank]

I think being bulllied incldes being picekd on even when there are no physycal threats. Being constantly picked on by many peers lowers a teens self worth at the time when what thier peers think of them means everything to thier world. I think much of the pikcing on today comes thru facebook and other electronic media. iremember my dauhgter giong thru a phaze in middle school and high school where girls she didnt know were texting her at all times of day and even late at night telling her she was fat (she wasnt) and was a whore and a slut ect. My dughter would ask her mother and me if we thought she was fat. It was ridiculus but it shows how much teens think of what other teens think about them,

So, you come in here with your insensitive comments and you expect us to care about your daughter?

 

[GRANDMOTHER]

I am the Grandmother of the 13 year old girl that passed away. To those of you who sent thoughts and prayers, thank you. It means alot to our family. To those of you who are going by hear say and guessing that you know what happened, please keep your comments to yourself. Thank you.

 

[Hank]

I am the Grandmother of the 13 year old girl that passed away. To those of you who sent thoughts and prayers, thank you. It means alot to our family. To those of you who are going by hear say and guessing that you know what happened, please keep your comments to yourself. Thank you.

my condolences... very sorry for your loss...

 

[kwillia]

I am the Grandmother of the 13 year old girl that passed away. To those of you who sent thoughts and prayers, thank you. It means alot to our family. To those of you who are going by hear say and guessing that you know what happened, please keep your comments to yourself. Thank you.

So sorry for your loss.

 

[ImAChvyGirl]

I am the Grandmother of the 13 year old girl that passed away. To those of you who sent thoughts and prayers, thank you. It means alot to our family. To those of you who are going by hear say and guessing that you know what happened, please keep your comments to yourself. Thank you.

my condolences... very sorry for your loss...

 

[bcp]

I am the Grandmother of the 13 year old girl that passed away. To those of you who sent thoughts and prayers, thank you. It means alot to our family. To those of you who are going by hear say and guessing that you know what happened, please keep your comments to yourself. Thank you.

I hope that anything I said did not offend. I did not mean to if that was the case.
I cant even begin to imagine what the family is going through right now, and for that matter, for many years to come.