Do whites need training before parenting blacks?

[Cowgirl]

My problem with the adopting of Black children is that these people keep making more of them to adopt. The "system" is loaded with black children and it's sad. These idiot people keep hooking up and then expect the rest of society to take care of their problem!!!! BIRTH CONTROL!!!!

Wow...that's pretty ignorant. There are plenty of deadbeats in ALL races.

 

[Baja28]

I'll refrain from posting my "Babysitting black kids" jokes.

 

[toppick08]

I'll refrain from posting my "Babysitting black kids" jokes.

 

[bcp]

I'd like someone (not some racism moron) to explain to me what exactly is "black culture" and how it differs from "white culture".

If you think about this, what you ask is basically not possible to do.

There is no way to explain why Tyrone needs to be raised differently that Billy unless you bring in some sort of racial stereotyping to the equation.

 

[toppick08]

If you think about this, what you ask is basically not possible to do.

There is no way to explain why Tyrone needs to be raised differently that Billy unless you bring in some sort of racial stereotyping to the equation.

He dooosss.....

 

[bcp]

He dooosss.....

maybe they need special attention to help them get over the names they are given?

 

[Queenofdenile1]

Wow...that's pretty ignorant. There are plenty of deadbeats in ALL races.

I don't think it's ignorant, I think it's truthful. Yes, there are deadbeats in all races, however, some are more than others. I was referring to people who keep producing children they can't support, putting them into the system for others to support. Sometimes these kids don't get adopted and they grow out of the system because now they are too old. It's actually quite sad.

 

[citysherry]

I don't think it's ignorant, I think it's truthful. Yes, there are deadbeats in all races, however, some are more than others. I was referring to people who keep producing children they can't support, putting them into the system for others to support. Sometimes these kids don't get adopted and they grow out of the system because now they are too old. It's actually quite sad.

Exactly how are you substantiating your statements?

I just did a search of children up for adoption and found 1335 Caucasian/white children and 1553 African American/black children...not much of difference.

 

[Queenofdenile1]

Exactly how are you substantiating your statements?

I just did a search of children up for adoption and found 1335 Caucasian/white children and 1553 African American/black children...not much of difference.

Where? As I said, some are more than others!!!! Obviously the numbers speak for themselves. I don't need statistics and numbers. I also read the paper and watch the news. I'm not saying it is the most reliable, no more than an internet search. I'm still not changing my mind and I honestly don't care how many numbers and statistics anyone throws at me. The bottom line is, it is what it is, and if people would concentrate more at the problem instead of getting so defensive (which by the way makes me wonder why you're so defensive), perhaps there wouldn't be so many children in the system.

 

[citysherry]

Where?....

Since you don't need statistics and number, I won't bother providing you with the website I used for my search.

The bottom line is, it is what it is, and if people would concentrate more at the problem instead of getting so defensive (which by the way makes me wonder why you're so defensive), perhaps there wouldn't be so many children in the system.

I can't imagine why you think I'm being defensive :shrug:

 

[aps45819]

Since you don't need statistics and number, I won't bother providing you with the website I used for my search.



I can't imagine why you think I'm being defensive :shrug:

do you understand the concept of being defensive?

 

[Queenofdenile1]

Since you don't need statistics and number, I won't bother providing you with the website I used for my search.



I can't imagine why you think I'm being defensive :shrug:

Well, I'm not going to spell it out for you because 1. you either didn't understand the last point I made or 2. just completely overlooked it, then obviously the point doesn't matter to you.

 

[pixiegirl]

So what do interracial couple do? This is a load of $hit if I've ever seen one. What if I were to marry a black man who had black children from a previous marriage. Should we both take classes so that he can properly raise my white children and I his black children.

And this, we're all different, culture, heritage b/s. My father came straight from Germany; European culture/history had no part in my upbringing other than he likes to eat bratwurst . You're culture is what you live not where you're from.

 

[clevalley]

So what do interracial couple do? This is a load of $hit if I've ever seen one. What if I were to marry a black man who had black children from a previous marriage. Should we both take classes so that he can properly raise my white children and I his black children.

