Bye Melanie (BS Gal)

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BOP

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I'm sure most of you know by now that my beloved wife passed away a little over a month ago. Married almost twentynine years. She fought a very brave battle with at least 4 types of cancer for about sixteen months. She was the most loving, caring and life loving person I have ever known. I will forever miss her, but I am also glad her suffering is over and it was much quicker than it might have been. I love you, baby. Enjoy your eternal perfect beach.

A few pix.

Aww, that's too bad, DR. Warmest, sincerest condolences on your loss. Don't forget to take care of yourself. She'd want that, I'm sure. The pain won't ever go away, but it will become more bearable, and the rememberances of the good times, the silly times will overshadow the sad times.

Shoot...eyes are leakin'. Doggone allergies. Yeah, that's it, allergies.
 

vraiblonde

Board Mommy
PREMO Member
Patron
I love the idea of an eternal beach.

Melanie told the best stories. She could take the most mundane thing and just have you rolling on the floor when she told you about it. Even when she was annoyed with something, or talking about her unpleasant treatments, she'd have you in tears from laughing so hard.
 

RareBreed

Throwing the deuces
DR,

I hope this is ok that I have this as my FB status. I couldn't stop thinking about her on my drive home from work yesterday and pretty much haven't stopped since reading this thread. I haven't know many people who have passed in my life and didn't expect to be so emotional over a person on a forum whom I didn't know IRL, but I am.

I wanted people not familar with her on this forum to ask who Melanie was. Then I could share what I know of her story with them and show them how remarkable even a stranger can be.

RIP Melanie. I only knew you through your words these last few years but your strength and courage shined brightly, even on your darkest days. Your humor and your kindness will be forever missed. I am just sorry that I never got to witness it in person.17 hours ago clear
 

Baja28

Obama destroyed America
I wanted people not familar with her on this forum to ask who Melanie was. Then I could share what I know of her story with them and show them how remarkable even a stranger can be.

RIP Melanie. I only knew you through your words these last few years but your strength and courage shined brightly, even on your darkest days. Your humor and your kindness will be forever missed. I am just sorry that I never got to witness it in person.17 hours ago clear
That's very nice of you. :huggy:
 

bcp

In My Opinion
People will forget what you said, People will forget what you did. But people will never forget how you made them feel

Melanies sig line.
And she certainly lived by that rule, always tried to make people feel good about themselves.
 

oldman

Lobster Land
The one time we'd met she gave me a bag of cookies she'd made. She just knew how to win hearts.
 

ShyGirl

Active Member
And through the tears, love emerges, bringing great warmth and comfort to all.

I think that we should convert Mel's Premo account to a Private Forum entitled: Melanie's Beach, which would be a safe haven for people to explore their issues and receive compassionate, kind, down to earth, get real responses.
 

hvp05

Methodically disorganized
Melanie told the best stories. She could take the most mundane thing and just have you rolling on the floor when she told you about it.
She was like a real-life Seinfeld. :lmao: She was not afraid to put it all out there, including stuff others might find too personal or embarrassing.



I wanted people not familar with her on this forum to ask who Melanie was. Then I could share what I know of her story with them and show them how remarkable even a stranger can be.
I did that not long after learning of her situation. I sent a mass e-mail to friends and family telling them about her personality then what had befallen her. I reinforced the point that DR made a few posts ago:
Tell those you love how much they mean to you, and tell them often.​

I got a couple responses back saying her story made them cry, but I said if you knew her those tears would be from joy and laughter more than anything else.
 

sockgirl77

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Mel hated me when I first started posting. I got bored while preggers with my last baby and we began to joke around in her. She got interested in my pregnancy and we became online friends. She sent the baby a cute outfit and a stuffed doggie. I named it Rassie of course and it sleeps with me until the baby(almost 3) is old enough to cherish it. She came to visit me at work one day and bring me a house warming gift. A case of AA batteries. Thanks Mel, that helped my new single staus lol. A few months later she came to my son's 4th bday party. She bought him an outfit and at the bottom of the bag was a gift for Mommy (me). I pulled it out in front of family and 26 toddlers. And what do ya know, a pack of AA batteries. My parents rolled and I blushed. The grin on her face was priceless. A few months later she told me she had cancer. I cried for hours. Mel called me a few times a week to hear about my love life. Often she'd make a crack about needing batteries or not. She never hung up the phone without telling me she loved me. When I got the new place I'm in now she gave me a lamp. She told me that it was mood lighting for my bedroom. She went through her closet one day and called me because she found a pair of boots that I HAD to have. I put those on just so I can feel like I've walked in Mel's shoes.
Over the years she became a big sister to me. I've lost many family members and friends but I've never been hurt by their deaths like I have by hers. I shut down and let depression hit me. It's still gets to me. I lay in bed every night hugging my Rassie. I thank God that I've had my bf to help me thru this. I wish he had gotten to meet her. He would have loved her and she would have loved him. Oh and sorry Mel, I won't be marrying who you wanted me to.:lmao:
Sorry for the length of this. Just had to get it out. She brought so much laughter into my life. I know she's looking down at me laughing at the funny crap I do and say. She told me that I was a younger version of her and that I needed to embrace the biatch in me because there's nothing wrong with being a biatch.
Mel,:love:!!!!!
 

