Hollywood rape survivor refuses to be labeled a victim

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HOLLYWOOD · A 39-year-old woman who police say fiercely resisted the three men charged with raping her last week on Hollywood Beach insisted Monday, "I am not a victim."

"I fought back. I wasn't going to allow them to take away my beach. This is my home," said the woman, who did not want her name published. "Those guys picked the wrong girl."


On Monday, her jaw still slightly swollen, she sat outside her Hollywood Beach home and recounted what police say was the most violent incident on the beach in recent memory.

She said she walked to the beach early Wednesday morning to relax and meditate, as she has routinely done for the past year since moving to the area.

"I was doing what anyone else would've been doing if they lived here. Look out there," she said, pointing to the shoreline. "That's my back yard."

She added that she would no longer visit the beach alone at night.

But that night she fell asleep next to a lifeguard stand, as she's done many times before, she said.

About an hour later, around 3:30 a.m., she awoke as two men held her down while trying to rape her, she said.

She kicked and screamed and tried to grab anything to defend herself. That's when she saw a brown, broken bottle sticking up from the sand about an arm's reach away.

"I think karma brought that bottle to me," she said. "I have never seen a bottle on Hollywood Beach, and to have one right next to me is something I can only attribute to good karma."

She managed to cut the face and torso of one of the men, she said. A third man then punched her face and sexually assaulted her. She continued to fight and soon managed to escape. As she ran from the beach, she saw a couple walking down the Broadwalk. They helped her call 911.

Within minutes, police rounded up two of the men after using police dogs to track them down. The third man was captured hours later.

Police arrested Armando Moncadaramos, who turned 20 the day of the attack, Hever Ramos, 21, and Cesar Amador, 21. The men, two of whom work as dishwashers at a Hollywood Beach sushi restaurant, were being held without bail at Broward County's main jail. All three are charged with first-degree sexual battery.

A spokesman with the Broward Public Defender's Office said a judge would likely assign attorneys to the men this week.

On Monday, the woman said she wanted to tell her story after reading comments from readers posted on Sun-Sentinel.com about the attack.

She said many of the comments speculated that she was drunk or homeless, but she said she was neither. She also said she was angry that many remarked about the race and nationality of the men.

"To all you bigots, I say this isn't about race, or economic class, or someone's nationality," she said. "This is about a rape."

The woman said years of treatment she's received as a long-term sexual abuse victim have helped her cope with last week's attack.

"I am already a survivor," she said.

Survivor, repeat victim, whatever :shrug:
 

aosmiles

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Victims become survivors. It is a mindset change. A person has to decide whether to stay a victim or become a survivor. I have been both. I have seen both traits. You can be victimized, but honestly, you can move from that place of fear and hopelessness to a state of "I am not going to let this event (whatever it may be) steal my joy, my life and my future". Good for you migtig! Not only did you fight back but you also moved on. Ignorant people say a lot of dumb things about a lot of stuff they know nothing about. You are not one of them.
 

Cowgirl

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Originally posted by Desertrat[
Just happened to fall asleep an arms length from a "broken" bottle huh?


[Originally posted by Chernmax Falling asleep on the beach or passing out!!!

So what if she did pass out? The point of the story is that she fought off her 3 attackers. It makes me so mad when people insinuate women somehow deserved to get raped...or they 'asked for it.'
 

vraiblonde

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Cowgirl said:
So what if she did pass out? The point of the story is that she fought off her 3 attackers. It makes me so mad when people insinuate women somehow deserved to get raped...or they 'asked for it.'
Not to be unsympathetic, but women who get drunk and pass out in an isolated area are asking for trouble and can't be too surprised when they find it.

And I take back the first part of that paragraph - I AM unsympathetic. People who put themselves in harm's way through their own stupidity and irresponsibility deserve what they get. Sorry.
 

cattitude

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vraiblonde said:
Not to be unsympathetic, but women who get drunk and pass out in an isolated area are asking for trouble and can't be too surprised when they find it.

And I take back the first part of that paragraph - I AM unsympathetic. People who put themselves in harm's way through their own stupidity and irresponsibility deserve what they get. Sorry.


Exactly.
 

