Child support questions?

[pixiegirl]

The mother stated that her boyfriend has permission to discipline her kids as he sees fit. She has nothing against the spankings and spanks them herself. She did say that her boyfriend does not spank his own children because his ex does not permit spanking. Now, my friends oldest child did say that she and her brother get spanked alot by her mother and her mothers boyfriend. This has my friend angered. He doesnt spank his kids. But the major concern was how frightened his son was of getting the spanking. it wasnt normal behavior for him.

Is there a chance that the child could be being overly dramatic. My oldest at the threat of a spanking will put on a show that would make Hollywood beat down the door if they saw it. You'd think that he was about to have an arm amputated, tears, begging, all out hysteria. I can probably count on one hand how many times he's had an actual spanking or even been swatted. My babe on the other hand is a total $hit. Hard as nails, will take it and barely complain. It has such little effect on him that I've had to resort to other forms of punishment and a real tail whoppin if all else fails.

 

[meme]

My mom would pick up the closest object and spank me. I've heard stories where the child had to go in the back yard and pick out their own switch. It really isn't that big of a deal, IMO.

I stand corrected, I did had something thrown at me once or twice. Fortunately my mom never had a good aim. But your right about having to go out in the back yard and pick out their own switch. I haven't used anything yet other then my hand on my kids but they are still young. Gimmie some time though!

 

[danceintherain]

Is there a chance that the child could be being overly dramatic. My oldest at the threat of a spanking will put on a show that would make Hollywood beat down the door if they saw it. You'd think that he was about to have an arm amputated, tears, begging, all out hysteria. I can probably count on one hand how many times he's had an actual spanking or even been swatted. My babe on the other hand is a total $hit. Hard as nails, will take it and barely complain. It has such little effect on him that I've had to resort to other forms of punishment and a real tail whoppin if all else fails.

No, the 3 year old is a pretty easy going little fellow. He has never reacted like that towards anything. He gets his feelings hurt just by telling him no and putting him in a time out. His face will turn a little red from embarassment and he will get alittle teary eyed.

 

[itsbob]

Cases can be re-examined if there is a change in status. Since the custodial is no longer employed, I'd say that is a change in status.

And the court will probably reward her MORE in child support as she has no income.. I wouldn't b!tch about it, if you were happy with the amonut of child support before, and she's not asking for more.. let it lie.

 

[pixiegirl]

No, the 3 year old is a pretty easy going little fellow. He has never reacted like that towards anything. He gets his feelings hurt just by telling him no and putting him in a time out. His face will turn a little red from embarassment and he will get alittle teary eyed.

Maybe your friend should speak directly with the bf then and voice his concerns. Chances are there is at least a little "bad blood" with the baby momma and she could take his questions/concerns as criticism and things could get ugly and she'd be unwilling to compromise. If the bf doesn't spank his own children because his baby momma doesn't want him to I don't find it impossible that he'd take the bio dad's wishes into consideration.

 

[Dougstermd]

Congratulations, your friend is now legally a sperm donor and a paycheck. Tell him I said welcome to the club.

when do we have our next meeting?

 

[Qurious]

I'll be damned if another adult is putting their hands on my kids and they aren't married.

A boyfriend? GTFOH....what dude needs to do is go down to the courthouse and file the proper paperwork to get that situation handled STAT. He can get a court order stating that corporal punishment is to be done by the biological parent only. And let her go ahead and violate it so the kids can be taken away....

PEOPLE MUST KNOW THEIR RIGHTS.....research for the childrens sake.

These dumb broads are out of their mind if they think their boyfriend should have any say so over the children when it comes to discipline. If you wanna raise my children with me then you will be my husband, not some boyfriend that I'm shacking up with.

And she aint working??!!! File a motion for a decrease in child support. She'll have to come with financial statements proving that she needs what your already giving her. If she aint working, that wipes out child care expenses....your friend should be all good in this situation.

 

[julz20684]

I'll be damned if another adult is putting their hands on my kids and they aren't married.

A boyfriend? GTFOH....what dude needs to do is go down to the courthouse and file the proper paperwork to get that situation handled STAT. He can get a court order stating that corporal punishment is to be done by the biological parent only. And let her go ahead and violate it so the kids can be taken away....

PEOPLE MUST KNOW THEIR RIGHTS.....research for the childrens sake.

These dumb broads are out of their mind if they think their boyfriend should have any say so over the children when it comes to discipline. If you wanna raise my children with me then you will be my husband, not some boyfriend that I'm shacking up with.

