Honest Opinion and/or Insight
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RedBaron
Bird of Prey
onebdzee
off the shelf
I am happily divorced, however I don't believe that I EVER said that it was my ex husband that did this, now did I?
I also did not direct anything towards the orginial poster of this tread....I am not now, nor have I ever been bitter about anything that my ex's have done to me.... life is too short and it's not the way I chose to live
It is her life and she needs to make the choice that best suits her
smdavis65
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No. {okay I giggled a little} Someone usually screws up, cheats, they grow apart instead of together, jail, greener grass...there is no one reason
Oww! That HURT!
OK... mine was all of the above...
smdavis65
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smdavis65
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just sayin'...
onebdzee
off the shelf
smdavis65
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toppick08
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smdavis65
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He is cute........Love me some jailbait..
b!tch, I'm not jailbait! LOL!
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toppick08
Guest
There is greener grass...
No there's not. Most people are highly dysfunctional in some way, and they'll throw away a perfectly nice person they could have been happy with because that person isn't (blank) enough. You've heard me frankly admit that if I'd been more mature, my kids' dad and I would still be together to this day. Not that I'm sorry, but there it is.
But many men are highly attracted to vipers and we (you and I, Dye) are intimately familiar with at least three of them who went down that path. So for SM to say they think about it and are cautious because they don't want to be divorced later....
My god!
Dye Tied
Garden Variety Gnome
No there's not. Most people are highly dysfunctional in some way, and they'll throw away a perfectly nice person they could have been happy with because that person isn't (blank) enough. You've heard me frankly admit that if I'd been more mature, my kids' dad and I would still be together to this day. Not that I'm sorry, but there it is.
But many men are highly attracted to vipers and we (you and I, Dye) are intimately familiar with at least three of them who went down that path. So for SM to say they think about it and are cautious because they don't want to be divorced later....
My god!
By greener grass, I meant she could find happiness, do better for herself and be happy. Something better for her, is on the other side of him. Oh, I know more than 3 men that went merrily skipping down that path
BadGirl
I am so very blessed
Oh, I know more than 3 men that went merrily skipping down that path
Sometimes, the grass IS greener......
onebdzee
off the shelf
Sometimes, the grass IS greener......
Sometimes it is....however, more times than not, the grass turns brown rather quickly
Saw the movie "why did I get married" the other day and one guy talked about the 80-20 rule....it's basically where a person has 80(almost everything they want) at home and they trade it for 20(what they think they want at the time)
There is usually a bit of regret when the person that leaves the 80 to find that what they saw in them wasn't what was really there
bet your fingers are sore (just kidding)
I think your answer from him is clear in what he said to you above. you heard the old saying "relationships need time to grow". I never met your Marine although know many and been around them for a long time. They are ABRASIVE by nature and training and keep their talk short and to the point. I would just give him some time and a little space. He might have just had nerves with upcoming reunion with his buddies. I think trying to drag him through any type of proffessional services would be counterproductive at his age. I suggest relying on your own communication with him when he comes to his senses and responds to your love. Give him time to figure things out within him and maybe in a few weeks, talk to him about the past a little and try to clear up any questions in his mind. Good luck;hope things work for you both.
Yeah, I went off on a tangent and forgot my point.
Maybe the grass isn't greener? Maybe this guy is as green as it gets for her? Like 1BDZ said, 80/20 - which is what I was alluding to in my other post but she said it better.
Chasey_Lane
Salt Life
One of my favorite quotes:
"If you settle for potential, be prepared to live with deprivation."
"If you settle for potential, be prepared to live with deprivation."