Cowgirl

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I agree that people, especially women, should be very careful about the situations they put themselves in, but I do not agree that she deserved what she got. How about expecting society to treat others respectfully? She had a right to be on that beach as well. True, it wasn't smart of her to be alone at night on a beach...but I can't believe you would think ANY woman deserves to get raped, no matter what the circumstances are.
 

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Cowgirl said:
How about expecting society to treat others respectfully?
That's unrealistic. Yeah, it would be nice if you could electroshock everyone at birth and make them shiny and happy, but I doubt very many people will go for that.

When people put themselves in dangerous situations, then meet with danger, whose fault is that? And if they don't care about their own safety and well-being, why should I?
 

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vraiblonde said:
That's unrealistic. Yeah, it would be nice if you could electroshock everyone at birth and make them shiny and happy, but I doubt very many people will go for that.

When people put themselves in dangerous situations, then meet with danger, whose fault is that? And if they don't care about their own safety and well-being, why should I?


Wouldn't it be great if we could expect three men who came upon a passed out woman to call an ambulance :shrug:
 

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Wouldn't it be great if we could expect three men who came upon a passed out woman to call an ambulance
That would be great - but, alas, that's not the kind of world we live in.

I'll bet you $10 that this isn't any of those guys' first offense. So you know what would be REALLY great? If we'd execute our rabid dogs in this country so they can't be out wandering beaches and finding passed out women in the first place.
 
vraiblonde said:
That would be great - but, alas, that's not the kind of world we live in.

I'll bet you $10 that this isn't any of those guys' first offense. So you know what would be REALLY great? If we'd execute our rabid dogs in this country so they can't be out wandering beaches and finding passed out women in the first place.
:yeahthat:
 
vraiblonde said:
If we'd execute our rabid dogs in this country so they can't be out wandering beaches and finding passed out women in the first place.
Oh wait... that would be considered CRUEL & UNUSUAL PUNISHMENT ...:drama:

The Supreme Court opened the door Monday to new constitutional challenges to lethal injection, the method used by most states and the federal government to execute death row inmates.

In an unanimous decision, the court allowed those condemned to die to make last-minute claims that the chemicals used are too painful — and therefore amount to cruel and unusual punishment in violation of the Constitution’s Eighth Amendment.
 

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kwillia said:
Oh wait... that would be considered CRUEL & UNUSUAL PUNISHMENT ...:drama:

The Supreme Court opened the door Monday to new constitutional challenges to lethal injection, the method used by most states and the federal government to execute death row inmates.

In an unanimous decision, the court allowed those condemned to die to make last-minute claims that the chemicals used are too painful — and therefore amount to cruel and unusual punishment in violation of the Constitution’s Eighth Amendment.
You know, if I were on death row I think I'd prefer the chemicals over old sparky. :shrug:
 

chernmax

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Cowgirl said:
So what if she did pass out? The point of the story is that she fought off her 3 attackers. It makes me so mad when people insinuate women somehow deserved to get raped...or they 'asked for it.'

No one insinuated she deserved to get raped, but life is a jungle and if passed out, she left herself vulnerable as prey and 3 wolves showed up!!!
 

vraiblonde

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No one insinuated she deserved to get raped,
I did :howdy:

If people are stupid, maybe having to face the consequences of their actions will encourage them to make better decisions in the future.

*cough* Steveland *cough*
 

bohman

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vraiblonde said:
I did :howdy:

If people are stupid, maybe having to face the consequences of their actions will encourage them to make better decisions in the future.

*cough* Steveland *cough*

Now here is a post where your sig line is extremely appropriate.... :whistle:
 

vraiblonde

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bohman said:
Now here is a post where your sig line is extremely appropriate....
I disagree. Any decent counselor is all for people facing the consequences of their actions because they know it's the only way people learn to stop doing the stupid things they do.
 

Cowgirl

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I definitely think people should be careful about the situations they put themselves in....and I agree 100% that we should have harsher punishments....

but I still don't think anyone DESERVES to get raped. Maybe they could've just punched her to teach her a lesson. :shrug:
 

vraiblonde

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Cowgirl said:
Maybe they could've just punched her to teach her a lesson.
If I'd found her, I'd have punched her to teach her a lesson. But I don't think teaching her a lesson was what these guys were after.
 
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