Honest Opinion and/or Insight

real love is in the heart, & not online.
once it`s realized, it`s not all about
what is yours or mine.

ya just have to give it a fair chance,
instead of wondering
about all the dance.

be yrself, & it will all be as you so wish it to be.
Otherwise U`ll still be typing & thinkin,
if only i could just live that Glee.

:swoon:
 
If u attempt a hill that is 2 steep
don`t think twice b4 U take that leap.
If yr confident about the goal in mind,
U`ll never look behind.

Once there, everything else is downhill
than U have no reason to seek any other thrill
Once U decide to commit to it,
all the rest is what u make of it.

Words to Live By

c i can tipe wenn i wanna. :D

:double-swoon: I have a thing for forum poetry.
 

RedBaron

Bird of Prey
If u attempt a hill that is 2 steep
don`t think twice b4 U take that leap.
If yr confident about the goal in mind,
U`ll never look behind.

Once there, everything else is downhill
than U have no reason to seek any other thrill
Once U decide to commit to it,
all the rest is what u make of it.

Words to Live By

c i can tipe wenn i wanna. :D

:killingme

:loser:
 

lnmarsh

Love * Luck * Faith
:lol:


Everyone agrees the hospital story was BS, right?

Exactly. What a crock of ####! This guy needs to learn to lie better and come up w/ more *believable* excuses :rolleyes:

That's what I thought. :lol:

You know, and the thing is...that isn't even funny!!! People are just crazy!!! To come up w/some stupid story about going to the hospital because he's sick and then couldn't call? I just think he's a real horses ass and if he is truly lying, she needs to seriously kick his ass to the curb and DON'T LOOK BACK!!! All she has to do is call the hospital to find out if he was admitted to see if he is lying or not.

Actually the story wasn’t BS. I’ve seen the 3 IV marks (one in each arm, one in his wrist) because his veins kept closing, along with his wrist band in the trash and the initial discharge bill. Since he is covered under the VA's healthcare, TriCare, he isnt supposed to go to anywhere other than a VA hospital because they wont cover the costs. He was so sick, however, that he had to go to Calvert instead of going to DC. So after 6 hrs, 3 IV bags, 3 shots of morphine and 2 shots of anti-vomiting meds, his initial bill is $400+

I'm sure he has some sort of paperwork he can show her. And if he really was in the hospital, the reason he gave her is BS. My guess is alcohol poisoning. :yay:

Yes, because if he were truly in the hospital, the first person he *should* have called would have been the OP. By not calling her, he was out doing something he didn't want her to know about.

They wouldn’t give him three shots of morphine for alcohol poisoning. They would give him three shots of morphine if he was going through morphine withdrawals…

Didn't the OP say something about him being a DD for his drunk friends, not taking his pain meds, and then ending up in the hospital that night as she thought he was "detoxing"?

If he was DD, why would he detoxing?....don't you actually have to drink and/or be drunk to do this?....when you detox, don't you have the shakes?....and if that were the case, he shouldn't have been driving his friends around

I meant “detox” in the sense of “withdrawls” from his pain meds

And who would want to be with a junkie anyhow?

Hes not a junkie. Hes an Iraqi War veteran who received severe back injuries from two deployments and is on pain meds so that he can not only get through everyday life, but also WORK and not have to rely on welfare, etc. Cut him some slack...

Jeebus, what a bunch of bitter, suspicious hags! Here's this guy, on his death bed practically, and you all are bagging on him. When he needs the love and support of his woman more than anything to speed his recovery and give him something to live for.

I am just shaking my head woefully at the lot of you...

Thanks, Vrai.

FYI to all who are still following :lol:- I went over the other night, and we talked. Thats it. I gotta run for now but Ill give more details later.
 

lovinmaryland

Well-Known Member
Actually the story wasn’t BS. I’ve seen the 3 IV marks (one in each arm, one in his wrist) because his veins kept closing, along with his wrist band in the trash and the initial discharge bill. Since he is covered under the VA's healthcare, TriCare, he isnt supposed to go to anywhere other than a VA hospital because they wont cover the costs. He was so sick, however, that he had to go to Calvert instead of going to DC. So after 6 hrs, 3 IV bags, 3 shots of morphine and 2 shots of anti-vomiting meds, his initial bill is $400+





They wouldn’t give him three shots of morphine for alcohol poisoning. They would give him three shots of morphine if he was going through morphine withdrawals…



I meant “detox” in the sense of “withdrawls” from his pain meds



Hes not a junkie. Hes an Iraqi War veteran who received severe back injuries from two deployments and is on pain meds so that he can not only get through everyday life, but also WORK and not have to rely on welfare, etc. Cut him some slack...



