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Bronwyn
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I'm checking back to read all the replies. When my lunch break comes, I'm going to pass on the info to him!
VoteJP
J.P. Cusick
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The child NEEDS needs his real biological father, as the real father has it intuitively how to deal with their own offspring because it is built in, and only the father can redirect a wayward child.
It would probably be very hard to find the real father but possibly not, and no other person can fill that role.
Otherwise such a child must be forcibly corrected and forcibly maintained, or else medicated into oblivion.
I am looking for a program to help the child of a co-worker.
His adopted son is 11. He is showing early signs of violent behavior that has him very concerned.
He has set fires inside and outside the house.
He has been known to hide knives and razors, which they find in his room.
He is obsessed with online cartoons showing torture, and games that allow you to torture.
He had destroyed his matress with scissors, stabbing it so many times.
They feel unsafe leaving him around their 5 year old son without an adult present.
He refuses to tell his parents that he loves them.
A teacher gave them a note that he had written to a girl in the class that was vulgar, saying he wanted to F* her.
To me, I would be freaking out and thinking future criminal or mental issues.
He told me that they have taken him to counseling in the past, for extended periods of time, but he didn't feel they were fixing the issue at all, there was zero improvement.
Is there a program in Maryland for children like this? He lives in the Glen Burnie Area.
Thanks
The child NEEDS needs his real biological father, as the real father has it intuitively how to deal with their own offspring because it is built in, and only the father can redirect a wayward child.It would probably be very hard to find the real father but possibly not, and no other person can fill that role.
Otherwise such a child must be forcibly corrected and forcibly maintained, or else medicated into oblivion.
It would probably be very hard to find the real father but possibly not, and no other person can fill that role.
Otherwise such a child must be forcibly corrected and forcibly maintained, or else medicated into oblivion.
sockgirl77
Well-Known Member
It would probably be very hard to find the real father but possibly not, and no other person can fill that role.
Otherwise such a child must be forcibly corrected and forcibly maintained, or else medicated into oblivion.
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Bronwyn
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Update:
So the 13 yr old mother was a relative of the adopted mother. The father is unknown, the child/mother sleeping with mulitple men, including men old enough to be her father...
At first she left the child with them when it was born and later they adopted him.
The adopted mother made the decision to keep the adoption secret, against the advice of the family.
The child has ADHD and is on medication for that. In fact the school has stated that he cannot come to school unless he takes his medication because his behavior is so disruptive.
I gave him the resources that were suggest here, and I will be calling my friend that works at the Crisis house in SOMD for more.
He was grateful for the info and I encouraged him to talk with his wife again about sitting down and telling him he is adopted.
Please don't quote JPC... I have him on iggy for a reason
So the 13 yr old mother was a relative of the adopted mother. The father is unknown, the child/mother sleeping with mulitple men, including men old enough to be her father...
At first she left the child with them when it was born and later they adopted him.
The adopted mother made the decision to keep the adoption secret, against the advice of the family.
The child has ADHD and is on medication for that. In fact the school has stated that he cannot come to school unless he takes his medication because his behavior is so disruptive.
I gave him the resources that were suggest here, and I will be calling my friend that works at the Crisis house in SOMD for more.
He was grateful for the info and I encouraged him to talk with his wife again about sitting down and telling him he is adopted.
Please don't quote JPC... I have him on iggy for a reason
Beta84
They're out to get us
Good luck to them. Tough situation.
cattitude
My Sweetest Boy
How awful. I don't know of any advice..but I know I've seen "Lifetime" movies and one of them was a true story about a violent child...can't think of the name of it, but they always give out information where to get help, etc. at the end. (I'll keep looking)
I would suggest "truth" for the child as a start.
I would suggest "truth" for the child as a start.
dontknowwhy
New Member
Maybe JP's the father!?
Beta84
They're out to get us
nah. if he was the father he'd be too scared of the possible child support and run in the other direction.
aps45819
24/7 Single Dad
It's amazing how you intuitively knew that abandoning your wife and child was the right thing to do for you son.
VoteJP
J.P. Cusick
Blog-o-sphere
:shrug: It is just one of those things, and I regret what I did to my own.
And all children are subject to those they are born to. :shrug:
:shrug: It is just one of those things, and I regret what I did to my own.
And all children are subject to those they are born to. :shrug:
VoteJP
J.P. Cusick
Blog-o-sphere
That is an interesting point, in that I really do know how to reach such a boy, and that would be to tell the boy that we will search for his real parents together, including trying to reconcile with his real Mom and searching for his real Dad, as that would be the only way to sincerely win his trust and his friendship, and then actually do the work to bring the boy to his real parents, because otherwise he is probably lost with little hope of real happiness in this life.
That would be the way if one really wants to reach his mind and his heart, and it would take a lot of sincere efforts, but that would be better and more effective than any other options.
It is a matter of personal identity - as in his self esteem.
That is an interesting point, in that I really do know how to reach such a boy, and that would be to tell the boy that we will search for his real parents together, including trying to reconcile with his real Mom and searching for his real Dad, as that would be the only way to sincerely win his trust and his friendship, and then actually do the work to bring the boy to his real parents, because otherwise he is probably lost with little hope of real happiness in this life.That would be the way if one really wants to reach his mind and his heart, and it would take a lot of sincere efforts, but that would be better and more effective than any other options.
It is a matter of personal identity - as in his self esteem.
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Irish_Eyes
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That would be the way if one really wants to reach his mind and his heart, and it would take a lot of sincere efforts, but that would be better and more effective than any other options.
It is a matter of personal identity - as in his self esteem.
You watch too many movies and TV specials. I was adopted by my father after he married my biological mother. When I was 20, I finally got to meet my biological father and BOY am I glad my mother told him to stay the hell out of our lives. His "intuition" had him wanting me to call him Dad as soon as I met him. Thanks, but no thanks. My Dad is the man who raised me when he didn't have to, who made sure there was a roof over my head and clothes on my back. Sure, we butted heads a lot, but I wouldn't give him up for the sperm donor who helped make me, not for any reason.
All it takes to be a father is sex. It takes love, patience, and sacrifice to be a Dad.
That would be the way if one really wants to reach his mind and his heart, and it would take a lot of sincere efforts, but that would be better and more effective than any other options.
It is a matter of personal identity - as in his self esteem.
JPC, did you not read one word of the OP?
VoteJP
J.P. Cusick
Blog-o-sphere
Yes, of course I read it all, and I am offering real advice to actually do some thing to help the child.
There is no program in Maryland or elsewhere that compares to what I am advising.
Do you see some thing that I missed? then do please tell.
Yes, of course I read it all, and I am offering real advice to actually do some thing to help the child.There is no program in Maryland or elsewhere that compares to what I am advising.
Do you see some thing that I missed? then do please tell.