What school system? In Calvert Co. there are schools that have BDP classrooms (behavior development program) where the students have to "earn" their way out, they are separated from the rest of the population, usually goes along with a Dr.'s diagonosis/IEP plan (individual education plan) that is develop by a team within the school system, ie: the vice principal, special education teachers, school psychologist, etc. There is also a behavior specialist for the county that the school can call to observe a child that they have concerns about and he helps the classroom teacher understand the child's issues and how to manage in the classroom until a determination is made that the child should be placed in a BDP classroom. All schools (I believe in any school system) should have a Pupil Services Worker who can help to coordinate county as well as school services, I would call the school that your nephew is enrolled in and start with the Guidance Counselor, then ask to speak with the Pupil Sevices Worker. Don't give up, it's a hard battle, but one worth fighting, and not too late at 5 years old. Good luck!
Dragging my 5yr old nephew out of school....
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Just Me
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Qurious said:
Try to get on his good side, take him to play a video game, let him pick out a video at blockbuster and watch with him. If those fail, try a happy meal at Mcdonald's. Bottom line, find something he like's to do and then use it as leverage to "try" and make him behave. Maybe he needs a little one on one "nice" attention instead of the wop against the head every time the kid does something wrong. Bribary works great, at least with my kid.
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Therein lies the problem. Some kids don't respond to spanking, and it ends up making the situation worse. Take my little one for example. Aside from getting his attention, spanking him does nothing to remedy a situation. He does better with isolation and/or having something taken away. He's a real social butterfly with a real high pain tolerance, so sitting him in a chair in his room is better for him than spanking. I doubt the kid has a mental disorder, sounds like a behavioral issue gone haywire. :shrug:Qurious said:
Okay, so we've got one person who thinks the woman that lets her child hit her is the only one who deserves to be raising children.
And we have another person who says give the kid treats to get on his good side.
And we STILL can't figure out how kids become asshead teens that we read about in the newspapers when they shoot up their classroom.
And we have another person who says give the kid treats to get on his good side.
And we STILL can't figure out how kids become asshead teens that we read about in the newspapers when they shoot up their classroom.
And I must say, if one of my kids had a "behavior problem" the VERY LAST people on earth I would want to have handling it would be some teacher or principal.
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DQ's had her ass cracked a few times in her short life, and the older she gets, the less it works/makes a difference. After the sting heals, the memory of the lesson is gone ... but when the playstation 2, computer, tv and other fun stuff is missing in her room, it's a constant reminder that she needs to shape up if she wants to have fun ... especially when I bannish her to her domain for some time out. 
Holy ####! That kid has a PS2, a computer AND a TV in her room????? Isn't she only like 7 or 8?crabcake said:
Those guys are second to last. At least they typically have their hearts in the right place.Just Me said:
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Yeah- That's all I'm trying to say.crabcake said:
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Well, when she's behaving, she has them in her room; however, right now, the PS2 and computer power cords are in my closet, as is her tv (no, she doesn't have cable in there; it's just for the PS2 and to watch kid-friendly DVDs).vraiblonde said:Holy ####! That kid has a PS2, a computer AND a TV in her room????? Isn't she only like 7 or 8?
Quick story: The sound went out on the tv she had in her room (tv is older than her), so I was going to buy her a new one the other night. We go to Walmart cuz they're having a sale on a couple, and she starts
: about wanting a Gameboy advance and a Furby, which I said, "No, give Santa something to bring you!" She kept up, and I told her if I heard the words "Gameboy" or "Furby" one more time, not only would she not get those, but the TV would go back on the shelf. Well, we get to checkout, and she tests the waters. "I really want the gameboy and furby :" ... so off the check came the tv, and I told 'em to keep it, and we left without it. Then the reallllllly big tantrum began, and she began to hyperventilate (makes sense, right? DQ = 
). Got her settled from that, and told her she wouldn't see a tv in her room again for a few weeks.As luck would have it, while we're at Best Buy today, I notice a slammin' deal on a 27-inch Phillips TV that would be perfect for my bedroom, so I made a big production about getting it for me vs. for her, and that if she's lucky, one day, maybe I'll let her have my old tv.
I know she's got more than most kids her age, and that I've given her most of those things, but I was mighty proud of myself for not coming home with the new tv for her room the other night and caving in when most parents would for the sole purpose of shutting their kids up. I had a few parents overhear the exchange and comment while I cashed out that they admired me for standing my ground and not giving in.
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Qurious said:
I would take the child up to Children's Hospital for a definative diagnosis (if there is one). I work with alot of troubled kids, sounds like ADHD with Oppositional Defiant Disorder.
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DQ doesn't spend hours upon hours in her room tinkering with this stuff. When she actually has it in her room, it's maybe half an hour a day. She's usually outside playing with the neighborkids after her homework is done until it's dark; then it's dinner, a game of chess or something together, bath and bed.Just Me said:
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crabcake said:DQ doesn't spend hours upon hours in her room tinkering with this stuff. When she actually has it in her room, it's maybe half an hour a day. She's usually outside playing with the neighborkids after her homework is done until it's dark; then it's dinner, a game of chess or something together, bath and bed.
My son doesn't "tinker" with his toys hr after hr either. I agree completely with what your saying. All I was trying to convey in earlier posts is that a 5 yr old kid with a beha"vrai"al problem is-When a child acts up, find something they enjoy doing and use that to a parents advantage.