ChattyCat

ChattyCat
Sockgirl

Mel hated me when I first started posting. I got bored while preggers with my last baby and we began to joke around in her. She got interested in my pregnancy and we became online friends. She sent the baby a cute outfit and a stuffed doggie. I named it Rassie of course and it sleeps with me until the baby(almost 3) is old enough to cherish it. She came to visit me at work one day and bring me a house warming gift. A case of AA batteries. Thanks Mel, that helped my new single staus lol. A few months later she came to my son's 4th bday party. She bought him an outfit and at the bottom of the bag was a gift for Mommy (me). I pulled it out in front of family and 26 toddlers. And what do ya know, a pack of AA batteries. My parents rolled and I blushed. The grin on her face was priceless. A few months later she told me she had cancer. I cried for hours. Mel called me a few times a week to hear about my love life. Often she'd make a crack about needing batteries or not. She never hung up the phone without telling me she loved me. When I got the new place I'm in now she gave me a lamp. She told me that it was mood lighting for my bedroom. She went through her closet one day and called me because she found a pair of boots that I HAD to have. I put those on just so I can feel like I've walked in Mel's shoes.
Over the years she became a big sister to me. I've lost many family members and friends but I've never been hurt by their deaths like I have by hers. I shut down and let depression hit me. It's still gets to me. I lay in bed every night hugging my Rassie. I thank God that I've had my bf to help me thru this. I wish he had gotten to meet her. He would have loved her and she would have loved him. Oh and sorry Mel, I won't be marrying who you wanted me to.:lmao:
Sorry for the length of this. Just had to get it out. She brought so much laughter into my life. I know she's looking down at me laughing at the funny crap I do and say. She told me that I was a younger version of her and that I needed to embrace the biatch in me because there's nothing wrong with being a biatch.
Mel,:love:!!!!!

so sweet........
 
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CalvertNewbie

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Yep, (she loved your photos)

And I realize now more than ever you don't know what you have until it just is not there anymore.

If you have someone you love, any of you, let them know you do every single moment.

Very well said, it's so important to let people know the impact they've had on your life. You just reminded me that I really need to make more frequent phone calls to some of my relatives/friends that I constantly think about and love.

Mel was so funny. She would call me almost every night right around 8:30 p.m. Oh no, what would I say to her. HONESTY...that's what she sought from me. We talked about her love for her husband and her son. For her dog, Rassie. and how despite all odds, how she came to love a silly Boxer.

As much as she thanked me for what I gave her, I am forever indebted to her.

So sorry for your loss. She sounds like such a wonderful friend, as do you. Hang in there!

Mel hated me when I first started posting. I got bored while preggers with my last baby and we began to joke around in her. She got interested in my pregnancy and we became online friends. She sent the baby a cute outfit and a stuffed doggie. I named it Rassie of course and it sleeps with me until the baby(almost 3) is old enough to cherish it. She came to visit me at work one day and bring me a house warming gift. A case of AA batteries. Thanks Mel, that helped my new single staus lol. A few months later she came to my son's 4th bday party. She bought him an outfit and at the bottom of the bag was a gift for Mommy (me). I pulled it out in front of family and 26 toddlers. And what do ya know, a pack of AA batteries. My parents rolled and I blushed. The grin on her face was priceless. A few months later she told me she had cancer. I cried for hours. Mel called me a few times a week to hear about my love life. Often she'd make a crack about needing batteries or not. She never hung up the phone without telling me she loved me. When I got the new place I'm in now she gave me a lamp. She told me that it was mood lighting for my bedroom. She went through her closet one day and called me because she found a pair of boots that I HAD to have. I put those on just so I can feel like I've walked in Mel's shoes.
Over the years she became a big sister to me. I've lost many family members and friends but I've never been hurt by their deaths like I have by hers. I shut down and let depression hit me. It's still gets to me. I lay in bed every night hugging my Rassie. I thank God that I've had my bf to help me thru this. I wish he had gotten to meet her. He would have loved her and she would have loved him. Oh and sorry Mel, I won't be marrying who you wanted me to.:lmao:
Sorry for the length of this. Just had to get it out. She brought so much laughter into my life. I know she's looking down at me laughing at the funny crap I do and say. She told me that I was a younger version of her and that I needed to embrace the biatch in me because there's nothing wrong with being a biatch.
Mel,:love:!!!!!

Wow, that sure sounds like a typical sister relationship! AA batteries! :killingme

Sorry you lost such a great friend. I lost one of my best friends 5 yrs ago and still think of him every day. I'm sure he's laughing at me like Melanie will be laughing at you. I'm glad you have so many funny memories of her.
 

Nanny Pam

************
This thread keeps sucking me in, just like a magnet. Just reading and learning about how much Mel was loved. She sure has touched many, many lives.

:bawl:
 

atrusomder

Isaiah 55:8-9
I'm sure most of you know by now that my beloved wife passed away a little over a month ago. Married almost twentynine years. She fought a very brave battle with at least 4 types of cancer for about sixteen months. She was the most loving, caring and life loving person I have ever known. I will forever miss her, but I am also glad her suffering is over and it was much quicker than it might have been. I love you, baby. Enjoy your eternal perfect beach.

A few pix.

Sorry for your loss. She'll be missed...
 

ontheriver

Well-Known Member
I didn't know Mel IRL, but when I started reading this forum she was my favorite. I always respected and admired the things she said, ... she said them with total honesty and integrity. I also had many smiles and laughs. Thank you for that BS Gal.

I also lost my spouse (best friend). It's been a long time now.....but I still think of him (every day) and I am so sorry for your loss. Just know DR, how blessed you are to have known her.

Remember...love lives on.
 

smilin

BOXER NATION
My condolences. It's been seven and a half years since I lost my 'little girl' to cancer.
Nothing much helps, just take it day to day.
 
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