Allowing Your Kid to Drink Underage

[mAlice]

I voted yes. I don't think there should be laws that dictate how we raise our children.

 

[mv_princess]

Some common sense should be applied in these circumstances. Allowing an under age kid to get "trashed" under your roof invites all sorts of negative consequences and violates the premise of common sense.

Common sense (or, when used attributively as an adjective, commonsense, common-sense, or commonsensical), based on a strict construction of the term, is what people in common would agree: that which they "sense" in common as their common natural understanding. Some use the phrase to refer to beliefs or propositions that in their opinion they consider would in most people's experience be prudent and of sound judgment, without dependence upon esoteric knowledge or study or research, but based upon what is believed to be knowledge held by people "in common", so: the knowledge and experience most people have, or are believed to have by the person using the term.

Yes because we just let who ever come over, and get trashed, then sent them out the door.

We never knew their parents and well hell we barley knew them.

Yup common sense was right out the window

 

[Lugnut]

Wow, I didn't know there was a loophole that included family..Thanks Lug

None the less, why let em know how much fun it is to get drunk when they can't truly enjoy it yet?
No one likes ducking around and skirting citations underage. .

Yeah I was surprised to hear about that too.

I agree with you. I wouldn't allow my kids to get drunk in my house. And I wouldn't condone sneaking around and getting drunk at a friends house or party either.

 

[mAlice]

Why do some of you automatically assume that allowing our kids to drink is the same thing as allowing them to get trashed? Why can't you view it as wine with dinner, or an occasional beer or two?

 

[jetmonkey]

Why do some of you automatically assume that allowing our kids to drink is the same thing as allowing them to get trashed? Why can't you view it as wine with dinner, or an occasional beer or two?

I was merely responding to mv's use of the word 'trashed' inre why sneak out and get trashed when you can drink at home.

 

[Chasey_Lane]

Why do some of you automatically assume that allowing our kids to drink is the same thing as allowing them to get trashed? Why can't you view it as wine with dinner, or an occasional beer or two?

AND...how many have given their babies/toddlers a swig of beer...honestly.

 

[jetmonkey]

I think it's awesome that parents let their kids drink at home, but i'm just qurious as to why that logic is not extended to sex, smoking, drug use, etc.

 

[mAlice]

I think it's awesome that parents let their kids drink at home, but i'm just qurious as to why that logic is not extended to sex, smoking, drug use, etc.

Maybe it is. :shrug:

 

[mv_princess]

Allowing Your Kid to Dr... 09-12-2007 08:45 AM you and yo family is white trash

If only you knew

 

[Mrgaritavill]

My parents never bought me alcohol or drank with me in high school, but they knew that I did and didnt have a problem with it. Most kids are going to experiment with drugs and alcohol. I think its much better for a parent to be open about it and know what their kids are doing rather than have strict rules and have their kids feel like they need to hide things.

There were a few girls in my sorority in college who never drank or did anything "bad" in high school for fear of backlash from their parents. Those were the kids who went to college and went wild....drinking every night, having promiscuous sex with randoms, etc. It was an extremely rare night that didnt include some college freshman puking up their guts in the bathroom of the bar or at whatever kegger we were at that night.....or worse, having their stomach pumped in the ER (happens a LOT!).

I am very thankful that my parents didnt have a problem with me drinking in high school. When I went to college, drinking wasnt this awesome new thing I wanted to experience and go crazy with. I knew my limits and how to handle myself when drinking before I got there, even though I didnt turn 21 until my senior year of college.

 

[jetmonkey]

Maybe it is. :shrug:

I asked her. She said no.

 

[mv_princess]

I asked her. She said no.

Just because we were allowed to drink, didn't mean there weren't rules.

 

[mAlice]

I asked her. She said no.

I was speaking in general. :shrug:

 

[vraiblonde]

And I wouldn't condone sneaking around

I condone sneaking. It was like a game - they'd try to be sneaky and outwit me, and I would try to catch them being bad so I could light their ass and ground them.

It takes the fun out of parenting if you just let your kids do whatever they want. And your kids miss out on telling great stories about how they were doing such and such and HOLY #### they heard their Mom come in.

 

[mAlice]

Just because we were allowed to drink, didn't mean there weren't rules.

Rules will be broken, regardless. Even allowing daughter to drink at home did not prevent her from breaking the rules. Telling her she wasn't to drink when we (parents) were not there did not prevent her from coming home from school one day and having a taste of everything that we had in the house. She did, however, do that at home. She was drunk at home, sick and home, and hungover at home.

That was an interesting day.

 

[mv_princess]

Rules will be broken, regardless. Even allowing daughter to drink at home did not prevent her from breaking the rules. Telling her she wasn't to drink when we (parents) were not there did not prevent her from coming home from school one day and having a taste of everything that we had in the house. She did, however, do that at home. She was drunk at home, sick and home, and hungover at home.

