even split

[shuvelhead]

The wife has 3 kids, I have one from previous marriages. I make more but we say we're like 50-50 cause there's gives and takes in the marriage. We got married in our 50's. What do you think? If we say we're contributing equal, don't it seem like our will would be like that. I mean her kids would get 1/2 and they'd split 3 ways and mine would get the other 1/2. My wife thinks the will should be split evenly 4 ways since all the kids are 'ours' . Opinions please. Of course this is after we're both dead.

 

[oldman]

That's a tough one. Best would be for you two to reach an agreement on your own. I had a step-Mom, brother and three step-sisters. When she passed after my Dad all got a share except me and to this day I know not why - but it didn't bother me in the least. My last wife had three sons and I two and had we stayed together I would have no problem with an even split with all five of them. As it is now, my two sons will get anything I have left. Guess having been through all this, I'd go with an even split between them all as long as you're still together at the end.

 

[bresamil]

For me, it would matter as to the ages of the children when you married. Were any of them minors? Were you considered "dad"? How long have you been married?

 

[backagain39]

If you are living as a family and are sharing everything equally now why can't everything be equal when you pass.....

Money has a way of making people stupid................

 

[livinlf2fullest]

The wife has 3 kids, I have one from previous marriages. I make more but we say we're like 50-50 cause there's gives and takes in the marriage. We got married in our 50's. What do you think? If we say we're contributing equal, don't it seem like our will would be like that. I mean her kids would get 1/2 and they'd split 3 ways and mine would get the other 1/2. My wife thinks the will should be split evenly 4 ways since all the kids are 'ours' . Opinions please. Of course this is after we're both dead.

If you should pass before her and have it differently then she wanted, it will be contested anyways so id make sure you do it right the first time so you can truely rest in peace.

However maybe you two could come to an agreement to give your kids equal moneys, so you can see what they purchase or save it for, now that would give you true joy instead of worrying on your death bed if your children will fight about what you had or hadnt left to them.

 

[shuvelhead]

All the kids were grown and gone when we got married. Hers have not really shown me much care or attention. Mine is really loving towards her but lives out of state now and harder to show it. We hardly see any of hers unless we make the effort, but they're decent to me. That part is ok. We're both pretty stuck in our ways.

 

[livinlf2fullest]

All the kids were grown and gone when we got married. Hers have not really shown me much care or attention. Mine is really loving towards her but lives out of state now and harder to show it. We hardly see any of hers unless we make the effort, but they're decent to me. That part is ok. We're both pretty stuck in our ways.

Stuck in ur ways, so have your own accounts:

Yours goes to your kids

Hers go to hers

 

[aps45819]

Just agree with the old lady. No point in going to hell before you die.

WTF does a fractional share of your estate matter after you're looking up at the grass.

 

[poster]

The wife has 3 kids, I have one from previous marriages. I make more but we say we're like 50-50 cause there's gives and takes in the marriage. We got married in our 50's. What do you think? If we say we're contributing equal, don't it seem like our will would be like that. I mean her kids would get 1/2 and they'd split 3 ways and mine would get the other 1/2. My wife thinks the will should be split evenly 4 ways since all the kids are 'ours' . Opinions please. Of course this is after we're both dead.

Do you look at all these children as your own?
Did you raise them and do they feel this way about you?
If that is the case, in my opinion it should be equally split.

 

[vraiblonde]

Yours goes to your kids

Hers go to hers

There you go - seems simple enough. :shrug:

My two step-siblings and I were in a three-way split until my sister pissed everyone off. Now it's just me and my brother, and I'm trying to figure out a way to get rid of him.

 

[Toxick]

My wife thinks the will should be split evenly 4 ways since all the kids are 'ours' . Opinions please.

Of course, I'm not totally cognizent of the situation, but with the information given (particularly the statement "all the kids are 'ours'"), I gotta go with your wife on this one. Sorry

Of course this is after we're both dead.

Thanks for clearing that up.

 

[poster]

All the kids were grown and gone when we got married. Hers have not really shown me much care or attention. Mine is really loving towards her but lives out of state now and harder to show it. We hardly see any of hers unless we make the effort, but they're decent to me. That part is ok. We're both pretty stuck in our ways.

Sorry didn't read this part.

Sounds like non of you are very close.
Do you have grandchildren, leave it all to the grandkids equally.
Their parents are grown and supporting themselves.

Whichever spouse dies first the other will get all reguardless.
At that point either of you can change your minds.

 

[Toxick]

All the kids were grown and gone when we got married. Hers have not really shown me much care or attention.

Should have read ahead first - 'Cause I'm changing my answer.


It sounds like her kids are not "yours", they are hers. I'd leave your estate to your kid.

 

[poster]

Should have read ahead first - 'Cause I'm changing my answer.


It sounds like her kids are not "yours", they are hers.

None of the child are "theirs" together and all where grown when they were married.

 

[Dupontster]

Hell, just leave everything to me...Problem solved...PM me for my full name and address and whatever information you will need...BTW, how old ae you all?

 

[Toxick]

None of the child are "theirs" together and all where grown when they were married.

Yeah, I got that... which is why I changed my answer to the first post.


The fact that none of the children are theirs genetically doesn't matter to me. In the original post when he said the children were "ours" (biology notwithstanding), I assumed that they raised the kids together as theirs.

 

[Sharon]

Opinions please.

Regardless of whatever everyone else says (including me) you should do whatever make YOU happy and what you feel comfortable with, especially if you had personal assets before you married. Then drop the subject with your wife (because she has her own agenda) seal it up, and file it...

Register of Wills for Maryland

 

[poster]

Yeah, I got that... which is why I changed my answer to the first post.


The fact that none of the children are theirs genetically doesn't matter to me. In the original post when he said the children were "ours" (biology notwithstanding), I assumed that they raised the kids together as theirs.

That's what I thought also.

Reguardless what you chose to do, you can't make all happy.

 

[kwillia]

The wife has 3 kids, I have one from previous marriages. I make more but we say we're like 50-50 cause there's gives and takes in the marriage. We got married in our 50's. What do you think? If we say we're contributing equal, don't it seem like our will would be like that. I mean her kids would get 1/2 and they'd split 3 ways and mine would get the other 1/2. My wife thinks the will should be split evenly 4 ways since all the kids are 'ours' . Opinions please. Of course this is after we're both dead.

What protection do you have in place to ensure your child will get his inheritance if you die before your wife? If you go first and leave it all to her, your child is not in line as an heir of hers so it will be entirely up to her if she wants to give even a dime to your kid.

It seems to make more sense that you would will directly to your kid upon your passing.

 

[Suz]

Sorry didn't read this part.

Sounds like non of you are very close.
Do you have grandchildren, leave it all to the grandkids equally.
Their parents are grown and supporting themselves.

Whichever spouse dies first the other will get all reguardless.
At that point either of you can change your minds.

So not true. My dear FIL and MIL set up trusts. FIL passed almost 7 years ago. ALL of his $$ are still intact and will be passed on to their son's AFTER mom passes. In the mean time, she lives off of the interest the trust generates. That and she has her own $$ inherited from HER parents.