Dating ?

[Tigerlily]

Ok need some help here please. I have been seeing this guy who has two kids that are close to my kids age. We have never introduced our children to each other. We have agreed that we are moving from the dating stage to the involved stage and he wants the kids to meet. Any suggestions as to how to do this. Tia.

Btw the kids ages are 7 & 4 for him and 5 & 6 for mine.

 

[CMC122]

Have a picnic at a park:shrug:

 

[bresamil]

Ok need some help here please. I have been seeing this guy who has two kids that are close to my kids age. We have never introduced our children to each other. We have agreed that we are moving from the dating stage to the involved stage and he wants the kids to meet. Any suggestions as to how to do this. Tia.

Btw the kids ages are 7 & 4 for him and 5 & 6 for mine.

No clue but let me know how it goes. I've never figured out a smooth way for the kids to meet. How about...accidentally running into each other somewhere?

 

[Tigerlily]

I had that same thought on the picnic. A few happy meals and meet at the playground. He also suggested Hyperspaz.

 

[bresamil]

. He also suggested Hyperspaz.

No guarantee your kids would meet in that zoo!

 

[fddog]

hyper zone, chucky cheese let them be in there enviroment when they meet, they will have so much fun playing, it makes for less un comfortable situations.

 

[Tigerlily]

hyper zone, chucky cheese let them be in there enviroment when they meet, they will have so much fun playing, it makes for less un comfortable situations.

I think you have a good point there. I think a one on one scenario could be very uncomfortable especially if the kids don't like each other or even worse us.

 

[fddog]

I think you have a good point there. I think a one on one scenario could be very uncomfortable especially if the kids don't like each other or even worse us.

it is never a good idea of putting pressure on them with there first meeting.

 

[Tigerlily]

it is never a good idea of putting pressure on them with there first meeting.

I totally agree. Thanks

 

[vraiblonde]

Make it no big deal. :shrug: If you were going to hook up with a female friend and she was bringing her kids along, you wouldn't think anything of it, right? So do the same thing with your beau and his kids - "We're going to go to the park with So-and-So and he's bringing his kids."

 

[sockgirl77]

Make it no big deal. :shrug: If you were going to hook up with a female friend and she was bringing her kids along, you wouldn't think anything of it, right? So do the same thing with your beau and his kids - "We're going to go to the park with So-and-So and he's bringing his kids."

 

[aps45819]

Any suggestions as to how to do this. Tia.

Btw the kids ages are 7 & 4 for him and 5 & 6 for mine.

Kids don't have the problems of integrating themselves with new people the way adults do.
Just go somewhere together.

 

[Tigerlily]

Make it no big deal. :shrug: If you were going to hook up with a female friend and she was bringing her kids along, you wouldn't think anything of it, right? So do the same thing with your beau and his kids - "We're going to go to the park with So-and-So and he's bringing his kids."

I see that too. I guess I am just nervous about them not liking me or the idea of me and dad. I have no worries that my kids will like him as he is a big kid himself. This I guess is the part where you move from the fun aspect of dating to more serious stuff. I really like this guy a lot and don't want anything to mess it up.

 

[vraiblonde]

I really like this guy a lot and don't want anything to mess it up.

My tip for you is:

If his kids are evil, run like hell. Even if he doesn't have custody of them, they will have the power to make you wish you'd never met their father.

 

[Tigerlily]

My tip for you is:

If his kids are evil, run like hell. Even if he doesn't have custody of them, they will have the power to make you wish you'd never met their father.

That is so true, A good friend of mine's BF has a monster child from hell. I have told her more than once to RUN for her life.

 

[Pete]

My tip for you is:

If his kids are evil, run like hell. Even if he doesn't have custody of them, they will have the power to make you wish you'd never met their father.

 

[bresamil]

What are you worried about? Your kid is great!

 

[Pete]

What are you worried about? Your kid is great!

I mean if the person you are interested in has a deamon run like your hair is on fire. My ex's kids were evil incarnate. The sex was good so I just overlooked it. I hated life within a year.

 

[bresamil]

I mean if the person you are interested in has a deamon run like your hair is on fire. My ex's kids were evil incarnate. The sex was good so I just overlooked it. I hated life within a year.

Yeah true dat. And they come as a package - parent and child - unless the parent is a really bad parent.

 

[BuddyLee]

Bowling is always interesting.