Another visitation ?

[crabcake]

Re: whine about how 'icky' it is to have to be in the same room with him

Originally posted by unixpirate
crabby.. crabby.. crabby..
Do you hear yourself? Have you ever been in a situation like this guy is in?

Nope. Sure haven't ... but that's probably b/c my ex and I maintain an amicable, mature relationship when it comes to our daughter and visitation. I could and do say loads about him when she's not around, but I wouldn't biatch about the inconvenience of helping arrange visitation for the two of 'em. And he's no angel, either, I assure you. Nevertheless, he's her father, my ex, and it was my choice to procreate with him. I have to live with that so why make it more miserable by being biatchy to each other. :shrug:

 

[unixpirate]

Tina

You married and how many do you have if you don't mind me asking?

 

[crabcake]

Originally posted by Tina2001aniT
I must say that I agree that you should not have to whine about it being "icky" but for reasons previously stated I do not believe it is a good idea.......but on the other hand...If you leave your spouse because you want better for your child...should you really be subject to that every week or every other week??

Was he found guilty of bing a child molester? Did the court order supervised visits? What's the deal? Lay the FACTS out so I can figure WTH you are trying to say.

 

[mainman]

There are way too many variables to argue with you about on this subject J...


Bottom line, no matter what.. THE WELFARE OF THAT CHILD COMES FIRST...



Sometimes, seeing the other parent is not always in the better interest of the child...

 

[crabcake]

Originally posted by mainman
There are way too many variables to argue with you about on this subject J...

Bottom line, no matter what.. THE WELFARE OF THAT CHILD COMES FIRST...

Sometimes, seeing the other parent is not always in the better interest of the child...

I agree whole heartedly ... but that's for a judge to decide. If the guy/girl is that bad, and he or she is a convicted sex offender/drug dealer/crack whore, I think the judge would take that into account and order supervised visits, if any at all. If they're denied visitation, that's that. But if it's granted, and it's supervised, I don't see the problem. Hell, I'd take DQ to see her dad in prison if he were there if nothing else, solely for the benefit of showing her (without actually having to tell her), "Keep your shiat straight and don't screw around or you could be here too!"

 

[Jskijunky]

Originally posted by unixpirate
First your an idgit for even thinking about letter her
have the child for any length of time. Where and why do you think this all started in the first place??!?!!??

You need to stop thinking about yourself, your ex, whatever and think about the child. If you have to bite the bullet for 10 yrs and not go out for the sake of your childs mental health, support or what ever, then so be it!

Get a grip and stop your whining. That's why they have laws and you have a lawyer. Jeeeeeeeeeeeeez!

I'm having a hard time seeing where I was whining. The "going out" thing was more a figure of speech than anything. I couldn't care less if I ever go out again. I was basically asking if anyone new a good babysitter in case of an emergency. Her mother wiped out a automobile a few years ago and I had no choice but to take her all the way to D.C. after midnight to the hospital to see her mother with tubes coming out everywhere simply because I don't have anyone to call.
Her mother and I get along fine. But after having to pick my daughter up from the frederick county sheriff after they snatched her from a crackhouse, I filed the exparte thing...you know what, I'm tired of explaining. Thanks to everyone for your input.

 

[mainman]

Originally posted by cariblue
jski, good luck. This was the wrong place to ask for advice about something as important as your child. Too many opinionated azzholes.

Who was being as ass?

 

[Jskijunky]

Originally posted by cariblue
jski, good luck. This was the wrong place to ask for advice about something as important as your child. Too many opinionated azzholes.

Oh, do come back when you just wanna have fun. The folks in the forums are geared more toward that.

You might be right to a certain extent but several people gave me some good things to think about that I hadn't already so it worked out ok. I've been reading these threads for over a year now and its pretty obvious who should be listened to and who should read the little saying at the bottom of this post.

 

[Christy]

Originally posted by crabcake
I hope your kids hate you when they grow up for being so damn selfish and immature, and not putting aside your petty differences for their sake.

You banged the person and created life; YOU should have to sit with 'em; not some court appointed babysitter. Quitcherbiatchin and be a grown-up and a parent instead of a crybaby.

Oh that's nice. I think it's highly commendable that Jsk sacrifices almost every weekend sitting around chaperoning the ex's visits. I would say that's being pretty grown-up. I don't think anyone can honestly say they'd be willing to do such a thing.

 

[christy20657]

Originally posted by Jskijunky
The order was for one year. Its not for all weekend or anything,only about an hour and a half for a movie. I think I already know what the concensus is. Tuff crap for her, but I could use a good babysitter, I haven't been out for almost ayear.

Well welcome to parenthood! I dont get this, you are willing to put your daughter at risk so you can have a night out? There are plenty of teenagers who would probably watch the kid for like $2 an hour!

And did you say "good babysitter" are you referring to the mom as a "good babysitter"? That is absured! You were probably spewing all kinds of terrible things about her (and rightfully so) to get that restraining order yet now you want to say she is a good babysitter? If I were the court, I would say to you well why all of a sudden is she good enough to be a babysitter but not good enough to be her parent?

You make no sense! You dont "think" she does these things anymore but the bottom line is, if she gave a rat's ass about the kid she would have completed what was asked of her and tried to prove to the court that she was now fit to be a part of the childs life!

If you let her go, you are just as unfit as the mother is!

 

[Jskijunky]

Originally posted by christy20657
Well welcome to parenthood! I dont get this, you are willing to put your daughter at risk so you can have a night out? There are plenty of teenagers who would probably watch the kid for like $2 an hour!

And did you say "good babysitter" are you referring to the mom as a "good babysitter"? That is absured! You were probably spewing all kinds of terrible things about her (and rightfully so) to get that restraining order yet now you want to say she is a good babysitter? If I were the court, I would say to you well why all of a sudden is she good enough to be a babysitter but not good enough to be her parent?

You make no sense! You dont "think" she does these things anymore but the bottom line is, if she gave a rat's ass about the kid she would have completed what was asked of her and tried to prove to the court that she was now fit to be a part of the childs life!

If you let her go, you are just as unfit as the mother is!

You really should read the whole thread so that have some clue as to what you're talking about.I wasn't serious about needing a babysitter and it certainly wouldn't be her mother if I did.
Anyway, this is an old thread and the problem has been solved. Thanks for your input anyway.

 

[Christy]

Hey Christy, whatever was the outcome of your dilemma?

 

[christy20657]

No outcome yet...still do not know if she showed up for her half of the paternity test in WV. We know the kid didnt cuz he is in a different state w/ the "grandparents".

So we are just trying to go on with life until something comes along and pulls the rug out from under us again.

Calvert County says if they have no response by Sept. they will just close the case and they doubt that she will be cooperative.

Who knows, I have just realized whatever is going to happen, is going to happen we will just have to take it as it comes and deal with it.

The Xanex helps me to think that way!