Death with Dignity

happyazz

happyazz

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Rommey said:
I don't understand why she picked a specific date and not wait until her quality of life got to a specific point. Assuming she has acceptable quality of life (by her own standards) wouldn't that be a better option? It appears her only reason for choosing that date is because of her husband's birthday. What if his birthday were in March? Would she try to wait until then?
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I don't understand why you care?
 
Chasey_Lane

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libertytyranny;5446778 I want to choose before it gets to that point.[/QUOTE said:
IMO, that is incredibly brave of someone. I don't know that I'd have the courage to willingly and knowingly terminate my life. I'd want to hold out for that small percentage that a miracle could happen. I think this gal's story is beautiful and heart wrenching.
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Roman

Roman

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Maybe she selected her passing to be on a date that is no where near a holiday, or any loved one's anniversary, or birthday.
Rommey said:
I don't understand why she picked a specific date and not wait until her quality of life got to a specific point. Assuming she has acceptable quality of life (by her own standards) wouldn't that be a better option? It appears her only reason for choosing that date is because of her husband's birthday. What if his birthday were in March? Would she try to wait until then?
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Rommey

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kwillia said:
My grandfather died from a combination of lung cancer and an aggressive brain tumor. It is very painful. I don't have the same assumption as you do. I assume she wouldn't just pick a date to off herself based on a diagnosis and minimal suffering. I am wiling to bet this cancer has already progressed to a high state of suffering and November 1st a date that allows her death not to be associated with his birth date, but doesn't allow her suffering to drag on for much longer.
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The article presented it as an arbitrary date, with the caveat that she wanted to be around for her husband's birthday. If her quality of life is so bad right now then why wait for 3 more weeks? The article says that she wanted to do this before it got too bad, which means she has a threshold of what "bad" is. I stated that IF her quality of life was acceptable, then why choose an arbitrary date instead of hitting the threshold.

libertytyranny said:
you can't be sure of her quality right now, those pictures on her sites are old, she is already on mulitple medications with side effects and looks much different. Plus, why wait until you are crippled and cannot do it yourself? Better to pick a day, celebrate and do ti the way you want. I have seen enough dying people to know I don't want to lose my dignity or be in constant pain. I want to choose before it gets to that point.
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Again, if her condition is already to that point then why wait? If her decision is to die with dignity, then it should be based on that and not an arbitrary date. IMHO, of course.

happyazz said:
I don't understand why you care?
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I don't personally care, just making an observation.

Roman said:
Maybe she selected her passing to be on a date that is no where near a holiday, or any loved one's anniversary, or birthday.
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Two days after her husband's birthday...
 
kwillia

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Rommey said:
The article presented it as an arbitrary date, with the caveat that she wanted to be around for her husband's birthday. If her quality of life is so bad right now then why wait for 3 more weeks? The article says that she wanted to do this before it got too bad, which means she has a threshold of what "bad" is. I stated that IF her quality of life was acceptable, then why choose an arbitrary date instead of hitting the threshold.

Again, if her condition is already to that point then why wait? If her decision is to die with dignity, then it should be based on that and not an arbitrary date. IMHO, of course.

I don't personally care, just making an observation.

Two days after her husband's birthday...
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To me the answer is pretty straight forward. She selected a date that is best for her based on her personal evaluations and considerations. The entire point of "death with dignity" is that it puts the person who is suffering from a fatal and debilitating in controld of his/her own end of life.
 
vraiblonde

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Rommey said:
Again, if her condition is already to that point then why wait? If her decision is to die with dignity, then it should be based on that and not an arbitrary date. IMHO, of course.
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I doubt her date was arbitrary. She probably chose it because it's the most convenient - not near any family holidays, not on anyone's birthday, not going to hose up anyone's vacation plans. I think it's very considerate of her.
 