That was an interesting day.

This is true. Very true.

 

[cavemanken]

I feel that if the law states you have to wait until you're 21, you better wait until you're 21. . Why teach them that the law doesn't matter in some situations?
I was forbidden to drink and feared getting in trouble if I ever did. I didn't touch a drop until my second year of college.. even then I was underage, but I was no longer under my parents supervision.
This isn't meant to go into the drinking age (which most people feel it should be 18) but to get some insight from parents, and your own experiences.

Back in the day when drinking was legal at 18, I drank without any problems. It is legal now to allow your children to drink in your own house at 18. I actually drank regularly at 16 with my parents allowing it, with the stipulation that I didn't drink and then drive. I think it is most important to teach your child to drink responsibly, and the best way to see how they handle alcohol is to allow them to do it at home, where you can supervise, if things get out of control. I was drunk many times during my high school years but never even considered getting in my car or leaving wherever I was at the time because of my respect for my father and the training he had given me to be resonsible when drinking. One of the most important things to learn IMO is to know when to say when. I, of course went over the line many times, when I was younger and paid the price of suffering the effects of a hangover before I learned the fine art of acheiving and maintaining the perfect buzz. Also alcochol affects people in many different ways. I am what people would normally call a happy drunk.....I at least think I'm funny and don't get mean or hateful. I have never been told after being drunk that I was an azzhole or did anything that pizzed anyone off. Normally whenever I drank way too much I just vegged out or crashed and kept to myself. I think it is important to see first hand how your kids will handle a situation like this before they have the chance to do it on their own, either legally or illegally and do something stupid that they have to pay for the rest of their young lives. Hopefully, just like everything else that you've taught your kids, ie: driving, handling money, premarital sex, etc.....they will handle responsibly. I agree with you on the law part. My experiences were outside the law, but those where different times. Everything I plan on doing with my daughter will be within the law. The same goes with following the laws that go along with her provisional driver's license.

 

[lugebob]

Although the topic is about allowing your kids to drink underage, my thoughts are that is should read "Allowing you kids to break the law"

Even if there is a loophole to allow drinking, there is a bigger and more improtant parenting issue. A parent is a fool if you do not think the kids are paying attention to your standards and ethics when regarding the law and the respect for it, even if you disagree with the law.

We all experiment and break some laws now and then...especially God's laws, but since this is a parenting question more than anything, you should be looking at the bigger picture.. like when they become parents and where do they draw their standards from.

These kinds of questions interest me now that my 2 little ones are now 21 and 25 with one grandchild. Both took to drinking in high school and one was in trouble with the law....... as many kids do, but not once did I "allow" it by my standards and try to find loopholes to aid in their excuses. I would always inform them of the law that was being broke, explain the intent of the law, and the price that will be paid if caught by the law or the intent of what the law was trying to protect from occured..

Now I sit back and watch both my kids make real adult decision in life and it is amazing how much they revert back to the standards that mom and dad had after all the teenage angst is over..

I think I am learning what that Wisdom thing is, the kind my grand pa always seem to have when looking at the world... either that or I am off my rocker before I even got to one.

have a good day
bob

 

[High EGT]

Eyes Wide Shut

If you send your daughter out the door dressed like a 20$ whore then dont be shocked when she breaks the news to you she's pregnant. The same is true with alcohol . If you condone the use (abuse) by a child dont be surprized when you get a phone call from the authorities on a myriad of possible scenarios. Some tragic......

 

[Merlin99]

Although the topic is about allowing your kids to drink underage, my thoughts are that is should read "Allowing you kids to break the law"

Even if there is a loophole to allow drinking, there is a bigger and more improtant parenting issue. A parent is a fool if you do not think the kids are paying attention to your standards and ethics when regarding the law and the respect for it, even if you disagree with the law.

We all experiment and break some laws now and then...especially God's laws, but since this is a parenting question more than anything, you should be looking at the bigger picture.. like when they become parents and where do they draw their standards from.

These kinds of questions interest me now that my 2 little ones are now 21 and 25 with one grandchild. Both took to drinking in high school and one was in trouble with the law....... as many kids do, but not once did I "allow" it by my standards and try to find loopholes to aid in their excuses. I would always inform them of the law that was being broke, explain the intent of the law, and the price that will be paid if caught by the law or the intent of what the law was trying to protect from occured..

Now I sit back and watch both my kids make real adult decision in life and it is amazing how much they revert back to the standards that mom and dad had after all the teenage angst is over..

I think I am learning what that Wisdom thing is, the kind my grand pa always seem to have when looking at the world... either that or I am off my rocker before I even got to one.

have a good day
bob

A loophole is an unintended way of circumventing a law, this isn't the case. This is a clear exemption which allows the parents to set their own boundaries.