pixiegirl said:
If she's got something to say she should just put on her big girl pants and say it.
Ok....now that I got my "big girl pants on" I do have something to say
When I worked CWS I would keep my pigs home with me the days I was off.
I don't get a CWS....EVER....I am a single parent of 5 children
My day consists of waking up, getting ready for work, waking two young kids up and getting them ready for daycare, taking them to daycare and then going to work, putting in my time there, picking the kids up, cooking dinner, bath time, then whatever quality time I can in before bed.
I only wish my day was that easy....
My day consists of me getting up at 5 a.m. waking up middle school kid(5:30 am), getting her out the door by 6, puting load of laundry in the washer and folding the load in the dryer, waking up kids 2,3 and 4(6:30 a.m.) and getting them out the door by 7:20, taking a shower, getting kid 5 up, fed, and out the door by 8(making 2 to 3 business calls in the process), going to work from 8:05 to whenever I have to leave to go and pick kid 1-4 up from school because of various after school activities, which doesn't include night practice for whatever sport they are in at the time. Homework, cook dinner
EVERY NIGHT, while that is cooking put laundry from washer into dryer-reload washer for the morning, eat dinner, clean kitchen and/or help kids do it, more homework, put kids to bed and back to finish whatever work that I didn't finish that day
Lot of "quality time" for me
I rarely take a whole day off for a appointment or something similar. I'll go in late or leave early.
I NEVER take a day off
My provider is open on most of the federal holidays that I have off. Hell yes those kids go to daycare on those days unless there is something family wise planned. #1 I'm paying for those days and #2 it gives me a day to get stuff done around the house without a 1 and 4 year old running around. I can go shopping for myself if I want to. I can sleep all day if I want. Those handful of days a year are my days to unwind.
I had my kids in daycare until I started my business and even when I had a day off for a holiday I didn't take them there cause I wanted to "get some stuff done around the house"....I thought I spent enough time away from them as it was and I love being around them....I also never went "shopping for myself" or "slept all day".
My kids also go to grandma's for one night just about every weekend. Just a night. I do this now moreso for them/her then myself. I'm not the party girl I use to be and we now live 45 minutes away instead of 15 so that's the only time they get to see her. I grew up with a grandma over an hour away and the other in GA. I'd like for my kids to see more of their grandparents then I did. Both the kids and my parents enjoy that time as well.
You have your kids go to "grandma's house" one day a week just about every weekend?....I don't believe you when you say it is moreso for them and not you....that is such a crock!....It is for you!....unless you stay there with them too....If you don't, it is more for you then them.
I don't have the advantages that you do....my mom live 3 hours away and I wouldn't leave my kids with her unless I stayed also
I couldn't handle any more then two kids so I got my tubes tied. If she's got issues w/ her 5 then she shoulda thought about that. She shouldn't belittle me for knowing my limits and stopping while I was ahead.
I don't have issues with my 5 kids....If I did I wouldn't have had them and I wouldn't have fostered someone elses....the issue I have is with people like you that drop their kids off with the daycare and with grandma so they can have a day off and do whatever it is that they want to do and call it a "day to unwind"....
Some of us don't have nor want that option....we like our kids and and we like having them with us as much as possible....time is short and they grow up faster than you can believe....So, we don't drop them off with other people to get break from them to think about ourselves on our "day off"....We don't get a day off
And delivering some GS cookies... Thank goodness she is now in a coma. 
