Am I the only freak?

[vraiblonde]

I keep hearing this phrase in various forms:

"I don't want to be alone. I need a companion."

Those words are invariably spoken by someone who has hooked up (or is in the process of hooking up) with someone they don't really know (or like) that much.

Am I the only weirdo who doesn't mind being "alone", and in fact prefers it to having to deal with someone who grates on my nerves because we're not compatible? Seriously, I only know one other person who is happy and busy being unattached. It seems that everyone else is trying to fit square pegs in round holes so they don't have to be "alone".

And I say "alone" in quotes because my life is active and I arrange down time to spend an evening on the couch in front of the TV with my dog. Don't other people do this, or must it be a constant whirlwind of human companionship? Am I just an anti-social freak with an overabundant lack of patience?

I asked the "I don't want to be alone" people and they assure me that, yes, I'm a freak and that most people want a companion, even if it's not the love of their life. It just seems to me that you'll never find the love of your life if you're involved with Mr. He'll Do, or even Mr. Meh Whatever. Not to mention that someone with whom you have very little in common isn't really a "companion" at all.

 

[Nickel]

Hmmm....the only people I know who hop from bedmate to bedmate are dysfunctional in all aspects of their lives so I never gave their motives much thought. I take that back- my Grandma has been single since my Grandpa died 30 years ago and she lives a lifestyle quite like yours, minus the dog. She has a more active social life than I do and she's 88.

 

[mamatutu]

No, you are not a freak. My mother always said she liked her alone time with her best friend...herself. My daughter has some girlfriends that complain about their boyfriends constantly, and know deep down they are not the "ones", but they settle because they need to have a boyfriend at all times. They are wasting their time and need to be single and out there looking for the "one". I guess it's like women who stay in abusive relationships because even though it's horrible, they like the security and don't want to put themselves out there with the chance of being alone.

 

[ICit]

I keep hearing this phrase in various forms:

"I don't want to be alone. I need a companion."

Those words are invariably spoken by someone who has hooked up (or is in the process of hooking up) with someone they don't really know (or like) that much.

Am I the only weirdo who doesn't mind being "alone", and in fact prefers it to having to deal with someone who grates on my nerves because we're not compatible? Seriously, I only know one other person who is happy and busy being unattached. It seems that everyone else is trying to fit square pegs in round holes so they don't have to be "alone".

And I say "alone" in quotes because my life is active and I arrange down time to spend an evening on the couch in front of the TV with my dog. Don't other people do this, or must it be a constant whirlwind of human companionship? Am I just an anti-social freak with an overabundant lack of patience?

I asked the "I don't want to be alone" people and they assure me that, yes, I'm a freak and that most people want a companion, even if it's not the love of their life. It just seems to me that you'll never find the love of your life if you're involved with Mr. He'll Do, or even Mr. Meh Whatever. Not to mention that someone with whom you have very little in common isn't really a "companion" at all.

no... I also enjoy being single.... Im so set in my ways I dont think I want to deal with someone else around...

remind me Friday to tell ya bout my "rules"

 

[Baja28]

I prefer my company to that of other people. I've been single for awhile and I like it. If I wanna date, I date. If not, I don't. I come and go as I please, eat when, what and where I want, burp, fart or run around nekkid. It's MY choosing.

Being single is great!!

 

[itsbob]

I keep hearing this phrase in various forms:

"I don't want to be alone. I need a companion."

Those words are invariably spoken by someone who has hooked up (or is in the process of hooking up) with someone they don't really know (or like) that much.

Am I the only weirdo who doesn't mind being "alone", and in fact prefers it to having to deal with someone who grates on my nerves because we're not compatible? Seriously, I only know one other person who is happy and busy being unattached. It seems that everyone else is trying to fit square pegs in round holes so they don't have to be "alone".

And I say "alone" in quotes because my life is active and I arrange down time to spend an evening on the couch in front of the TV with my dog. Don't other people do this, or must it be a constant whirlwind of human companionship? Am I just an anti-social freak with an overabundant lack of patience?

I asked the "I don't want to be alone" people and they assure me that, yes, I'm a freak and that most people want a companion, even if it's not the love of their life. It just seems to me that you'll never find the love of your life if you're involved with Mr. He'll Do, or even Mr. Meh Whatever. Not to mention that someone with whom you have very little in common isn't really a "companion" at all.

You're not a freak, because you're never alone.

You choose not to have a "companion" when in fact you have many.

Not in the sense that you're knocking boots with a lot of guys, but generally speaking you have a lot of friends, and you can get companionship at any time, or have enough planned gatherings to satisfy the human need for companionship.. You TRULY are not alone.

Some of these people you speak of may not have the social graces of us "everybody loves us" crowd (We ONLY drink Dos Equis!!) and may REALLY be alone. I can understand somebody in that situation truly wanting human companionship, and settling for somebody just to have someone there when they get home.

Maybe we should teach these friends how to bowl overhand, and how to speak French in five languages so they too can bask in the glory of "EVERYBODY loves ME!!"

