Dear Abby: My wife used to.....

[Misfit]

Husband Can't Get Over Pain Of Discovering Wife's Past - Yahoo! News

DEAR ABBY: My wife and I have been married for five years. I recently discovered that she made between 10 and 20 porn videos when she was 19. We got married when she was 27. We have four kids from two previous marriages.


I am devastated. When I confronted her about it, she cried harder than I had ever seen. She said she was lost, and it's the biggest regret of her entire life.

 

[Dakota]

Husband Can't Get Over Pain Of Discovering Wife's Past - Yahoo! News

DEAR ABBY: My wife and I have been married for five years. I recently discovered that she made between 10 and 20 porn videos when she was 19. We got married when she was 27. We have four kids from two previous marriages.


I am devastated. When I confronted her about it, she cried harder than I had ever seen. She said she was lost, and it's the biggest regret of her entire life.

Jay: shoulda disclosed. Poor guy was probably at a bachelor party and they popped in a video. "Dude is that your wife" "What the............"


Could you imagine?

She really should have mentioned that while they were dating. 5 years is a long time to keep a secret.

 

[migtig]

Puleeezzz - this is his issue not hers. His insecurity is definitely showing and he needs to realize 1) she's with him now and it seems they have a good marriage so allowing the past to interfere with the present is just childish and 2) this is no different than having "relations" with others prior to marriage. At least she got paid and she always has a fallback career option if the economy continues to tank. Men are so juvenile. :eyeroll:

 

[Larry Gude]

"Dear Abbey, my wife and I have a great marriage in every respect including, if I do so say, a sex life that is just so exciting and hot and satisfying that it would make any two men happy. Or even three. Maybe even the Harlem Globetrotters or even the Vienna Boys Choir. If they were men. And had been lost in the desert for weeks. And were hung like horses. Really big, really horny horses. How should I go about ruining this? Looking a Gift Horse in the Mouth, USA"

This is probably another one of those douche guys who, before he had it, thought and talked endlessly about having his ideal woman; lady out of bed, whore in it and, now that he has it, and is happy, he, for some reason, wants a virgin for a wife. I don't get this. If she was an Olympic swimmer, would he have a problem getting in the pool with her? A past chef in some 5 star joint and now he can't bring himself to eat her grilled cheese because she'd made it for someone before?

 

[GWguy]

I kinda get what he's saying, would have been nice if she told him, but "4 kids from 2 previous marriages" negates every bit of that.

 

[Misfit]

While watching porn and churning butter "I recently discovered that she made between 10 and 20 porn videos"

Imagine realizing you’ve been watching a video starring your spouse. He always wondered why she yelled "AND THAT'S A WRAP" after sex.

 

[itsbob]

Husband Can't Get Over Pain Of Discovering Wife's Past - Yahoo! News

DEAR ABBY: My wife and I have been married for five years. I recently discovered that she made between 10 and 20 porn videos when she was 19. We got married when she was 27. We have four kids from two previous marriages.


I am devastated. When I confronted her about it, she cried harder than I had ever seen. She said she was lost, and it's the biggest regret of her entire life.

Did he think she got that good from playing Solitaire??

 

[Larry Gude]

Did he think she got that good from playing Solitaire??

Well, I dunno, There are a lot of different versions of solitaire...

 

[stockgirl]

I kinda get what he's saying, would have been nice if she told him, but "4 kids from 2 previous marriages" negates every bit of that.

It does not say that SHE has 4 kids. And even if that were the case, what would any of that have to do with her being a porn star?

 

[GWguy]

It does not say that SHE has 4 kids. And even if that were the case, what would any of that have to do with her being a porn star?

I didn't say her. Exactly my point. Could have been hers, could have been his. In either case, there was a previous marriage with kids. If he could deal with the thought of either of them having sex that created kids, the porn stuff is kinda moot.

 

[Dakota]

I didn't say her. Exactly my point. Could have been hers, could have been his. In either case, there was a previous marriage with kids. If he could deal with the thought of either of them having sex that created kids, the porn stuff is kinda moot.

