Adult at 18? Think again...now it's 25!

[ZARA]

Of course it was silly.

Oh good! You forgot to add a silly face or some thing...I was so ready to lmao!

 

[Roman]

As soon as my kids started walking, they had little chores like putting their toys away. When they started to complain that their favorite clothes weren't washed, (about age 12) they were given a Basket to put in their rooms, and when they needed something washed, they did their own laundry. My Mother coddled us as kids, and I guess she thought a chore would be best done by herself. She died when I was 15 years old, and I didn't know how to do anything. Not even warm up a can of Corn. I swore that when I had Children, they would be self sufficient. As Adults, they live on their own, and can take care of themselves. That is what we all want for our Kids, but we have such a short time to work with them, so I say...Start early.

 

[luvmygdaughters]

Maybe the Son could go live with one of his Sisters! I believe there is a time when you have to cut the Cord, and now IS the time. They will never fly unless you boot them out of the nest.

He has one sister who lives in SC. She's not much of a prize either, but at least she and her husband dont live with us. My daughters are not his sisters and honestly, they would'nt put up with his BS. I told hubby he has until March 2014 to find his own place. That will be 2 years. Plenty of time for him to get the hell out of my basement.

 

[luvmygdaughters]

As soon as my kids started walking, they had little chores like putting their toys away. When they started to complain that their favorite clothes weren't washed, (about age 12) they were given a Basket to put in their rooms, and when they needed something washed, they did their own laundry. My Mother coddled us as kids, and I guess she thought a chore would be best done by herself. She died when I was 15 years old, and I didn't know how to do anything. Not even warm up a can of Corn. I swore that when I had Children, they would be self sufficient. As Adults, they live on their own, and can take care of themselves. That is what we all want for our Kids, but we have such a short time to work with them, so I say...Start early.

I agree wholeheartedly. Thats what I keep saying about my husbands son...who in the hell is going to take care of him when something happens to you? Trust me, it aint gonna be me. When my girls were litte, they had chores to do. WHen they were older, middle school, they did their homework first, then straightend the house, clean the kitchen, sweep the floor. There is nothing wrong with kids having chores, it build self reliance and responsibility. I'm not trying to start an argument, but, I swear, I see it more in boys than girls. I just dont get it.

 

[Roman]

I agree wholeheartedly. Thats what I keep saying about my husbands son...who in the hell is going to take care of him when something happens to you? Trust me, it aint gonna be me. When my girls were litte, they had chores to do. WHen they were older, middle school, they did their homework first, then straightend the house, clean the kitchen, sweep the floor. There is nothing wrong with kids having chores, it build self reliance and responsibility. I'm not trying to start an argument, but, I swear, I see it more in boys than girls. I just dont get it.

I feel for you because you are caught between a rock, and a hard place. Maybe you should talk to the kid when Hubby isn't around, and let him know how you feel. Then, when the timing is right, reitterate to Hubby, your feelings about having the Kid there. It isn't fair that you have to put up with that...period! My Son left the nest at age 19, and the Daughter left at 21 when she bought her first home. Neither one of them has come back, other than to visit. That's the way it's supposed to be, I hope I don't come off as a cold-hearted biotch, or like I am the perfect Parent. I made my share of mistakes along the way.

 

[JeJeTe]

I agree wholeheartedly. Thats what I keep saying about my husbands son...who in the hell is going to take care of him when something happens to you? Trust me, it aint gonna be me. When my girls were litte, they had chores to do. WHen they were older, middle school, they did their homework first, then straightend the house, clean the kitchen, sweep the floor. There is nothing wrong with kids having chores, it build self reliance and responsibility. I'm not trying to start an argument, but, I swear, I see it more in boys than girls. I just dont get it.

Bitches get stuff done.

 

[somdfunguy]

At what age did you start automatically wiping the counters when you washed dishes?

mom (bless her soul) installed that upgrade chip in my brain at 14

 

[CaneCorso]

After I can back from boot camp. I was 18.

Mom, called the recruiter on me when I was 18. After he left she flat out told me "son I love you and I know your smart but I'm not going to waste the college fund we saved up for you so you can go party at College you better figure something else out"!

About 9 months later she was watching me graduate Marine Corps boot camp.

She was right, might have been the best thing she ever did for me!

 

[luvmygdaughters]

Bitches get stuff done.

You are so right about that sweets.

 

[ZARA]

Mom, called the recruiter on me when I was 18. After he left she flat out told me "son I love you and I know your smart but I'm not going to waste the college fund we saved up for you so you can go party at College you better figure something else out"!

