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vraiblonde

vraiblonde

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It started with a simple question posed to one of my best male bounceboards:

This guy is all over me - touching, flirting, playing with my hair. I'm sending him the "interested" signal back but he won't ask me out.
He's not interested.
Should I ask him out?
No.
What if he's...
No.
But...
No.

:lol:

Now this has taken on a bit of a life of it's own, from other people I've asked and guys Bounceboard has asked. I tend to agree with BB - if he's a real guy, he'll adhere to traditional gender roles and do the asking. If he doesn't, it means he's not interested.

I have no problem calling guys in the friend zone and seeing if they want to grab dinner or watch a movie, but when there is romantic potential the man should drive. However, there is dissent from both men and women who say that women should do some asking and not leave it up to the man.

So what say you all? Is it okay, or even desirable, for a woman to ask a guy out on a date? (We're talking date here, as in casual getting to know you over dinner or drinks with potential for a relationship, not tawdry hookups and FWBs)
 
withrespect

withrespect

:wr:
vraiblonde said:
It started with a simple question posed to one of my best male bounceboards:

This guy is all over me - touching, flirting, playing with my hair. I'm sending him the "interested" signal back but he won't ask me out.
He's not interested.
Should I ask him out?
No.
What if he's...
No.
But...
No.

:lol:

Now this has taken on a bit of a life of it's own, from other people I've asked and guys Bounceboard has asked. I tend to agree with BB - if he's a real guy, he'll adhere to traditional gender roles and do the asking. If he doesn't, it means he's not interested.

I have no problem calling guys in the friend zone and seeing if they want to grab dinner or watch a movie, but when there is romantic potential the man should drive. However, there is dissent from both men and women who say that women should do some asking and not leave it up to the man.

So what say you all? Is it okay, or even desirable, for a woman to ask a guy out on a date? (We're talking date here, as in casual getting to know you over dinner or drinks with potential for a relationship, not tawdry hookups and FWBs)
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I asked a guy out once. I dated him for 6 months and then couldn't get rid of him. I finally had to be a biitch and threaten to get a peace order if he didn't get out of my house. :coffee:

Never asked a guy out again. That's just my experience. I don't think there is anything wrong with making the first move.
 
migtig

migtig

aka Mrs. Giant
Ha. Some guys are shy or slow. I say ask if you are interested. This isn't the Donna Reed era.
 
Larry Gude

Larry Gude

Strung Out
vraiblonde said:
It started with a simple question posed to one of my best male bounceboards:

This guy is all over me - touching, flirting, playing with my hair. I'm sending him the "interested" signal back but he won't ask me out.
He's not interested.
Should I ask him out?
No.
What if he's...
No.
But...
No.

:lol:

Now this has taken on a bit of a life of it's own, from other people I've asked and guys Bounceboard has asked. I tend to agree with BB - if he's a real guy, he'll adhere to traditional gender roles and do the asking. If he doesn't, it means he's not interested.

I have no problem calling guys in the friend zone and seeing if they want to grab dinner or watch a movie, but when there is romantic potential the man should drive. However, there is dissent from both men and women who say that women should do some asking and not leave it up to the man.

So what say you all? Is it okay, or even desirable, for a woman to ask a guy out on a date? (We're talking date here, as in casual getting to know you over dinner or drinks with potential for a relationship, not tawdry hookups and FWBs)
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The bolded part does not compute with "Not interested". Not even a little bit. :lol:

With this limited info, I say you have a Rico Sauve on your hands and the power playing has begun. If y'all got that far, and well, let's just say, well... :evil:

Enjoy the game!
 
Bann

Bann

Doris Day meets Lady Gaga
PREMO Member
vraiblonde said:
So what say you all? Is it okay, or even desirable, for a woman to ask a guy out on a date? (We're talking date here, as in casual getting to know you over dinner or drinks with potential for a relationship, not tawdry hookups and FWBs)
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I've already weighed in on this, and I do stand by my original input. :dance:
 
Bann

Bann

Doris Day meets Lady Gaga
PREMO Member
migtig said:
Ha. Some guys are shy or slow. I say ask if you are interested. This isn't the Donna Reed era.
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No, it's not the Donna Reed, era - but the woman has to *know* what she wants & be prepared. If she wants a shy, slow type of guy - then she needs to realize later that is how he is & be prepared to accept him the way he is.
 
Baja28

Baja28

Obama destroyed America
Yes wimmins should ask guys out.

As for the scenario, I'm thinking she has a smokin body with a butter face and he just wants to tap it but only after she makes the main move. Gives him an out.....:lol:
 
Bay_Kat

Bay_Kat

Tropical
I've asked my husband out lots of times. It goes like this "I don't feel like cooking tonight, let's go out to eat". Works every time. He's never said no.:lmao:
 
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EmptyTimCup

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vraiblonde said:
So what say you all? Is it okay, or even desirable, for a woman to ask a guy out on a date? (We're talking date here, as in casual getting to know you over dinner or drinks with potential for a relationship, not tawdry hookups and FWBs)
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Absolutely .......... what is this, the 1920's
 
kwillia

kwillia

n/a
I believe that if a woman makes the advance because she feels the guy isn't agressive enough to do so than she needs to realize she could very well end up in a relationship of convenience... if you are throwing it out there why should he say no if he has nothing better going on? If the chemistry is really there and a guy is really into you... I don't care how shy or laid-back he is... you won't have to be the agressor.
 
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Bann

Bann

Doris Day meets Lady Gaga
PREMO Member
kwillia said:
I believe that if a woman makes the advance because she feels the guy isn't agressive enough to do so than she needs to realize she could very well end up in a relationship of convenience... if you are throwing it out there why should he say no if he has nothing better going on? If the chemistry is really there and a guy is really into you... I don't care how shy or laid-back he is... you won't have to be the agressor.
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Totally agree! :bann:
 
migtig

migtig

aka Mrs. Giant
:lol: I think you ladies are living in the wrong time frame. My mom's mom's generation burned their bras for equal rights. Equal rights mean you ask the guy out. You can sit on your hands and pretend what might be instead of putting on your big girl panties and finding out. :shrug:

BTW, after watching a group of senior citizen ladies fight over available men...you all need to start practicing. The senior lady who is aggressive gets the man. And at that age, there aren't many. :lmao:
 
Wenchy

Wenchy

Hot Flash
I have no problem asking a man I'm interested in for a "date". I have tended to make it a group encounter in order to make it more comfortable for the both of us and then go from there.

I don't understand the big deal, but if a man is already flirting, touching my hair, etc...I would say he is interested.

He's pretty much put the ball in your court.
 
BadGirl

BadGirl

I am so very blessed
If a guy is going to be lazy about asking out someone on a date, he'll be that lazy x 1,000 if they are to get into a real relationship.
 
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