And she aint working??!!! File a motion for a decrease in child support. She'll have to come with financial statements proving that she needs what your already giving her. If she aint working, that wipes out child care expenses....your friend should be all good in this situation.

Corporal punishment is not allowed in the state of Maryland

 

[itsbob]

Corporal punishment is not allowed in the state of Maryland

How about Sergeant Punishment??

 

[Qurious]

Corporal punishment is not allowed in the state of Maryland

what r u talking about? corporal punishment is another term used for spanking.

 

[Chasey_Lane]

what r u talking about? corporal punishment is another term used for spanking.

 

[julz20684]

what r u talking about? corporal punishment is another term used for spanking.

Corporal punishment is spanking by an object.

 

[MMDad]

Corporal punishment is not allowed in the state of Maryland

I hate to agree with Qurious, but here's the law:

(2) If the person for whom relief is sought is a child, "abuse" may also include abuse of a child, as defined in Title 5, Subtitle 7 of this article. Nothing in this subtitle shall be construed to prohibit reasonable punishment, including reasonable corporal punishment, in light of the age and condition of the child, from being performed by a parent or stepparent of the child.

 

[julz20684]

I hate to agree with Qurious, but here's the law:

I stand corrected...I guess Judge Claggett in Calvert County didn't know what he was talking about

 

[itsbob]

I hate to agree with Qurious, but here's the law:

Corporal Punishmentis legal in all 50 states (FROM A PARENT) however read this article..

http://findarticles.com/p/articles/mi_qn4183/is_20040305/ai_n10060498

and see where they try to turn corporal punishment into abuse.. and the possibility of continued abuse.

Now what gets me about this case. Here's two parents that had reported to them that their child kicked and hit a teacher at his daycare.. They took him home and did to him what my parents would have done, although I don't think near as violent as I would have got.

THEN the daycare reports them for abuse..

Have to wonder what the daycare would have done if they had given him a time out, and the teacher beatings had continued..

 

[itsbob]

In the situation above.. the BF is not her husband, is not a biological parent.. By MD law I would say that constitutes child abuse.

 

[Qurious]

In the situation above.. the BF is not her husband, is not a biological parent.. By MD law I would say that constitutes child abuse.

and there it is!!

and whats wild is that his babys moms won't let him spank his own kids but he putting his hands on someone elses kids....obviously she knows the law. She can have it say in a court order what he can and cannot do when it comes to anything physical with the kids. IF she didnt want him giving them a bath a judge can put that in the order....

u tappin that ass doens't give you permission to hit my kids...these women need to have their children taken away or they deserve to be locked up for neglect.

 

[oldnavy]

And she aint working??!!! File a motion for a decrease in child support. She'll have to come with financial statements proving that she needs what your already giving her. If she aint working, that wipes out child care expenses....your friend should be all good in this situation.

Granted, my case is in VA and things may not be the same here in MD, but child support (in VA) is a set number based on the number of children and gross income of both parents. Once the $$$ amount is determined the split between the parents is calculated Prorata based on each parents current income. If mom LOST her job due to no fault of her own, she could probably go to court and get an increase. If mom QUIT her job for no good reason (like my kids mom did) then she probably won't get any more money out of the dad.

Circumstances are many and they do apply.

 

[Midnightrider]

I stand corrected...I guess Judge Claggett in Calvert County didn't know what he was talking about

or more likely you just heard wrong

 

[BillnChristi]

I have a friend who pays child support and when the support was calculated the yearly wages of the custodial and non-custodial parent were considered. The custodial parent is no longer working and is living off of the child support from the non-custodial parent. Is this permissable or do both parties need to remain employed? Also, my friend has an issue with his ex's current boyfriend. The boyfriend is spanking and disciplining my friends children. According to the states child protective services there are no laws preventing this. Has anyone gone through anything similar?

Unfortunately, the custodial parent cannot be forced to work. I also disagree with this. They should also be responsible for providing for their children. I just went today to the BOSE representative today and he said they CAN'T be forced to work. Only the non-custodial parent can be. YES it is unfair.

For my situation, my child support also includes daycare. Well neither of my children have been in daycare for over 3 years. I have tried to get my child support modified to no end. It has been over a year since my last attempt and the paperwork is still "pending". I have even begged my ex-wife to take me back to court. If she decides she wants a modification it will only take 30 days to have a court day..but for me..it can take 2 years.

All I can say is I hope it isn't long before they reach 18. Then the ex will have to find a job. It will be funny when that happens. She will only be able to get a job making minimum wage because she will have NO skillls for the workforce and not been employeed in such a long time. Just thank your blessings that the children will eventually be 18 and he/she will have to get a job. I can't wait for that day.