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greeneyes36

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lnmarsh said:
Whaddya know... Havnt heard from him. :frown:

I got the text from him around 1:30am on Friday saying "Just wanted to let you know Im home safe. Goodnight." Then nothing. At all. Until yesterday.

I knew he was supposed to come home yesterday. Now I know that checkout at any random hotel is around 10:00am. So I assumed he'd be home by 1:00-ish. So I honestly got worried when I hadnt heard from him come 3:00pm. I havnt gone that long w/o talking to him since he was in Iraq. My mind went from everything from "Did he make it home ok and just fall asleep?" to "Did he cheat on me?" to "Did he get arrested?" to "Is he even effing ALIVE?!" Ugg... So I texted him. I said "Im sorry for texting you because I know I said I wouldnt but I've gotten worried. I just want to make sure you're Ok." I didnt get anything back so I called. It rung 3 times and his voicemail came on... meaning he ignored my call. So I didnt get anything until literally midnight and even then all it was was a text that said "Yea Ill call you tomorrow."

Well, havnt heard from him. I texted him and asked "Do you work tonight?" because normally, he leaves to go to work about the time I head home from work so we dont see each other unless he dosnt have work. Now he has Sprint and I have Verizon, so normally there is no way for me to tell if hes actually read my texts... my phone dosnt let me know like if I were to text another Verizon person. Unless I send a picture message... then it tells me if he's read it. So i sent the "Do you work tonight?" text as a pictures message :lol:. He opened it about an hour after I sent it (probably because he was sleeping). That was about two hours ago... And I havnt heard anything.

At this point, Im desperate to talk to him. I just need to know WTF is going on! Even if its not what I want to hear, I just need to know.

Im honestly so blown on the issue I dont know whether to be mad at him for not talking to me for the past few days or to cry because I dont know for sure whats going through his head, but Im pretty sure hes just done. And I still dont understand why...
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STOP calling, STOP texting him. dont contact him for anything at all. not one single text or call. IF he wants to talk to YOU, he will seek you out and find you. IF he doesnt, than you know your answers. IF he does, than you know he wants to communicate with you. you will NEVER know your answers if you keep "making" him respond to your calls and texts. call a friend or family member whenever you get the urge to call him, but do not call him. soon enough, you will know. even if 4,5,6,7 days go by and you havent heard from him. he's a big boy ~ you will eventually hear about it if something bad happens to him... just my thoughts. its the ONLY way you will know if HE is interested in you in his own doing, not just because you are making him be. try it and see.... wish you the best.
 
onebdzee

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greeneyes36 said:
STOP calling, STOP texting him. dont contact him for anything at all. not one single text or call. IF he wants to talk to YOU, he will seek you out and find you. IF he doesnt, than you know your answers. IF he does, than you know he wants to communicate with you. you will NEVER know your answers if you keep "making" him respond to your calls and texts. call a friend or family member whenever you get the urge to call him, but do not call him. soon enough, you will know. even if 4,5,6,7 days go by and you havent heard from him. he's a big boy ~ you will eventually hear about it if something bad happens to him... just my thoughts. its the ONLY way you will know if HE is interested in you in his own doing, not just because you are making him be. try it and see.... wish you the best.
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I think that the only issue with this is that he may call/text her and feed her a line of crap because they have been together for so long and she is "comfortable" to him....he will string her along while he is making up his mind on what he wants, all the while, she thinks they are moving forward with the relationship when in fact they aren't he is just using her

2 months/years from now....he finally figures out what he wants and it's not her, she is broken hearted, he is gone
 
vraiblonde

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onebdzee said:
I think that the only issue with this is that he may call/text her and feed her a line of crap because they have been together for so long and she is "comfortable" to him....he will string her along while he is making up his mind on what he wants, all the while, she thinks they are moving forward with the relationship when in fact they aren't he is just using her

2 months/years from now....he finally figures out what he wants and it's not her, she is broken hearted, he is gone
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OMG you are so mean!!! I think he's going to come to his senses and respond to her love. :yay:
 
lovinmaryland

lovinmaryland

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onebdzee said:
I think that the only issue with this is that he may call/text her and feed her a line of crap because they have been together for so long and she is "comfortable" to him....he will string her along while he is making up his mind on what he wants, all the while, she thinks they are moving forward with the relationship when in fact they aren't he is just using her

2 months/years from now....he finally figures out what he wants and it's not her, she is broken hearted, old, and he is gone with some young twenty something slut
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:fixed: :smile:
 
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retiredweaxman

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greeneyes36 said:
i didnt mean to "wait forever".... if he doesnt make any contact in a few weeks, writing is all over the wall there. No ???
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The writing was on the wall when he said something to the effect of being better off as friends...