Thanks, Vrai.

FYI to all who are still following :lol:- I went over the other night, and we talked. Thats it. I gotta run for now but Ill give more details later.

Ok great now I feel bad for laughing and partaking :frown:

Sorry!
 

Dye Tied

Garden Variety Gnome
Actually the story wasn’t BS. I’ve seen the 3 IV marks (one in each arm, one in his wrist) because his veins kept closing, along with his wrist band in the trash and the initial discharge bill. Since he is covered under the VA's healthcare, TriCare, he isnt supposed to go to anywhere other than a VA hospital because they wont cover the costs. He was so sick, however, that he had to go to Calvert instead of going to DC. So after 6 hrs, 3 IV bags, 3 shots of morphine and 2 shots of anti-vomiting meds, his initial bill is $400+

Thanks, Vrai.

FYI to all who are still following :lol:- I went over the other night, and we talked. Thats it. I gotta run for now but Ill give more details later.

So he's not in the military? Did I skim over where you said that? Tricare can go elsewhere besides a Va. hospital :duh:
 

ewashkow

New Member
I'm not reading through 20 plus pages of this so here is my opinion. He may be there physically but emotionally, he is long gone.

Also, I doubt he thought of you as marriage material. What guy in a four year relationship finds out they are going to be a daddy and doesn't start making plans to get married?

You also mentioned massive fights and taken breaks. I believe that when you call a relationship off, it is for a reason. Petty or not, it was enough for one or both of you to say it is over. Once the relationship is called off or on a break, I don't think it can ever be fully repaired. As for using your age as a factor, you are using that as a mask to cover the root of the problem. I have been married since 2007 to a man that I have known for 11 years, since I was 14. We never have massive fights and never needed to take breaks from each other when we started dating in 2005.

As for the "he'll always love you" bit, I do believe that a part of you never fully lets go to the memory your first love and he seems to be taking that mentality as well.

I know this is not the answer you are looking for. It seems like you want someone to tell you that you are over exaggerating things and it will all work out. Based off of what you have written, you see the writing on the wall but you don't want to accept it. I'm sorry but relationships end and if one of you hasn't called it off by the time you read this post, I suspect the ending is coming right around the corner. Brace yourself.
 

Booboo3604

Active Member
So he's not in the military? Did I skim over where you said that? Tricare can go elsewhere besides a Va. hospital :duh:

I think she said he used to be a Marine stationed in North Carolina. He has since then got out and moved back up here. They were long distance when he was still in. This weekend was a reunion with some of the guys he used to be in with. Atleast that's what I have got out of it.....
 

Dye Tied

Garden Variety Gnome
I think she said he used to be a Marine stationed in North Carolina. He has since then got out and moved back up here. They were long distance when he was still in. This weekend was a reunion with some of the guys he used to be in with. Atleast that's what I have got out of it.....

If you just get out, you have no VA benefits. And a trip to the E.R., like what she stated, is way over that dollar figure. She's making it up as she goes along.
 

onebdzee

off the shelf
If you just get out, you have no VA benefits. And a trip to the E.R., like what she stated, is way over that dollar figure. She's making it up as she goes along.

Tricare is taken anywhere....With the many trips that I have taken over the years to the ER, I have never gotten a bill before getting discharged....you get the bill 30-60 days after in the mail

Tricare(I think that's what she said he had) copay = $30

It seems to me that since she has "already been over to his house to talk and seen the IV marks, the braclet, and the discharge bill" she has made up her mind what she is going to do....IMO, however, he has gotten away with doing what he wanted, made up some bullsh!t story to cover his ass, and she believed him and took him back....he will do it again
 
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