Am I a bad mom?
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kwillia
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My premise is if there is an accident locally, pretty much every fire department/rescue squad knows my family so we'd hear about it in short order. If she doesn't make it back to her apartment in out of state there would be no way for us to be aware of her being missing for days or until someone in some police precinct takes the time to track us down. If she's going somewhere where someone is expecting her than I don't expect her to announce her safe arrival because I know someone else will miss her and raise concern if she doesn't arrive. Make sense now?
acommondisaster
Active Member
Yeah, you're the worst evah. We all generally send each other a text or msg on FB when it's a flight or a long drive. I don't ask, but they do it, as do we. I dont stay up all night worrying if I don't hear - I just check in the morning. It's just more of a courtesy. "flight sucked, got stuck in Timbuktu - that's why we're a day late" or "we made it up to the cabin, the leaves are beautiful" or whatever. We're not a talk every day or even every week kind of family, so I don't think it's hovering.
luvmygdaughters
Well-Known Member
My daughters and I check on each other everyday. My youngest daughter leaves very early in the AM, to go to Pax River, she takes Rt.4. She always shoots me a quick text in the morning to let me know she got in okay. My oldest daughter works in Forestville, anyone who knows that neighborhood knows its scary. She also travels Rt. 4. She sends an email or text. When I visit them, they always want me to call when I get home and me with them. If I forget to call, they call me and vice versa.
Vince
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Exactly. Unless I ask the daughter to call me when she's traveling to and from my house, I don't expect any calls. On the other hand, if I don't call her when I get back, she calls to make sure I got home in one piece. :shrug:
MMDad
Lem Putt
That's only because most driving is done closer to home. It is not that longer drives are less dangerous, they just are not as frequent.
bulldog
New Member
We exchange "made it home safe, good to see you" messages or something similar. I don't consider it hovering, just concern for their safety and well being and my peace of mind. Different strokes and if others don't do the same, it does not make them bad parents or children, IMO.
CaneCorso
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I'm over 40 and still call my mom the next day after I get back from travel :shrug:
I've done more panic calls to friends in Illinois to go check on her because I couldn't get a hold of her after multiple attempts. The best one was about 10 years ago when after 5-6 hrs. of her line being busy I get a call back from my friend laughing hysterically... seems she had spent the day playing solitaire on her computer and didn't know you didn't have to log on to play (damn dial-up)
I've done more panic calls to friends in Illinois to go check on her because I couldn't get a hold of her after multiple attempts. The best one was about 10 years ago when after 5-6 hrs. of her line being busy I get a call back from my friend laughing hysterically... seems she had spent the day playing solitaire on her computer and didn't know you didn't have to log on to play (damn dial-up)
acommondisaster
Active Member
I just realized that when my sister visits from Wisconsin, my last words to her are "let me know you got home okay". It's like closure for me, I think. Years ago our best friend left our house to drive down to Florida for Umpire school. He was going down to disenroll, get his tuition back and head back up to our place to live while he got established. My last words to him were - have a safe trip, see you in a week. He was killed by a drunk driver in Ludowici, GA on his way back to our place and I've never told anyone since to have a safe trip. It didnt dawn on me until I was rereading this thread that I need to know my loved ones are safe after a long trip. I'd rather have the text/PM/call (though no one really calls anymore) saying they're home safe than the other type of phone call.
2BRN2B
No Question
My friends and family all do this, but having thought about it, it's usually after an outing together like a vacation or special event at one of our houses.
We don't check in after being out at the bar together and head home.
My kids always let me know they made it home after leaving my house. I've never asked for it, just something we do.
We don't check in after being out at the bar together and head home.
My kids always let me know they made it home after leaving my house. I've never asked for it, just something we do.
I'm 54 and my mom still does this. She lives up near DC. If I don't call - eventually SHE will call to see if I'm alright.
This isn't going to change.
In her defense, although I've never had an accident on such trips, I have been known to nod off and slowly wander onto the shoulder. Usually someone wakes me up before then.