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TNRabbit

New Member
AND you know the guy involved. :lol: If he doesn't ask, he's either not interested or he's a lazy bastage.

Biology 101: the egg does not chase down the sperm.

Who made the first move when you started seeing K?

She sent me a message on Match.com, so technically, she made the first move.

We were both getting off Match at about the same time & she received an email with "Ten new guys you might be interested in" type ad, so she clicked on it & there was my silly pic~

http://i251.photobucket.com/albums/gg286/TNRabbit/Gary/CloseUpGary.jpg

or maybe it was this one:

http://i251.photobucket.com/albums/gg286/TNRabbit/Gary/GaryinKitchen.jpg

So she decided anyone with enough chutzpah to put up a pic like that HAD to be interesting~
 
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luvmygdaughters

Well-Known Member
Speaking from experience, I asked my husband out 21 years ago. He's still here. He wasnt really the shy type, just needed a little push to get the ball rolling. I honestly dont see where it makes a difference of who ask who out, If you're interested in him...ask. Go on a date, decide if its a relationship you would like to continue and them let him know where you stand and the next serve is his.
 

SamSpade

Well-Known Member
PREMO Member
In a generic sense - some guys are just dumb that way. One woman I worked with claimed if she came to work naked, I still wouldn't get the hint. And that's probably spot on. Over my adult life, I've had any number of women flirt with me with me never figuring it out, because I've known that at least some of them were very secure in a relationship with someone - and they just liked the attention.

One or two made their intentions clear enough, and the conversation would sometimes go something like -

"By the way, if you're going to ask me out, the answer will be yes - but you're gonna have to ask first. See you later."
 

Toxick

Splat
So what say you all? Is it okay, or even desirable, for a woman to ask a guy out on a date? (We're talking date here, as in casual getting to know you over dinner or drinks with potential for a relationship, not tawdry hookups and FWBs)


I say ask. YOLO.
 

bresamil

wandering aimlessly
You realize this thread is proof that both sexes fear the same thing - rejection.


The fear is always proportional to how vested you are in the other person.
 

Wenchy

Hot Flash
You realize this thread is proof that both sexes fear the same thing - rejection.


The fear is always proportional to how vested you are in the other person.

Something like that.

I ask. I've been rejected before but I start a relationship off as friends, so it doesn't hurt.

A turn down for a "date" or "outing" isn't going to kill you.

Once you get into a serious relationship...that's a different story and thread.
 

Toxick

Splat
Over my adult life, I've had any number of women flirt with me with me never figuring it out, because I've known that at least some of them were very secure in a relationship with someone - and they just liked the attention.


I used to be like that, but I've become more aware as I've gotten older, particularly as I've gotten more ... married. For lack of a better word.

Before I met MrsToxick, I would occasionally/seldomly pick up spontaneous flirtations and various non-verbal signals that women seem to enjoy, but looking back with the wiser eye of memory, the number of these things that I missed is staggering.

Staggering.

Even patently obvious ones. My wife was and is keenly perceptive when it comes to even the most subtle of gestures and hints. And she has enjoyed pointing them out to me. At first the ice-cold blade of jealousy accompanied her observations, but it has slowly morphed into amusment. (And I'm still not quite sure how I feel about that). However, under her tutelage, I have managed to pick up on flirtations and such; ironically, since I no longer need nor want to be aware of them.

But if - God forbid - I ever find myself bereft of companionship, I believe that I could navigate my way through that labyrinth again, with much less cluelessness than I did before.


In all honesty, though, if that happens, I see a lot more XBox and porn than anything else.
 

vraiblonde

Board Mommy
PREMO Member
Patron
You realize this thread is proof that both sexes fear the same thing - rejection.

It's not fear of rejection for me - I ask guy friends out all the time and they can either go or they can't. I'm assuming it's the same with someone you have the hots for; they either go or they don't.

My deal is that I am completely unfeminine all day long for work, and I am not going to be a guy in my romantic relationships as well. If he asks me out, I will cook him dinner. He opens my door for me, I will flash some cleavage at him. Me, woman; him, man. If I have to do the masculine stuff, he's going to be my ##### and I guarantee both of us will tire of that rather quickly.
 
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EmptyTimCup

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In a generic sense - some guys are just dumb that way. One woman I worked with claimed if she came to work naked, I still wouldn't get the hint. And that's probably spot on.


One or two made their intentions clear enough, and the conversation would sometimes go something like -

"By the way, if you're going to ask me out, the answer will be yes - but you're gonna have to ask first. See you later."


I found out years later after High School, at least 3 girls I though were just good friends, had crushes on me ...... I had no clue


if the guy is playing hair and all that, it sounds like he is flirting and interested ........
 
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EmptyTimCup

Guest
You realize this thread is proof that both sexes fear the same thing - rejection.

The fear is always proportional to how vested you are in the other person.


yeah I left a rose and a nice note on someones door one time, she wasn't home at the time, she called and kindly declined my offer for dinner, she was engaged ... and asked if I had missed that on the radio :blushing: [she did the traffic for a well known radio station in the early 1990's] - I had met her through work, fixing a leaky kitchen faucet for the apt rental company]

:doh:
 

twinoaks207

Having Fun!
It's not fear of rejection for me - I ask guy friends out all the time and they can either go or they can't. I'm assuming it's the same with someone you have the hots for; they either go or they don't.

My deal is that I am completely unfeminine all day long for work, and I am not going to be a guy in my romantic relationships as well. If he asks me out, I will cook him dinner. He opens my door for me, I will flash some cleavage at him. Me, woman; him, man. If I have to do the masculine stuff, he's going to be my ##### and I guarantee both of us will tire of that rather quickly.

Then wait for him to ask. It sounds as if you know you need to wait, you just don't like doing it as it's hard for you. It is always hard for a take-charge woman to wait for something she wants. If he's doing what you say he's doing, he WILL ask, just probably not as soon as you'd like. Perhaps he's enjoying building up some anticipation? :whistle:
 

vraiblonde

Board Mommy
PREMO Member
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Then wait for him to ask. It sounds as if you know you need to wait, you just don't like doing it as it's hard for you. It is always hard for a take-charge woman to wait for something she wants. If he's doing what you say he's doing, he WILL ask, just probably not as soon as you'd like. Perhaps he's enjoying building up some anticipation? :whistle:

My decision has been made for a week. I was just curious what the forumite consensus was regarding women asking guys on a date.
 
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