K

kinmd

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Most life insurance policy have to pay regardless if the death was a suicide, if the policy has been in force for at least 2 yrs. The term used is "incontestable".
 
kwillia

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http://www.cbsnews.com/news/brittany-maynard-dying-with-dignity-before-cancer-takes-her-life/

"I think until anyone has walked a mile in my shoes and knows what they're facing and has felt the -- like, just bone-splitting headaches that I get sometimes, or the seizures, or the inability to speak, or the moments where I'm looking at my husband's face and I can't think of his name."

Maynard found out this spring she has the most lethal form of brain cancer. Doctors told her she may only have six months to live.
Her medication has drastically changed her appearance, but she's decided to forgo aggressive treatment and die, as she puts it, with dignity.

Initially, it wasn't easy for her family to accept.

"I think it took my family a little while to realize that this is what made sense, because no one wants to hear that their daughter is going to die," Maynard explained. "No mother should have to lose a child. It goes against the grain of nature."

And to those who argue to hold on one more day, not to end her life before she has to, she said, "but my mother's not selfish enough to say, 'I want one more day where you're suffering.'"
 
Dakota

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Wow, what a nice thread... no really... I have read several articles today and the comments are horrible towards her releasing these videos and that she is just seeking attention.

Here it seems people realize this is about her having a CHOICE not about her suffering beyond belief and how many of us would like to have this sort of choice if we had to cross that bridge.

She has said that Nov. 1st is not going to be the day and has released a new video.

http://dailysignal.com/2014/10/30/b...hanged/?utm_source=facebook&utm_medium=social

Like Roman said earlier in this thread, doctors have been assisting patients for years. Why should this be different? I support what she is doing but apparently several out there think that only a narcissist would agree. :rolleyes:
 
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Larry Gude

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kwillia said:
http://www.cbsnews.com/news/brittany-maynard-dying-with-dignity-before-cancer-takes-her-life/

"I think until anyone has walked a mile in my shoes and knows what they're facing and has felt the -- like, just bone-splitting headaches that I get sometimes, or the seizures, or the inability to speak, or the moments where I'm looking at my husband's face and I can't think of his name."

Maynard found out this spring she has the most lethal form of brain cancer. Doctors told her she may only have six months to live.
Her medication has drastically changed her appearance, but she's decided to forgo aggressive treatment and die, as she puts it, with dignity.

Initially, it wasn't easy for her family to accept.

"I think it took my family a little while to realize that this is what made sense, because no one wants to hear that their daughter is going to die," Maynard explained. "No mother should have to lose a child. It goes against the grain of nature."

And to those who argue to hold on one more day, not to end her life before she has to, she said, "but my mother's not selfish enough to say, 'I want one more day where you're suffering.'"
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Totally her business. All I would add is that I saw my aunt last month, stage 4 lung cancer and they put her on some new medicine mid July and I was stunned how it turned her around. She looked sick and was given the 'ol 6 months to two years thing, and looked more like 6 months. Now, she is her old self only better. She was so alive and vibrant and sharp, I could only hung her for a moment because it shook me up. I had not seen her in awhile and was prepared for her to look bad. Joyous. Unbelievable.

This doesn't mean it won't all turn right back around but, she is in better shape now, but with diet restrictions, than she was before her diagnosis.

I am renting a room to a kid who works with a buddy, bio med/tech business. He's been working in a DNA lab for the last 4 years. The stuff they are doing, that they are on the threshold of, is, simply, amazing.

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Bay_Kat

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Terminally ill woman follows through on decision to end her life, dies in Oregon

A terminally ill woman who had decided to end her life after being told her illness would be long and painful has died, advocacy organization Compassion & Choices said Sunday.

Brittany Maynard, 29, who moved to Oregon where the “Death with Dignity Act” allows people to choose to die using medication, was diagnosed with a progressive brain tumor called glioblastoma multiforme. The average life expectancy is 14 months.

Compassion & Choices said in a statement that Maynard took lethal drugs prescribed by a doctor on Saturday and was surrounded by her family.

http://www.foxnews.com/health/2014/...h-on-decision-to-end-her-life-dies-in-oregon/

She went the way she wanted to go, not the way her illness would have taken her.
 
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