Getting a 6 year old to clean his room.....

[morningbell]

......its like kicking dead whales down the beach

 

[skizzle]

Have you tried helping him? Or maybe making it into a game? I know kids love to be first. Try helping him clean his room and see who could get things done first. Sound excited when you tell him you are going to play a game with him. While he is probably going to be quick, you just take your time letting him do most of the work. It works with my kiddo.

 

[Wenchy]

......its like kicking dead whales down the beach

Simple solution. Remove everything from his room and there is nothing to clean or straighten.

Return bit by bit if he can adhere to your request.

It works.

 

[morningbell]

Have you tried helping him? Or maybe making it into a game? I know kids love to be first. Try helping him clean his room and see who could get things done first. Sound excited when you tell him you are going to play a game with him. While he is probably going to be quick, you just take your time letting him do most of the work. It works with my kiddo.

Reminds me of the "Little Bill" episode, "1,2 Zoopidy Zoo!"

I'm past that point right now. I'm fuming and need to take a step back because I went about it all wrong from the begining, I wasn't thinking.

We are sorting his toy boxes and tossing toys that he doesn't need, doesn't play with or are broken. I told him animals and people in one toy box, cars and other in the other toy box, seems cut and dry. He came out with a rubber bat asking, "where does this go?" I'm a bit frustrated.

Next time it'll be a game

 

[morningbell]

Simple solution. Remove everything from his room and there is nothing to clean or straighten.

Return bit by bit if he can adhere to your request.

It works.

HA! That's what I suggested to him first

He is finally complying right now at this very moment.





Has anybody seen my mommy's lil helper, its in a green, corked bottle, has "Frey natural red" written on the label?

 

[bcp]

When My daughter refused to clean her room, I did it for her.

I walked in with a trash bag, everything out of place went in it, then I carried it out.

pretty much keeps it right on her own now.

wont let me clean it, Ive even said, Ill clean it for you, she screams and runs in and gets to work.

 

[Wenchy]

When My daughter refused to clean her room, I did it for her.

I walked in with a trash bag, everything out of place went in it, then I carried it out.

pretty much keeps it right on her own now.

wont let me clean it, Ive even said, Ill clean it for you, she screams and runs in and gets to work.

Good going!

I've thrown away gameboy and even DS games without a second thought.

If they care about their belongings then they need to keep them in their place.

If the material stuff is suddenly gone, they have to wait until the next occasion when family (not me) buys them what they crave.

I have no problem bringing out the trash bag, and still have to do it on occasion.

At the age of six a child should understand...and no games of "helping them" should have to be played.

Fact is, most children have an excess and get overwhelmed. Get rid of the clutter for them and tell them what will will happen to the rest if it isn't kept neat and orderly.

 

[Bay_Kat]

Good going!

I've thrown away gameboy and even DS games without a second thought.

If they care about their belongings then they need to keep them in their place.

If the material stuff is suddenly gone, they have to wait until the next occasion when family (not me) buys them what they crave.

I have no problem bringing out the trash bag, and still have to do it on occasion.

At the age of six a child should understand...and no games of "helping them" should have to be played.

Fact is, most children have an excess and get overwhelmed. Get rid of the clutter for them and tell them what will will happen to the rest if it isn't kept neat and orderly.

AMEN! I've almost cried throwing out (actually hiding it in the attic) some really expensive stuff, but if she thinks it's gone to the dump and it helps, so be it!

 

[Tigerlily]

I did the clean sweep in my oldest's room way too many times. Once, when she was four she said "fine, take it all, I could care less" That stuff sat in the garage for months.

 

[tyky]

I always tell my 6 y/o he has ten minutes to get his room cleaned up so I can vacuum, and around 8 minutes into it I roll the vacuum to his bedroom door, it amazes me how fast he moves when he is freaking out that the vacuum will suck up his toys, then I make him vacuum it.

 

[Wenchy]

AMEN! I've almost cried throwing out (actually hiding it in the attic) some really expensive stuff, but if she thinks it's gone to the dump and it helps, so be it!

I don't mess around. It's gone forever.

Grow a spine. Really!

 

[Bay_Kat]

I don't mess around. It's gone forever.

Grow a spine. Really!

I never said she was getting it back. That's stuff that gets sold.

 

[bcp]

I always tell my 6 y/o he has ten minutes to get his room cleaned up so I can vacuum, and around 8 minutes into it I roll the vacuum to his bedroom door, it amazes me how fast he moves when he is freaking out that the vacuum will suck up his toys, then I make him vacuum it.

do you know that the electrolux guardian canister will suck up a pair of panties and not break a sweat doing it?

 

[onebdzee]

When My daughter refused to clean her room, I did it for her.

I walked in with a trash bag, everything out of place went in it, then I carried it out.

pretty much keeps it right on her own now.

wont let me clean it, Ive even said, Ill clean it for you, she screams and runs in and gets to work.

I've done that with all of mine....works like a charm

Oh....and I don't give the stuff back....it goes in the trash

 

[huntr1]

When My daughter refused to clean her room, I did it for her.

I walked in with a trash bag, everything out of place went in it, then I carried it out.

pretty much keeps it right on her own now.

wont let me clean it, Ive even said, Ill clean it for you, she screams and runs in and gets to work.

Gee, you sound like me. I have done the same for my boys. Now I get the same reaction when I tell them I'll clean their room.

 

[cattitude]

Both of my boys have OCD. Their rooms were immaculate from day one. Oldest is married...color coordinates his hangars (plastic) with the color of his clothing.

 

[atrusomder]

When My daughter refused to clean her room, I did it for her.

I walked in with a trash bag, everything out of place went in it, then I carried it out.

pretty much keeps it right on her own now.

wont let me clean it, Ive even said, Ill clean it for you, she screams and runs in and gets to work.

I have done that too,, It works!

 

[poster]

Mine at 8 still makes it a game. She comes in and says what now, I tell her books. She comes back and says ok, what now, I tell her dolls and so on. As long as it works I'm ok with it. At least I know she's not sitting staring into space or playing with what she's supposed to be picking up.

But I still have to pull out the trash bag on occation. Those things are yardsale items and I get the money. She only gets the money if she offers them, not if they were taken.

 

[nachomama]

Both of my boys have OCD. Their rooms were immaculate from day one. Oldest is married...color coordinates his hangars (plastic) with the color of his clothing.

 

[redneck_woman]

I bought the Melissa & Doug Responsibility Chart and Calendar for my youngest, that did the trick for me. Every Sunday we go over the chores that he is expected to do for the week and at the beginning of the month we update his calendar. Since then, the book bag, shoes, toys, etc. etc. ended up where they are suppose to be. He also gets allowance if all his chores are completed for the week. His room stays cleaner than my oldest....