Sounds like he wants a "friends with benefits" type of relationship...or to call her whenever he feels the urge as he knows she will wait for him.

I think she has a choice of either going "all in" and devoting her life to questioning a relationship or "folding" and moving on with her life.
 
vraiblonde

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retiredweaxman said:
The writing was on the wall when he said something to the effect of being better off as friends...

Sounds like he wants a "friends with benefits" type of relationship...or to call her whenever he feels the urge as he knows she will wait for him.
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We established in another thread awhile back that men don't want to be friends with a former girlfriend. The consensus among the guys was that once they no longer want to have sex with a woman, she's pretty much worthless to them.

So if he means it that he wants to be friends, it also means he still wants to have sex with her, which means she still has his attention and everything is good to go. :yay:
 
onebdzee

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vraiblonde said:
We established in another thread awhile back that men don't want to be friends with a former girlfriend. The consensus among the guys was that once they no longer want to have sex with a woman, she's pretty much worthless to them.

So if he means it that he wants to be friends, it also means he still wants to have sex with her, which means she still has his attention and everything is good to go. :yay:
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Not necessarily...some guys will keep stringing the girl along knowing that if he does, he will continue to have the booty call whenever he wants it...it doesn't mean that she still has his attention....it just means that he wants some place to stick his dick when he can't get it from who he really is going after

and I have to agree....once the sex is gone, so is the "friend"
 
LadyWolf

LadyWolf

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K_Jo said:
:lol:


Everyone agrees the hospital story was BS, right?
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lovinmaryland said:
Exactly. What a crock of ####! This guy needs to learn to lie better and come up w/ more *believable* excuses :rolleyes:
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You know, and the thing is...that isn't even funny!!! People are just crazy!!! To come up w/some stupid story about going to the hospital because he's sick and then couldn't call? I just think he's a real horses ass and if he is truly lying, she needs to seriously kick his ass to the curb and DON'T LOOK BACK!!! All she has to do is call the hospital to find out if he was admitted to see if he is lying or not.
 
K_Jo

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LadyWolf said:
You know, and the thing is...that isn't even funny!!! People are just crazy!!! To come up w/some stupid story about going to the hospital because he's sick and then couldn't call? I just think he's a real horses ass and if he is truly lying, she needs to seriously kick his ass to the curb and DON'T LOOK BACK!!! All she has to do is call the hospital to find out if he was admitted to see if he is lying or not.
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I'm sure he has some sort of paperwork he can show her. And if he really was in the hospital, the reason he gave her is BS. My guess is alcohol poisoning. :yay:
 
Toxick

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vraiblonde said:
We established in another thread awhile back that men don't want to be friends with a former girlfriend. The consensus among the guys was that once they no longer want to have sex with a woman, she's pretty much worthless to them.
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Maybe I should 'splain this.


There are very few women who enjoy engaging in the same activities as I do.

I like playing Halo, eating copious amounts of red meat, fixing mechanical and electronic gadgetry and watching movies where there are car chases, aliens, explosions and guys saying one-liners before blowing someone's head off.

Most chicks don't like these things.

Instead most chicks don't play any video games, they eat raw green food, the only thing they "fix" is their hair, and they enjoy movies where people form ya-ya sisterhoods and where women get their grooves back.


Speaking only for myself, it was not very often that I would meet a women who likes all the same bull#### that I like myself. It's even LESS often that I would meet a woman who liked all the same #### as me, and was still attractive enough to want to sleep with (it may be shallow, but being physically attracted to my partner is pretty important to me).


Anyway - when I finally came across one of these rare women who like the same #### as me, I would hold on as best as I could. And when these women would leave, I might have wanted to remain friends - but it was just too damn painful to be reminded of what I lost. So getting a plutonic friendship going seems to be a lost cause there.



As for the other women, I never bothered to remain friends, simply because I'm not interested in the same things they are - nothing personal. The only reason to stay in such as relationship is for booty-calls.


vraiblonde said:
So if he means it that he wants to be friends, it also means he still wants to have sex with her, which means she still has his attention and everything is good to go. :yay:
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:yay:
 
vraiblonde

vraiblonde

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Jeebus, what a bunch of bitter, suspicious hags! Here's this guy, on his death bed practically, and you all are bagging on him. When he needs the love and support of his woman more than anything to speed his recovery and give him something to live for.

I am just shaking my head woefully at the lot of you...
 
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