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Read the boy's report card from kindegarten. They said he was having problems with LARGE MOTOR SKILLS. I was reading it while he was hanging off the back porch railing with one leg doing swinging excercises and climbing the trees. He rode a two wheeled bike at 4 and walked at 9 months. She had 35 kids in her class. Yeah, HUGE problem with large motor skills......kwillia said:My son's kindergarden teacher tried to convince me mine was ADHD because he wanted to go play in the play area rather than pay attention to her doing ABCs and 123s. I told her he was just fine because when it came to things he was interested in he could sit at attention for hours on end.
She was the same teacher that called me the 2nd week of kindergarden to tell me he wasn't "prepared" for kindergarden because he didn't have full control of his scissors during cutting assignments. I told her that the last time I recalled him using scissors prior to school starting was when I found him under the dining room table cutting up a $2,500 check my husband had brought home from a side job. I said I fully expected him to catch up to little Johnny and Little Suzy in no time. Call me in a month if there was still a problem.
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missperky
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kwillia said:
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Once I had my 2nd kid... it was a real eye opener for me. I suddenly realized that though I some influence as a parent in some aspects, I wasn't nearly the all knowing and all powerful I thought I was. It became obvious that each kid is born different and thinks, feels, reacts, rationalizes, etc. as an individual and no amount of parenting, counseling, molding etc. is going to change the core that is "them".missperky said:
Kwillia,
My youngest son hardly said a word in Kindergarten. The teacher wasn’t even sure if he could even talk. She would gather the group of kids in a circle and said mine was always outside the circle doing something else. She just let him.
Well, one day the teacher was helping another student with their ABC’s and the student was messing up. They said my son stood up on his feet, walked over a bit perturbed and told that child his ABC’s.
He was catching on just fine. Right now, he is slightly behind in his reading but we are working with him and his new set of eyes.
My youngest son hardly said a word in Kindergarten. The teacher wasn’t even sure if he could even talk. She would gather the group of kids in a circle and said mine was always outside the circle doing something else. She just let him.
Well, one day the teacher was helping another student with their ABC’s and the student was messing up. They said my son stood up on his feet, walked over a bit perturbed and told that child his ABC’s.
He was catching on just fine. Right now, he is slightly behind in his reading but we are working with him and his new set of eyes.
MMDad
Lem Putt
I said no, my kids aren't drugged.
But....
If my child were diagnosed, and medication was prescribed in conjunction with a complete program of diet, individual counseling, family counseling, and therapy, I would use medication. If a doctor tried to push the drugs as a cure all I would be looking for a different doctor.
But....
If my child were diagnosed, and medication was prescribed in conjunction with a complete program of diet, individual counseling, family counseling, and therapy, I would use medication. If a doctor tried to push the drugs as a cure all I would be looking for a different doctor.
smoothmarine187
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I'm sure I will strike a nerve with a few people but I don't care. There aren't many things that I get serious on, but this is one of them. I believe ADHD medication is for lazy parents, plain and simple. If you don't spend enough time with your kid, then they are going to act out in various ways. My sons teacher tried to tell me that crap, and I politely told her to go pound sand. So of course she pushed it farther, and when the school counselor saw how good his grades were, she told her she was crazy.
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missperky
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smoothmarine187 said:
ADHD has to do with more then just school grades. But speaking of school grades my sons are horrible, why? I guess it's because I am lazy, am the one parent raising him and lock him in his room.
Just because your kid doesn't have ADHD, don't mean another kid won't....IMO
MMDad said:
That's what I always said until I was faced with this issue. I also said that this is what I get for talking badly about other peoples children.
(I did daycare for 31/2 years) 
My son has been to several different doctors and all agreed that he needed medication and he attends therapy sessions consistently. It has been a big help. The doctors I saw spoke with me in depth about what I had already tried to do for him and they also got input from his teachers and other family members. Although uncomfortable about making that final decision to use medication, I think it was the best choice at this time. I am still however hoping that it is only temporary. The dr. said that alot of boys will outgrow this by the time they get to high school as long as they are consious of how they need to focus and that we are consistent with teaching him. Keepingmyfingerscrossed.missperky said:ADHD has to do with more then just school grades. But speaking of school grades my sons are horrible, why? I guess it's because I am lazy, am the one parent raising him and lock him in his room.