Porn sex and sex in a relationship is a bit different, IMO. I still think she should have told him.

 

[Larry Gude]

I didn't say her. Exactly my point. Could have been hers, could have been his. In either case, there was a previous marriage with kids. If he could deal with the thought of either of them having sex that created kids, the porn stuff is kinda moot.

I wonder if she is bothered by his past sexual relationships?

 

[itsbob]

Okay two thoughts..

1.) He fell in love (or hope he did since he married her) when she was in her late 20's.. they fell in love at that moment in time with the person she was at that moment in time. Is she still THAT person he fell in love with? What would the past matter? He should go back and apologize and explain to her that it doen't matter, he fell in love with the woman she is now, with the mother she is now. (this without reading Abbey's response)


2.) Did he see the videos?? Is he upset because she won't do the icky things for him, and would for money?? (probably more in line with the answer most expected)..

 

[withrespect]

Dear Penthouse...

 

[vraiblonde]

Porn sex and sex in a relationship is a bit different, IMO.

No ####. This thread just confirms that there are way too many people on this forum that are ####ed in their heads and shouldn't be allowed in the general population. Because, yeah, sex with a previous relationship is EXACTLY the same as making a bunch of porn movies for mass distribution.



On a lighter and less disturbing note:

DEAR ABBY: My wife verbally abuses me constantly. We have an 11-month-old child, which is the only reason I tolerate it. While I try hard not to curse back, once in a while I end up doing so.

I have sought professional help to cope with her behavior, but the suggestions haven't helped much. The situation is becoming unbearable, and I don't see it changing any time soon. What should I do? -- UNBEARABLE IN VIRGINIA

Maybe if you weren't such a ####ing retarded ####### she wouldn't cuss you out. I guess you never thought of that, did you, you stupid ####? Grow a set of balls and take off your apron, Nancy.

 

[withrespect]

No ####. This thread just confirms that there are way too many people on this forum that are ####ed in their heads and shouldn't be allowed in the general population. Because, yeah, sex with a previous relationship is EXACTLY the same as making a bunch of porn movies for mass distribution.



On a lighter and less disturbing note:



Maybe if you weren't such a ####ing retarded ####### she wouldn't cuss you out. I guess you never thought of that, did you, you stupid ####? Grow a set of balls and take off your apron, Nancy.

Don't hold back, Vrai!!!

 

[stockgirl]

Maybe if you weren't such a ####ing retarded ####### she wouldn't cuss you out. I guess you never thought of that, did you, you stupid ####? Grow a set of balls and take off your apron, Nancy.

No ####! He's exactly the type of guy that I'd feel the need to cuss out on a regular basis. Why? Because he would take it and I'd feel better venting all of my frustrations on his stupid pansy ass.

On another note, maybe she has post-pardum and has turned into a raging #####. I've seen it happen.

 

[vraiblonde]

No ####! He's exactly the type of guy that I'd feel the need to cuss out on a regular basis. Why? Because he would take it and I'd feel better venting all of my frustrations on his stupid pansy ass.

Exactly.

"I only tolerate it because we have an 11 month old baby. "

No, you tolerate it because you're a candy ass douche, which is why she cusses you out in the first place.

 

[stockgirl]

Exactly.

"I only tolerate it because we have an 11 month old baby. "

No, you tolerate it because you're a candy ass douche, which is why she cusses you out in the first place.

I just could not be with a man like that. My bf and I rarely argue about anything. He's a very laid back and passive person, but if I were to get out of line...he'd put me back in my place very quickly.

 

[Dakota]

No ####! He's exactly the type of guy that I'd feel the need to cuss out on a regular basis. Why? Because he would take it and I'd feel better venting all of my frustrations on his stupid pansy ass.

On another note, maybe she has post-pardum and has turned into a raging #####. I've seen it happen.

Even the nicest people have a breaking point. He just needs to go all postal on her ass and she'll think twice before she does it again. Personally, I'd rather be slapped in the face than listen to somebody drive insults towards me all the time. Either way, it would be on....