And this, we're all different, culture, heritage b/s. My father came straight from Germany; European culture/history had no part in my upbringing other than he likes to eat bratwurst . You're culture is what you live not where you're from.

You raise the adopted child with your values and background, not based on what race the are - doing anything else is stupid.

 

[virgovictoria]

NEW YORK (AP) -- Several leading child welfare groups Tuesday urged an overhaul of federal laws dealing with transracial adoption, arguing that black children in foster care are ill-served by a "colorblind" approach meant to encourage their adoption by white families


Recommendations for major changes in the much-debated policy were outlined in a report by the Evan B. Donaldson Adoption Institute.
"Color consciousness -- not 'color blindness' -- should help to shape policy development," the report said.


Groups endorsing its proposals included the North American Council on Adoptable Children, the Child Welfare League of America, the Dave Thomas Foundation for Adoption and the National Association of Black Social Workers.


At issue is the 1994 Multi-Ethnic Placement Act -- and revisions made to it in 1996 -- governing the adoption of children from foster care.
One part of the law directs state agencies to recruit more adoptive parents of the same race as the children. The new report says this provision hasn't been adequately enforced and calls for better funded efforts to recruit minority parents.


Do whites need training before parenting black children? - CNN.com

So, I see a 2-tier problem. The recruiting efforts to find same race parents as the adoptable child were not enforced, so now the next step is to mend that problem by identifying and implenting the "color conciousness" approach to adoption between white parents/black children.

Sounds good Nice.

You know, of course there are going to be differences, but I think that folks wanting a child to love will WANT to know how to help cross those barriers. Adding requirements like "social crappiness" is just plain dumb, unless the parents are idiots - then they shouldn't be adopting anyway.

All adoptive parents should probably go through a class counseling, if they don't already, before the adoption, in process, and a few after.

Stop being silly with giving everything a title - for YOUR OWN SATISFACTION - and let folks move on.

 

[bcp]

Exactly how are you substantiating your statements?

I just did a search of children up for adoption and found 1335 Caucasian/white children and 1553 African American/black children...not much of difference.

1335 whites
1553 black

blacks 13% of population....

do you see where it can be said that for some reason there are on a percentage of the population, more blacks giving up their children than whites?

Now, I suppose I dont hang in the circles that are involved in this child swap game, but I can tell you that if you try to take the kids away from the black families I do know, you better come prepared for fight.

 

[bcp]

All adoptive parents should probably go through a class counseling, if they don't already, before the adoption, in process, and a few after.

If only all kids were the same and responded the same to equal treatment (nothing to do with race on that comment by the way)

Maybe a psyc profile of the parents to see if the can maintain sanity for the length of time it takes to get the kid back out of the house,, maybe that would be a good idea.

 

[vraiblonde]

So what do interracial couple do? This is a load of $hit if I've ever seen one. What if I were to marry a black man who had black children from a previous marriage. Should we both take classes so that he can properly raise my white children and I his black children.

That's an excellent point

Then there are the interracial children - what "culture" are they?

 

[Mojo]

This just reminded me of that stupid show where they made a black family and a white family live together. The dumb white lady said something about the black girl being a very beautiful creature and the black family flipped out.

 

[CRoyal]

My problem with the adopting of Black children is that these people keep making more of them to adopt. The "system" is loaded with black children and it's sad. These idiot people keep hooking up and then expect the rest of society to take care of their problem!!!! BIRTH CONTROL!!!!

There is trash of every race, you sound quite closed-minded.

My take on it: I think it's an obstacle for a white couple to raise a black child. It's true that fundamental parenting and morals are not affected by race, but what about when they are in school and in public settings? Which race are they going to identify with? Does white mommy know how to style black girls hair, is she going to be able to educate her on MLK, X, and all of the other prominent black figures, and maybe why some racial stereotypes still exist?
I believe any race can raise any other race of child, but they need to adequately prepare them for the world where race is still very much an issue and it's a hard thing to do when you are from a different race and can't identify as well as someone of that race could.