Blessings in disguise

vraiblonde

Board Mommy
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I have a friend who is going through a rough time and life is piling on him hard right now. We've all been there, right? When you feel stressed and scared and hopeless, and fear for the future. You haven't quite hit rock bottom, but you can visualize it clearly.

My experience is that those times - when I felt as though I'd lost everything - were a motivator to change my life for the better. I thought my old life was perfect and I was happy - No. There was way more happiness and perfection to be had, but I wasn't going to achieve it (or even look for it) because I was happy and comfortable with what I had. Almost every time life has thrown me a major hardship, it became the stepping stone to bigger and better things. Every tear shed has led me to where I am right now.

Do you find that to be the case in your life? That something you perceived at the time to be a tragedy, not counting the death of a loved one - lost your job, divorced, health scare, etc - turned out to be a blessing in disguise?

Years ago when I was in my 20s, a single mother with a dead-end job and two kids to raise, I was going through a rough time and stressing to a friend, and he said, "You know, Dee Jay, God always answers our prayers. It's just sometimes the answer is 'no' because He has something else in mind for you." I've always remembered that and tried to look past the hardship I was going through to see how it might be a path toward a gift I never knew existed, and therefore wasn't working toward.

Do you find that to be the case in your own life? That something you thought at the time was a tragedy turned out to be the best thing that ever happened to you?
 

struggler44

A Salute to all on Watch
I went through a divorce after 20yrs and had to start over, pretty much lost everything in my life at the time but got through it with prayer and "tomorrow is another day", I couldn't change the past but I could direct the future..... got through it, remarried and life couldn't be better. I hope your friend can find peace.
 

Kyle

Beloved Misanthrope
PREMO Member
I found most of the misery in my life to be people related.

Avoid the people, avoid the problems.

:yay:
 

luvmygdaughters

Well-Known Member
Definitely yes!! Mistakes have been made on my part, as well as others who I trusted and shouldn't have. You cant dwell on these things, pick yourself up, dust off your boots and get to kicking a$$ before someone else kicks yours. My life is great compared to what it was 30 years ago, not perfect mind you, but better than it was.
 

This_person

Well-Known Member
Do you find that to be the case in your life? That something you perceived at the time to be a tragedy, not counting the death of a loved one - lost your job, divorced, health scare, etc - turned out to be a blessing in disguise?

Absolutely!! I wouldn't have my kids without my ex-wife, and I would not give them up for anything in the world. I would not have the job I have today or the job I had 18 years ago if I hadn't been a poor employee and gotten fired - that firing saved me from a place that shuttered up for no good reason, and gave me a 100,000 times better series of jobs after, and helped me become a better person. That end of my marriage gave me my wife today AND I still have my kids.

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Bann

Doris Day meets Lady Gaga
PREMO Member
I have a friend who is going through a rough time and life is piling on him hard right now. We've all been there, right? When you feel stressed and scared and hopeless, and fear for the future. You haven't quite hit rock bottom, but you can visualize it clearly.

My experience is that those times - when I felt as though I'd lost everything - were a motivator to change my life for the better. I thought my old life was perfect and I was happy - No. There was way more happiness and perfection to be had, but I wasn't going to achieve it (or even look for it) because I was happy and comfortable with what I had. Almost every time life has thrown me a major hardship, it became the stepping stone to bigger and better things. Every tear shed has led me to where I am right now.

Do you find that to be the case in your life? That something you perceived at the time to be a tragedy, not counting the death of a loved one - lost your job, divorced, health scare, etc - turned out to be a blessing in disguise?

Years ago when I was in my 20s, a single mother with a dead-end job and two kids to raise, I was going through a rough time and stressing to a friend, and he said, "You know, Dee Jay, God always answers our prayers. It's just sometimes the answer is 'no' because He has something else in mind for you." I've always remembered that and tried to look past the hardship I was going through to see how it might be a path toward a gift I never knew existed, and therefore wasn't working toward.

Do you find that to be the case in your own life? That something you thought at the time was a tragedy turned out to be the best thing that ever happened to you?


Yes. Almost always. :yay:
 
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