...YOU'RE on drugs.
This is what you wrote;
That says that love is over rated and that it starts and is maintained by choice, yes? And anything that is not choice, anything beyond that, is a fairy tale and an infatuation, right?
Those are your words. You tell me what they mean.
If love had nothing to do with choice, it would never die and we'd all live happily ever after. Anything and everything involving the mind and heart starts with choice. It happens because we allow it to. It can be started, stopped, changed... however we will it to be.
We choose to give in to the feelings. We choose to open our hearts, or not, to let those feelings come in to begin with. Just like we choose to shut people out.
Feeling is undoubtedly controllable. If it wasn't, than "I did that because I was mad and couldn't help it," would be an acceptable excuse. If feeling wasn't controllable we wouldn't cheer people up, tell our kids to stop pouting, develop "thick skin," or any number of other ways that we learn to control "feelings."
The rest of your post, I have no idea where you got the impression that I thought love had anything to do with infatuation or fairy tales.
love takes time, patience and understanding. I have been with the same and only man since i was 15
was i in love with him then no it came many years later along with 3 children. Now, this wonderful man is disabled and unable to love me the way he could or should. But, will i leave him no and that is because true love is the person that you are with the connection you have the fireworks that you feel when they walk in the room not the lust you feel (though it doesn't hurt) and that takes time and work to have. SO many just walk away and find someone else and then complain that they don't know what love is.
You will know when that special person comes into your life but you have to work for it and not run at the first argument.
That was a great post Nana. Welcome to the forums.love takes time, patience and understanding. I have been with the same and only man since i was 15
was i in love with him then no it came many years later along with 3 children. Now, this wonderful man is disabled and unable to love me the way he could or should. But, will i leave him no and that is because true love is the person that you are with the connection you have the fireworks that you feel when they walk in the room not the lust you feel (though it doesn't hurt) and that takes time and work to have. SO many just walk away and find someone else and then complain that they don't know what love is.
You will know when that special person comes into your life but you have to work for it and not run at the first argument.
Well, that takes great strength on your part to be in a situation like that. If I were unable to "love" a person the way I should due to a disability of sorts, I wouldn't want my better half to give up a part of their life that is still functional because I am physically unable. I would want them to leave. It would hurt me but it's better for them. Why make them suffer because I'm suffering. Why put them through it. It would kill me knowing that my other half isn't getting what they should out of the relationship.
But I'm so dayum bored and have an hour+ to go
I still do not get it.
He is the grill guy, and the muffler guy, and I know it was the roteserie thing that was SET it and forget it:shrug:
do you seriously not know that he boxed too? Dang, and i'm like at LEAST half your age