 

[ICit]

I prefer my company to that of other people. I've been single for awhile and I like it. If I wanna date, I date. If not, I don't. I come and go as I please, eat when, what and where I want, burp, fart or run around nekkid. It's MY choosing.

Being single is great!!

amen.... when u gonna run around nekkid again....

 

[Baja28]

amen.... when u gonna run around nekkid again....

I know your rules!

 

[itsbob]

amen.... when u gonna run around nekkid again....

I think he's waiting for warm weather..

Streaking in cold weather CAN be embarassing..

 

[ICit]

I know your rules!

they are not bad rules... :shrug:

I think he's waiting for warm weather..

Streaking in cold weather CAN be embarassing..

 

[SoMD_Fun_Guy]

Nah, you're not a freak. (Well, maybe you are, but I know nothing about what you do between the sheets)


But seriously, you are NOT a freak. At this point in your life, you've found what works for you. What keeps you happy. Whether or not it involves a human companion doesn't matter. If at some point you feel a need to find someone than you can but please don't feel like you have to fit into some "societal norm".

BTW, if you are a freak between the sheets my # is .....
Just kiddin.

 

[Vince]

I keep hearing this phrase in various forms:

"I don't want to be alone. I need a companion."

Those words are invariably spoken by someone who has hooked up (or is in the process of hooking up) with someone they don't really know (or like) that much.

Am I the only weirdo who doesn't mind being "alone", and in fact prefers it to having to deal with someone who grates on my nerves because we're not compatible? Seriously, I only know one other person who is happy and busy being unattached. It seems that everyone else is trying to fit square pegs in round holes so they don't have to be "alone".

And I say "alone" in quotes because my life is active and I arrange down time to spend an evening on the couch in front of the TV with my dog. Don't other people do this, or must it be a constant whirlwind of human companionship? Am I just an anti-social freak with an overabundant lack of patience?

I asked the "I don't want to be alone" people and they assure me that, yes, I'm a freak and that most people want a companion, even if it's not the love of their life. It just seems to me that you'll never find the love of your life if you're involved with Mr. He'll Do, or even Mr. Meh Whatever. Not to mention that someone with whom you have very little in common isn't really a "companion" at all.

Nope. You're not the only one.

no... I also enjoy being single.... Im so set in my ways I dont think I want to deal with someone else around...

remind me Friday to tell ya bout my "rules"

And that too!

 

[vraiblonde]

Some of these people you speak of may not have the social graces of us "everybody loves us" crowd (We ONLY drink Dos Equis!!) and may REALLY be alone. I can understand somebody in that situation truly wanting human companionship, and settling for somebody just to have someone there when they get home.

See, that's the thing - the "I don't want to be alone" types that I'm referring to have tons of friends and active social lives. They just want someone there all the time - can't go out to dinner or to a party without a date. One of my guy buds frankly told me that the only thing he really likes about his live-in girlfriend is that she's always there. He doesn't have to coordinate plans with her, or schedule time to see her. Whenever he wants to do something, he doesn't have to worry about finding someone available to go with him - other than that, she annoys the piss out of him.

Nope. You're not the only one.

 

[GWguy]

I have friends that are constantly trying to hook me up, which usually fail miserably. They ask, "Aren't you lonely?" My response is always, "I am alone, but I am not lonely."

Like was said, I prefer my own company. If that someone special just happens into my life, fine, but I'm content as I am.

 

[Baja28]

I think he's waiting for warm weather..

Streaking in cold weather CAN be embarassing..

:shrinkage:

they are not bad rules... :shrug:

Nope, not bad at all.

 

[ICit]

:shrinkage:



Nope, not bad at all.

... I thought they were fair as well

 

[luvmygdaughters]

I dont think you're a freak at all. I actually have a good set up I think. I work days Mon. thru Fri. Hubby works nites Mon. thru Fri. We rarely see each other during the week. Saturday and Sundays we spend together but not every Saturday or Sunday. I go to my daughters to see the grandkids or he goes to a sporting event. We get along fine, been together 19 years now, the last 4 months as husband and wife. I have few friends, only because the ones that I do have turn out to be such a PIA, I dont really associate with them much anymore. I know that sounds terrible, but honestly, I'm very happy. The one thing I do miss is my dog. Got to look into getting another one as soon as my granddog and daughter move.

 

[bresamil]

I still have kids at home so I'm rarely alone. I'll chime in on this in 4 years or so when the last one is out the door.

 

[Misfit]

I keep hearing this phrase in various forms:

"I don't want to be alone. I need a companion."

I honestly just need someone to do the laundry. I'm wearing only one sock right now. I have a spouse thingy but then again, only one sock on, so I must reassess.

 

[vraiblonde]

I still have kids at home so I'm rarely alone. I'll chime in on this in 4 years or so when the last one is out the door.

It occurs to me that the people I hear this from are late-40s/early-50s. Maybe that's why they're freaking out.