Just because your kid doesn't have ADHD, don't mean another kid won't....IMO
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vraiblonde said:
My 16 y/o was diagnosed @ age 3 with ADHD. I fully believe he was born with it. The child never slept while he was in my belly!( It was a very long pregnancy!
) anyway, He started medication @ age 5 and just recently decided not to take it full time anymore. he now only takes it when he has a big test at school or needs to study for the big test. We at first tried every alternative before we decided to put him on it but when he started the violent temper tantrums and several other things that had me thinking he would end up either killing himself or someone else that's when I decided it's time to put him on it! See, ADHD is way more than just not being able to sit still in a class room and that's where a lot miss diagnosis get made! Especially by the teachers who think they know how to diagnose it when they really don't! they just think it will be a quick fix for not having to deal with a child who they can't handle! We had a lot of teacher's that tried to discriminate against my son because he was diagnosed with it! I have had my fare share of battling it out with teachers! I do believe there are a lot of kids on the medication that shouldn't be but I do firmly believe that medication does work for the kids that really need it! Ok I'll get off my soap box!
smoothmarine187
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missperky said:ADHD has to do with more then just school grades. But speaking of school grades my sons are horrible, why? I guess it's because I am lazy, am the one parent raising him and lock him in his room.
Just because your kid doesn't have ADHD, don't mean another kid won't....IMO
If you spend enough time with your kids and use a good reward/discipline system, you won't have problems with them. I guess that's just because I'm not lazy. I bet any one of these kids could sit down and play video games for 8 hours straight!
MMDad
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There's the problem. ADD and ADHD are so overdiagnosed that people start to believe that it is all bogus, and that medication is a substitute for parenting.missperky said:
It is no different than the millions of Americans who take antidepressents without treating the real root of whatever problems people have. Just because it is overdiagnosed does not mean that medication is not appropriate for some people..
I would seriously question a diagnosis, but I do believe that it does exist, can be treated, and medication can be part of the treatment.
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missperky
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smoothmarine187 said:
So you say. I guess you are a perfect person. I spend plenty of time with all my kids, only one of my kids have a problem. And it is far from me being lazy.
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missperky
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smoothmarine187 said:
My son doesn't play them(at home) and even when he gets the chance at someones house, he won't play for long, so take that theory and stick it where the sun don't shine.
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Mousebaby
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smoothmarine187 said:
That is soooooooooo not true! My kids are not bad kids! My kids are very well behaved, and yes even my teenager. I do spend time with them, lots of time! I am a stay at home mom and its my job to spend time with them! My kids don't sit in front of the tv and video games like that, they play outside with basketball, the trampoline, their friends, their bikes, scooters, skateboards. They even go to the skeet range on base with my husband on the weekends. We are not lazy!!!!
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missperky
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Mousebaby said:That is soooooooooo not true! My kids are not bad kids! My kids are very well behaved, and yes even my teenager. I do spend time with them, lots of time! I am a stay at home mom and its my job to spend time with them! My kids don't sit in front of the tv and video games like that, they play outside with basketball, the trampoline, their friends, their bikes, scooters, skateboards. They even go to the skeet range on base with my husband on the weekends. We are not lazy!!!!
My kids love being outside too!
They never wanna come in.
smoothmarine187
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missperky said:My son doesn't play them(at home) and even when he gets the chance at someones house, he won't play for long, so take that theory and stick it where the sun don't shine.
If he doesn't like video games then I guess there is something wrong with him, drug him up, that way he won't be such a hassel to you. You wouldn't want to have to inconvenience yourself by having to spend a little extra time with him. Just because you spend the same amout of time with all the kids, doesn't mean it's right.