jaclyn
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Hi all..just wanted to get some input, and see if anyone feels that my anger is warrented.
Last week, my family and I went on a camping trip. My children are both girls, 12yrs and 8yrs. Along with us, came my friend and her 2 children. Her oldest girl is 13, and her youngest boy is 17 months. He happens to be my godson. The baby is usually such a good baby. I swear I dont think I've ever heard him cry...BEFORE the trip that is!
We rented a cabin. We did not "rough it" by any means. Indoor plumbing, kitchen, shower, High Def. Tv, hottub etc..I'll tell ya, it was nicer than my own damn house, lol.
Anyway, on to the venting. My "friend" really showed her colors this week. I guess you never really know someone, until you spend a week with them. The things she would allow her children to do, shocked me. For instance, one morning around 5am..I hear her get up. I assume the baby woke her. She went into the bathroom, him in tow, and proceeded to let him take the cast iron lock, that was detachable from the door, and bang it on the porcelain sink! The banging lasted long enough, that I got out of bed, to see what the hell was going on. Only, when I called through the door " whats going on", did the banging stop. There were other times that she handed him the remote to the TV, and let him throw it all over the cabin...gave him cookies for breakfast, and didnt even attempt to clean up the crumbs. I saw her at one point brush the crumbs, with her feet, under the couch.
I cooked EVERY meal. Breakfast, lunch and dinner. Not that I minded, because I knew she doesnt cook. Thats fine. But, how about a little help with the dishes?
Once the crying and whining got to be enough, my hubby and I went outside...for a little peace and quiet. Well, here she comes, bringing the baby outside. Once the whining and crying started there, hubby and I went inside. Guess who followed?
I tried helping her with him, because usually he is attached to me at the hip anyway (and I love it)..but she would get pissed off when he was with me, and not crying, and snatch him away..only to get him upset again. I never understood that. I heard her at one point late at night, throw him in the pack-n-play, and tell him " Your really starting to F-in piss me off now". So, I went out there, and tried to calm him.
All I heard from her all week, is how this was such a waste of her money, and how she shouldnt have come. Her mother (who she lives with) offered to keep the baby for her, many times before she left. But she refused. All the times my hubby and I tried to help with him, and keep him occupied, she seemed to get an aditude about it. I've never seen her act this way before.
Well, the day before we left..my girls, and her daughter made friends with the boys in the next cabin. It was a relief actually, as they were all started to get a little tired of eachother. Her daughter comes in the cabin, and tells her mom, that she is going to go play football with the boys. Instead of my friend saying "ok"..she says.." you better get in there and get all sexed up first". WHAT THE HELL IS THAT?! Ugh!
The morning we were due to leave, the cabin needed to be cleaned. They charge a cleaning fee, if its not. So, my hubby carrys EVERYTHING out to the cars, himself, while I am scrubbing the bathroom and kitchen. Where is my friend? Outside sitting on the picnic table, offering no help! She pawns that baby off on her 13 yr old any other time, but this time made it a point to stay as far away from "work" as possible. We had coolers of food, that my hubby could have used a little help with, carrying down the stairs..and she sat there, and just watched. Pitiful.
I never really said anything, about any of this, while we were on our trip...things were bad enough, and I didnt want to add any more tension to the house.
The only time I said something, is when she would go outside cussing, and acting like pure trash..when other people were outside.
My question is...should I just get over it...be mad at myself for setting up this trip...or bring all of this to her attention?
Last week, my family and I went on a camping trip. My children are both girls, 12yrs and 8yrs. Along with us, came my friend and her 2 children. Her oldest girl is 13, and her youngest boy is 17 months. He happens to be my godson. The baby is usually such a good baby. I swear I dont think I've ever heard him cry...BEFORE the trip that is!
We rented a cabin. We did not "rough it" by any means. Indoor plumbing, kitchen, shower, High Def. Tv, hottub etc..I'll tell ya, it was nicer than my own damn house, lol.
Anyway, on to the venting. My "friend" really showed her colors this week. I guess you never really know someone, until you spend a week with them. The things she would allow her children to do, shocked me. For instance, one morning around 5am..I hear her get up. I assume the baby woke her. She went into the bathroom, him in tow, and proceeded to let him take the cast iron lock, that was detachable from the door, and bang it on the porcelain sink! The banging lasted long enough, that I got out of bed, to see what the hell was going on. Only, when I called through the door " whats going on", did the banging stop. There were other times that she handed him the remote to the TV, and let him throw it all over the cabin...gave him cookies for breakfast, and didnt even attempt to clean up the crumbs. I saw her at one point brush the crumbs, with her feet, under the couch.
I cooked EVERY meal. Breakfast, lunch and dinner. Not that I minded, because I knew she doesnt cook. Thats fine. But, how about a little help with the dishes?
Once the crying and whining got to be enough, my hubby and I went outside...for a little peace and quiet. Well, here she comes, bringing the baby outside. Once the whining and crying started there, hubby and I went inside. Guess who followed?
I tried helping her with him, because usually he is attached to me at the hip anyway (and I love it)..but she would get pissed off when he was with me, and not crying, and snatch him away..only to get him upset again. I never understood that. I heard her at one point late at night, throw him in the pack-n-play, and tell him " Your really starting to F-in piss me off now". So, I went out there, and tried to calm him.
All I heard from her all week, is how this was such a waste of her money, and how she shouldnt have come. Her mother (who she lives with) offered to keep the baby for her, many times before she left. But she refused. All the times my hubby and I tried to help with him, and keep him occupied, she seemed to get an aditude about it. I've never seen her act this way before.
Well, the day before we left..my girls, and her daughter made friends with the boys in the next cabin. It was a relief actually, as they were all started to get a little tired of eachother. Her daughter comes in the cabin, and tells her mom, that she is going to go play football with the boys. Instead of my friend saying "ok"..she says.." you better get in there and get all sexed up first". WHAT THE HELL IS THAT?! Ugh!
The morning we were due to leave, the cabin needed to be cleaned. They charge a cleaning fee, if its not. So, my hubby carrys EVERYTHING out to the cars, himself, while I am scrubbing the bathroom and kitchen. Where is my friend? Outside sitting on the picnic table, offering no help! She pawns that baby off on her 13 yr old any other time, but this time made it a point to stay as far away from "work" as possible. We had coolers of food, that my hubby could have used a little help with, carrying down the stairs..and she sat there, and just watched. Pitiful.
I never really said anything, about any of this, while we were on our trip...things were bad enough, and I didnt want to add any more tension to the house.
The only time I said something, is when she would go outside cussing, and acting like pure trash..when other people were outside.
My question is...should I just get over it...be mad at myself for setting up this trip...or bring all of this to her attention?
her for me, k? Thats just dumb. She is trashy, stop hanging out with her.