Help With The Kid..........

[gigi6]

I am looking for help for the kid..........he's 21 and going through a nasty divorce. Unfortunately he married a pathological liar, a cheater and a thief! My husband walked in on her - in OUR HOUSE - fooling around with one of my sons friends....my son walked in on her, naked, IN BED, with his friend.......and he still thinks there is some relationship to salvage!

I know, as a mom, that I should stay out of it and try and just listen to him and let him vent. However, he has a 2 year old and still thinks that he and his wife should work things out for her! This girl is my sons kryptonite!

What do I do??????? Keeping my mouth shut and not saying a word has almost driven me insane! He's my son and I know how much he hurts - but this girl is TRASH~!

Help guys................................

 

[Pete]

I am looking for help for the kid..........he's 21 and going through a nasty divorce. Unfortunately he married a pathological liar, a cheater and a thief! My husband walked in on her - in OUR HOUSE - fooling around with one of my sons friends....my son walked in on her, naked, IN BED, with his friend.......and he still thinks there is some relationship to salvage!

I know, as a mom, that I should stay out of it and try and just listen to him and let him vent. However, he has a 2 year old and still thinks that he and his wife should work things out for her! This girl is my sons kryptonite!

What do I do??????? Keeping my mouth shut and not saying a word has almost driven me insane! He's my son and I know how much he hurts - but this girl is TRASH~!

Help guys................................

There is little you can do but tell him what you think and let him realize it on his own. Until he realizes she is trash and he deserves better anything you say beyond telling him what you think is going to sound like

 

[onebdzee]

There is little you can do but tell him what you think and let him realize it on his own. Until he realizes she is trash and he deserves better anything you say beyond telling him what you think is going to sound like

He won't even beleive anything past saying her name....he is 21....and driven by his hormones

 

[rack'm]

Here's a hint........

 

[MMDad]

He probably realizes the truth, but doesn't want to admit it. If you get involved it will lead to a divorce, but he will blame you for it, probably for the rest of his life.

If she is what you say she is, he will eventually see it and leave her. At that point you can be there for him.

The best you can do is stay out of it unless you want to risk him hating you.

 

[vraiblonde]

I keep hearing this noise....Kwillia, do you hear that?

STAY OUT OF IT, MOM. He's an adult and it's not your business. He'll move on when he's ready and not before. Sometimes it takes awhile to let go and the only role you play is to be supportive of him, do not badmouth her, and let him work it out.

 

[Nickel]

He probably realizes the truth, but doesn't want to admit it. If you get involved it will lead to a divorce, but he will blame you for it, probably for the rest of his life.

If she is what you say she is, he will eventually see it and leave her. At that point you can be there for him.

The best you can do is stay out of it unless you want to risk him hating you.

I've been the blind one before, and none of anyone's hemming and hawing would "lead me to the light". I had to figure it out on my own. I did, and am a better person for it. You can lead a horse to water, but you can't make it drink.

 

[onebdzee]

I've been the blind one before, and none of anyone's hemming and hawing would "lead me to the light". I had to figure it out on my own. I did, and am a better person for it. You can lead a horse to water, but you can't make it drink.

Even when the evidence is smacking them in the face

 

[Rael]

I am looking for help for the kid..........he's 21 and going through a nasty divorce. Unfortunately he married a pathological liar, a cheater and a thief! My husband walked in on her - in OUR HOUSE - fooling around with one of my sons friends....my son walked in on her, naked, IN BED, with his friend.......and he still thinks there is some relationship to salvage!

I know, as a mom, that I should stay out of it and try and just listen to him and let him vent. However, he has a 2 year old and still thinks that he and his wife should work things out for her! This girl is my sons kryptonite!

What do I do??????? Keeping my mouth shut and not saying a word has almost driven me insane! He's my son and I know how much he hurts - but this girl is TRASH~!

Help guys................................

He's a big boy, let him learn. Divorce is already underway, as you said. Sooner or later he'll figure it out. As others have said, just be there for him. But be a good listener, not a preacher. When it becomes clear to him, it will be because he figured it out, not because anyone told him.

 

[rack'm]

Even when the evidence is smacking them in the face

Literally at times.

 

[Pete]

Not trying to be rude, but I hope he is man enough not to just let her have physical custody of the kid. Time to step up and be a dad. Old enough to screw and make a baby, old enough to be a custodial parent and not just a weekend dad who drops the kid at your house. Courts are fairly progressive today and if she is wh0ring around and running the roads the child will grow up trash.

 

[Nickel]

Even when the evidence is smacking them in the face

Exactly. There were times when I'm sure my mother just wanted to smack the stupid right out of me, but she backed off. When I finally had the "Aha!" moment, it was met by more than a few curt "I told ya so"s and we all went about our business.

 

[onebdzee]

Not trying to be rude, but I hope he is man enough not to just let her have physical custody of the kid. Time to step up and be a dad. Old enough to screw and make a baby, old enough to be a custodial parent and not just a weekend dad who drops the kid at your house. Courts are fairly progressive today and if she is wh0ring around and running the roads the child will grow up trash.

After of course he figures out that the kid is really his....If she is sleeping around now, what is to say that she wasn't when the kid was conceived?

And I totally agree about the "growing up trash" thing....If she doesn't have the sense enough to keep it out of her house...then she doesn't have the sense enough to keep it away from her kid

 

[Pete]

After of course he figures out that the kid is really his....If she is sleeping around now, what is to say that she wasn't when the kid was conceived?

True, a big kick in the balls but true.

 

[onebdzee]

True, a big kick in the balls but true.

I edited my post....you now have to go back and read the rest of it

 

[sockgirl77]

If you get involved it will just make things worse. It'll probably drive him to love the biatch more. Did I read that they live in your house? Or does she just screw men in your house? If they are married adults with a child, wtf are they doing living with mommy and daddy? Tell them to grow up and get out of your house. That way you do not have to be involved. If it keeps on and the child has to be raised with irresposible and immature parents, yank her away from them before she becomes just like mommy. Doesn't sound like they are adult enough to raise a child if they cannot even live on their own. :shrug:

 

[Larry Gude]

They live in your...

I am looking for help for the kid..........he's 21 and going through a nasty divorce. Unfortunately he married a pathological liar, a cheater and a thief! My husband walked in on her - in OUR HOUSE - fooling around with one of my sons friends....my son walked in on her, naked, IN BED, with his friend.......and he still thinks there is some relationship to salvage!

I know, as a mom, that I should stay out of it and try and just listen to him and let him vent. However, he has a 2 year old and still thinks that he and his wife should work things out for her! This girl is my sons kryptonite!

What do I do??????? Keeping my mouth shut and not saying a word has almost driven me insane! He's my son and I know how much he hurts - but this girl is TRASH~!

Help guys................................

...house?

 

[sockgirl77]

...house?

Exactly.

 

[Pete]

I edited my post....you now have to go back and read the rest of it

 

[kwillia]

I keep hearing this noise....Kwillia, do you hear that?

STAY OUT OF IT, MOM. He's an adult and it's not your business. He'll move on when he's ready and not before. Sometimes it takes awhile to let go and the only role you play is to be supportive of him, do not badmouth her, and let him work it out.

Yep. I hear it too.