About 9 months later she was watching me graduate Marine Corps boot camp.

She was right, might have been the best thing she ever did for me!

We're making the boy take 2 yrs of college to get his chemistry degree and get the cores knocked out of the way and then he may (very good possibility) join the military as an Officer. That's the game plan anyways. So far, all of us agree, the boy needs to grow up and a dose of reality (yes I know, my fault cause I spoil him) and the best way is through the military. Personally, I think everyone should have to enlist for a min of 2 yrs anyways. :shrug:

 

[luvmygdaughters]

I feel for you because you are caught between a rock, and a hard place. Maybe you should talk to the kid when Hubby isn't around, and let him know how you feel. Then, when the timing is right, reitterate to Hubby, your feelings about having the Kid there. It isn't fair that you have to put up with that...period! My Son left the nest at age 19, and the Daughter left at 21 when she bought her first home. Neither one of them has come back, other than to visit. That's the way it's supposed to be, I hope I don't come off as a cold-hearted biotch, or like I am the perfect Parent. I made my share of mistakes along the way.

You dont come off that way at all. In fact, you come off sounding extremely normal. Children do not come with an owners manual. Its a combination of trial and error and how we were raised. I made mistakes along the way, but, Thank the Lord, my daughters turned out fine and people I can be proud of. As JeJeTe said...Biotches get things done!! Heres to Us

 

[Roman]

Mom, called the recruiter on me when I was 18. After he left she flat out told me "son I love you and I know your smart but I'm not going to waste the college fund we saved up for you so you can go party at College you better figure something else out"!

About 9 months later she was watching me graduate Marine Corps boot camp.

She was right, might have been the best thing she ever did for me!

My 19 year old Son left for Paris Island Boot Camp as a Boy, and came out a Man. He still Serves to this day, and will retire in 3 years. I am so proud of him that I can't stand it!

 

[luvmygdaughters]

My 19 year old Son left for Paris Island Booth Camp as a Boy, and came out a Man. He still Serves to this day, and will retire in 3 years. I am so proud of him that I can't stand it!

To a job well done. You have every right to be proud and thank him and you for the service.

 

[CaneCorso]

My 19 year old Son left for Paris Island Boot Camp as a Boy, and came out a Man. He still Serves to this day, and will retire in 3 years. I am so proud of him that I can't stand it!

 

[Baywatchv8]

PHS Act Section 2714, Continued Eligibility of Children Until Age 26 (26 CFR 54.9815-2714, 29 CFR 2590.715-2714, 45 CFR 147.120)

Section 2714 of the PHS Act, as added by the Affordable Care Act (and amended by the Reconciliation Act), and these interim final regulations provide that a plan or issuer that makes available dependent coverage of children must make such coverage available for children until attainment of 26 years of age.

I read that to say Insurance companies must make it so the parent's can cary them untill there 26 not that parent's MUST cary them. Is that how you are reading it?

 

[Bann]

http://www.bbc.co.uk/news/magazine-24173194

"The idea that suddenly at 18 you're an adult just doesn't quite ring true," says child psychologist Laverne Antrobus, who works at London's Tavistock Clinic.

"My experience of young people is that they still need quite a considerable amount of support and help beyond that age."

Child psychologists are being given a new directive which is that the age range they work with is increasing from 0-18 to 0-25.

Some adolescents may want to stay longer with their families because they need more support during these formative years and that it is important for parents to realise that all young people do not develop at the same pace.

But is there any danger we could be breeding a nation of young people reluctant to leave adolescence behind?

25?! Thing 2 is planning on going into the US NAVY upon graduation. He will be 18-1/2. And now they wanna raise that age bar to 25 just when my cupcakes are almost done and outta the oven?!!

Uh, no. NOT.





**Disclaimer: Of COURSE, he always has a "home" to come to, and might even live back in it at some point to "get on his feet". MY job is to raise him to go out on his own into the world and take care of himself. I'm almost to the home stretch and I'm not going 10 more miles!

 

[DEEKAYPEE8569]

I read that to say Insurance companies must make it so the parent's can cary them untill there 26 not that parent's MUST cary them. Is that how you are reading it?

I don't know if it was an insurance company policy or M&D just said 'ohH*llno" but I bought a new car when I was 23; paid for it myself; and paid the insurance that rose to about 2K/yr.

Oops.....this is about health insurance. My bad. I was on M&D's health insurance until I was 16 and started getting a paycheck; maybe it wasn't til I was 18. Anyway, when I was able to get insurance through work, I was on my own as far as health insurance was concerned.