Car Seat Dilema

[sockgirl77]

Set your boundaries...and limits.

The sending your kid out in the socks/jammies thing is cool now...no kid really cares. Do you want to know how many times I myself have gone to the WalMart in my jammies with my roommates? Though think thru the socks...make them go barefoot. You end up paying for the sock thing when you have to wash them.

The whole teeth/bathroom thing is usually for younger children that are too young to have real chores. The concept is behavioral, rewarding good behaviors and habits, raising the difficulty of getting the chores with age. You don't have to do it per chore, say max allowance is $7 a week (that is a lot of money, but I don't like math). A grid chart with each daily task-say 10 tasks a day at $.10 each, 20 tasks a $.05 however you want to do it.

You guys are harder and pickier than my professors!

And just how many kids do you have? Does this work well for you?

 

[KarenOT]

I didn't say I couldn't do it...Computing and evaluating the statistics behind this and that and the other is enough math for one day. It's mind boggling. The Bio/stats/etc. courses weren't bad, chem is beyond easy-the problems you're given any fifth grader can complete.

Would the example of a penny and a half a chore really make the example better? Fifty cents a day at two cents a chore...

A thank you is sufficient for doing chores, etc. I never said it wasn't. The question was what to do about the kid asking for money, to which my reply was make him earn it...

The underlying value is that whether you are giving the kid the money when they ask or buying them a toy in Wal-mart every time you go you are creating a monster. At least paying them for chores makes it easier to say no. Values, earning things you want yourself, etc. The poster must have difficulty saying no or she wouldn't have asked.

 

[KarenOT]

BTW...its a psychology technique from behavioral therapy.

Think Pavlov's dogs salivating...

 

[sockgirl77]

BTW...its a psychology technique from behavioral therapy.

Think Pavlov's dogs salivating...

 

[Ehesef]

Set your boundaries...and limits.

The sending your kid out in the socks/jammies thing is cool now...no kid really cares. Do you want to know how many times I myself have gone to the WalMart in my jammies with my roommates? Though think thru the socks...make them go barefoot. You end up paying for the sock thing when you have to wash them.

The whole teeth/bathroom thing is usually for younger children that are too young to have real chores. The concept is behavioral, rewarding good behaviors and habits, raising the difficulty of getting the chores with age. You don't have to do it per chore, say max allowance is $7 a week (that is a lot of money, but I don't like math). A grid chart with each daily task-say 10 tasks a day at $.10 each, 20 tasks a $.05 however you want to do it.

You guys are harder and pickier than my professors!

Dude, if people are getting rewarded for doing what they're supposed to do, I'm getting screwed. How do I get in on this?

 

[KarenOT]

Essentially, good behavior is rewarded. The behavior becomes a habit, and when rewards are removed, the behavior remains.

Like a screaming tantrum in the middle of the store gets what it wants to shut them up instead of leaving/spanking/whatever you'd do-the kid learns that screaming and tantruming in the store gets you what you want.

 

[mainman]

Essentially, good behavior is rewarded. The behavior becomes a habit, and when rewards are removed, the behavior remains.

I've seen this before and it you're full of ####... Before you know it, the kid has his/her hand out everytime they do anything... and the reward becomes a habit... My kids reward is me NOT thumping him...:shrug:

 

[Ehesef]

I've seen this before and it you're full of ####... Before you know it, the kid has his/her hand out everytime they do anything... and the reward becomes a habit... My kids reward is me NOT thumping him...:shrug:

That's how it was at my house. And I came out ok...

 

[Tina2001aniT]

I've seen this before and it you're full of ####... Before you know it, the kid has his/her hand out everytime they do anything... and the reward becomes a habit... My kids reward is me NOT thumping him...:shrug:

She must be referring to the new kindler gentler, I am my kid's best friend parenting :shrug:

 

[Pete]

I've seen this before and it you're full of ####... Before you know it, the kid has his/her hand out everytime they do anything... and the reward becomes a habit... My kids reward is me NOT thumping him...:shrug:

KarenOT,

Perhaps you should ignore that pillar of academia and listen to those with a Black Belt in effective parenting like Kwi Chang Mainman.

 

[mainman]

She must be referring to the new kindler gentler, I am my kid's best friend parenting :shrug:

I think her friend is a glass pipe...:shrug:

 

[KarenOT]

It was just an idea. You're free to post any of your ideas. I don't have kids...I have multiple textbook theories and a boatload of babysitting experience. You guys probably know best. I was just looking to find out what parenting needs were in the area to start a support group. So far I have a list of twenty things that I need to look for more info on.

 

[morganj614]

Essentially, good behavior is rewarded. The behavior becomes a habit, and when rewards are removed, the behavior remains.

Like a screaming tantrum in the middle of the store gets what it wants to shut them up instead of leaving/spanking/whatever you'd do-the kid learns that screaming and tantruming in the store gets you what you want.

You get funnier each post. The behavior remains with no reward, huh? How many real kids have you raised?

 

[Tina2001aniT]

I was just looking to find out what parenting needs were in the area to start a support group. So far I have a list of twenty things that I need to look for more info on.

I can't even think of anything good to say.....just...

 

[RoseRed]

It was just an idea. You're free to post any of your ideas. I don't have kids...I have multiple textbook theories and a boatload of babysitting experience. You guys probably know best. I was just looking to find out what parenting needs were in the area to start a support group. So far I have a list of twenty things that I need to look for more info on.

No kids, but the expert. You just wait for your just desserts.

 

[sockgirl77]

It was just an idea. You're free to post any of your ideas. I don't have kids...I have multiple textbook theories and a boatload of babysitting experience. You guys probably know best. I was just looking to find out what parenting needs were in the area to start a support group. So far I have a list of twenty things that I need to look for more info on.

Kindly S T F U with your textbook theories. Pop a few kids out then come in here and give advice. If you were my kid, I'd smack the hell out of you.

 

[itsbob]

BTW...its a psychology technique from behavioral therapy.

Think Pavlov's dogs salivating...

Bribing someone to do what they should be doing for free has nothing to do with Pavlov's dog..

Or whould we ring a bell each time our kid brushes his teeth??

 

[mainman]

It was just an idea. You're free to post any of your ideas. I don't have kids...I have multiple textbook theories and a boatload of babysitting experience. You guys probably know best. I was just looking to find out what parenting needs were in the area to start a support group. So far I have a list of twenty things that I need to look for more info on.

Karen,
The answers you seek are not in any books... Each and every day is a new unscripted adventure... You need OTJ training for this stuff... Go forth and multiply and ye shall find the answers ye seeketh...

 

[morganj614]

Essentially, good behavior is rewarded. The behavior becomes a habit, and when rewards are removed, the behavior remains.

Like a screaming tantrum in the middle of the store gets what it wants to shut them up instead of leaving/spanking/whatever you'd do-the kid learns that screaming and tantruming in the store gets you what you want.

All this will get you is a child that throws a tantrum because they will get paid to shut up. How can you possibly start a parent support group when #1- you have never been a parent and #2 you are clueless as to raising a real child and not a text book baby?

 

[itsbob]

It was just an idea. You're free to post any of your ideas. I don't have kids...I have multiple textbook theories and a boatload of babysitting experience. You guys probably know best. I was just looking to find out what parenting needs were in the area to start a support group. So far I have a list of twenty things that I need to look for more info on.

Have you ever held a real job??

Have you been a professional student your entire adult life?

Still living at home with Mommy and Daddy, or do you dorm?

Who pays the bills??