Guys, is she interested in you or just hungry?

vraiblonde

vraiblonde

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frequentflier said:
I find it hard to believe every guy on dating sites are losers.
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They're not; you also have horndogs like Baja who are trying to meet their quota.

:jet:

It's a numbers game. Like those contest things where they bury a tiny box with a $100 bill in it in a sandbox and you have 1 minute to sift frantically and find it. I think if a guy is willing to buy hordes of strange women on the internet dinner, there's probably a reason for that. A quality man will engage in some pre-date getting to know you via email or private message before he decides you're worth feeding.
 
sockgirl77

sockgirl77

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vraiblonde said:
They're not; you also have horndogs like Baja who are trying to meet their quota.

:jet:

It's a numbers game. Like those contest things where they bury a tiny box with a $100 bill in it in a sandbox and you have 1 minute to sift frantically and find it. I think if a guy is willing to buy hordes of strange women on the internet dinner, there's probably a reason for that. A quality man will engage in some pre-date getting to know you via email or private message before he decides you're worth feeding.
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MMDad

MMDad

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frequentflier said:
15 years ago, I was single. ... If I had a computer and online dating were available- I would have least given it a shot as a way to meet someone.
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They were available - that's how I met my wife, and our 16 year anniversary is next week.

I found that trying to meet women in bars led to only meeting women that hang out in bars. They'd invite you back to their trailer, but only if you drive since their car died. And you had to be quiet so you don't wake up the kids.

Meeting at work wasn't happening since it's about 75% guys, the women are almost all married, and there's always that harrassment thing looming if you even try to make a move.

I wasn't religious, so no meeting at church. And I wasn't going to attend just to get a piece - kind of asking for a lightning bolt.

So I took a chance and tried it. The anonymity helped, since a shoot down wasn't personal if we hadn't even met. And dating was much easier because I felt like I could just be myself, and if things didn't work out so what? All I had invested was the cost of dinner.

And Vrai, haven't you used the interwebs to find a romantic interest in the past?
 
Radiant1

Radiant1

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frequentflier said:
I find it hard to believe every guy on dating sites are losers. Just like I don't believe all women on them are losers -in my case- I was far from being a loser and had a lot to offer. I just did not have a good way to meet people because I didn't hang out in bars, worked a bazillion hours and my business was in the service industry but was not dealing with the public.
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^This. There are pros and cons; you have to be wise and you have to learn how to navigate, but for those who are not overtly social online dating is a resource.

I did online dating for a while. I was picky and had a total of three coffee dates within a 1-1/2 year span. My SO was the last one (obviously). We exchanged e-mails, chatted in msg, and then chatted on the phone before ever meeting for coffee for the first time. Apparently, I've been worth feeding for the last two years. :lol:

As for the chick in the OP, I couldn't bring myself to do that. I'd rather starve than suffer numerous first dates with those I wasn't remotely interested in just for a meal.
 
Toxick

Toxick

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vraiblonde said:
All this hostility toward women.
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What hostility?

Calling someone a gold-digging whore is not hostile - if they're a gold-digging whore. Although - I'm somewhat reluctant to use the word "gold". She seems to be more of an aluminum or tin-digging whore.


And that certainly wasn't directed at "women". It was directed at an individual.


vraiblonde said:
Why is she a gold-digging whore?
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Because she uses people as a freebie dinner ticket.


vraiblonde said:
If men want to buy her dinner, why should she refuse? Nobody is putting a gun to these guys' heads and forcing them to feed her; they are doing it in the hopes of getting laid.
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I'm not very well educated on the use and nuances of personal ads and the people who use them, but I was under the impression that they were looking for a date, not a jizz-receptacle. And certainly not a toilet down which to flush money. Either way teasing and using people for gain under false pretenses is not something I think I will ever admire in a person.
 
Toxick

Toxick

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sockgirl77 said:
Psst...EVERYONE has used someone for something at some point in their life.
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Really?!







Believe it or not, I am somewhat aware of that, and I like to think that I'm not a complete naïve ignoramus. The fact that everyone does it does not make it decent behavior.

And making a habit out of it, and then blithely bragging how great it is pretty contemptible, IMHO.
 
sockgirl77

sockgirl77

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Toxick said:
Believe it or not, I am somewhat aware of that, and I like to think that I'm not a complete naïve ignoramus. The fact that everyone does it does not make it decent behavior.

And making a habit out of it, and then blithely bragging how great it is pretty contemptible, IMHO.
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However, I do disagree with her bragging about it. Putting her name and pic up was stupid. She may never get another date again. :lol:
 
vraiblonde

vraiblonde

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MMDad said:
And Vrai, haven't you used the interwebs to find a romantic interest in the past?
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That's how Larry and I met. But I waded through hundreds of emails from crazy people and suffered 4 or 5 dates with lunatics in the process. Larry bought my brunch, but by that time we'd been emailing, then talking on the phone, for over a month. I knew I could sit through a meal with him and he knew I was worth feeding
 
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