Honest Opinion and/or Insight

[Chasey_Lane]

Whateva! Whateva!

 

[High-Def]

Whateva! Whateva!

LOL Whiny girls get on my nerves....I feel like I was too harsh but I'll get over it

 

[lnmarsh]

I think he has found someone else that and has been setting her up while he tries out the new girlfriend. I would be willing to bet he wasn't with the "guys", and decided to spend an extra day with his new love interest.

trans relation- new love won't work out
Keeping you set up for the "shoe to drop"

If he wasn’t with his guys then why does he 1.) have pictures and 2.) came home with all sorts of information to promote Hidden Wounds (Hidden Wounds – Hidden Wounds) … a foundation started by the family members of one of his combat buddies who unfortunately committed suicide after getting out of the Corps? Believe it or not, not all men are liars and cheats.

Good luck to you both.

Thank you

The military will cover the discharged member for disability related issues in emergency cases....all he has to do is file it through the VA and they will pay the bill.

I wish you lots of luck and hope he isn't leading you on until he finds his 20

Well that’s not the way his VA contact person (I don’t know what to call her… VA Rep? IDK) explained it. According to her, unless he goes to a VA hospital, bills don’t get paid. Now maybe there is a way to submit the bill to TriCare because it was an emergency situation, however when he tried to do that before TriCare denied it. Of course, Im just taking his word for that too, right?

I’m not even entertaining the notion of commenting on your other accusations

This whole story is nothing but a hot mess! He's a junkie detoxing from pain meds, doesn't call, is a DD but got drunk and is obviously a liar by the whole my cell phone didn't have service story in the er....news flash ask to use the hospital phone they'll let you. You're a gullible naieve young woman who is getting played wake up and smell the Folgers coffee brewing honey. Roll in sh$$ smell like sh$$ as my mom used to tell me. Get out before he sucks you in to his loser drama and brings you down. And yes it's unfortunate that you miscarried but you were 12 weeks it wasn't like you delivered a baby and it died. For what ever reason it just wasn't meant to be. I've had 2 miscarriages it's hard but life goes on. You're young and your time will come to have children. 10 years from now you will see this as a blessing that you're not tied to that loser by being his baby mama. He had a hard time with the miscarriage? Ya ok....he's playing the sympathy card. Grow up, get over it and move on and put on your big girl panties on and deal with it.

1.) Hes not a junkie.
2.) From personal experience I can honestly say that his cell dosnt work in the ER, and neither does mine. IDK if yall got some super-powerful signal receiving phones or what, but our shyt don’t work. As far as the hospital phone goes… he was withdrawing and suffering from food poisoning. By the time he felt good enough to use the phone, he left the hospital and texted me. That’s good enough for me. Maybe YOU would completely expect YOUR SO to stop dry heaving and feeling like shyt long enough to ask the nurse to use the phone, but my expectations aren’t that high. Maybe Im just not high-class enough to have as high expectations for my SO as some people on here…
3.) Young woman – yes. Gullible and getting played – no.
4.) Maybe, just MAYBE, people handle loss differently than you do. I know that my miscarrying isnt an uncommon thing, but it really, REALLY affected my SO and I. We’re moving on but still having some hard times with it. If you were able to just say Eff It and forget about the whole thing, then more power to you. I wish I could be as effing strong as you.

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Honestly, I don’t have to justify myself to you, High-Def, or any-effing-one-else on here for that matter. I appreciate every’s honesty, truly. Because that’s what I asked for. But I don’t appreciate straight-up attacks on not only my SO but myself and my character. If you don’t agree with me and/or my decision(s) than fine. Everyone is entitled to their own opinion and if you think my SO is a total dirtbag than whatever – you’re not dating him, I am. But you don’t have to spout nasty accusations without evidence.

Im sure if your opinion is that Im naive and my SO is a dirtbag and that we should split for the better, than nothing I say will change your mind. And that’s cool. If I actually knew people on here I would say wish I had never posted the thread. But considering I dont know not ONE of you and the fact that I’ve gotten some really good advice (both in support of my relationship and against), all the other BS is worth it I guess.

Thank you all for your opinions and insight. Now Im hungry... I wish there was a Sheetz near my work so I could go get some fries

 

[cattitude]

Honestly, I don’t have to justify myself to you, High-Def, or any-effing-one-else on here for that matter. I appreciate every’s honesty, truly. Because that’s what I asked for. But I don’t appreciate straight-up attacks on not only my SO but myself and my character. If you don’t agree with me and/or my decision(s) than fine. Everyone is entitled to their own opinion and if you think my SO is a total dirtbag than whatever – you’re not dating him, I am. But you don’t have to spout nasty accusations without evidence.

Ah...there it is.

You have asked a bunch of internet relationship authorities for advice...and you are upset at the outcome?

 

[lnmarsh]

Ah...there it is.

You have asked a bunch of internet relationship authorities for advice...and you are upset at the outcome?

I know, right?! Im not necesserarily upset, just a little annoyed by and shaking my head at some of the more close-minded persons on here.

But honestly, I appreciate everyone's honesty. And I did get some decent advice

 

[Chasey_Lane]

But you don’t have to spout nasty accusations without evidence.

We're only going off the information you provided. :shrug:

 

[retiredweaxman]

You ask total strangers their opinion on a personal matter - then you get upset over what they perceive to be the truth?

Instead of posting on an Internet forum, why not stand on a street corner and ask people as they walk by what they think of your boyfriend and your relationship? Sound crazy? Well, it amounts to the same thing - talking with strangers about something personal.

If you really wanted straight forward answers, why not ask mutual friends, your family, his family, etc? You know, people that actually know you and your personal situation.

 

[migtig]

We're only going off the information you provided. :shrug:

Yeah, but we don't have ALL the information. :shrug:

You ask total strangers their opinion on a personal matter - then you get upset over what they perceive to be the truth?

Instead of posting on an Internet forum, why not stand on a street corner and ask people as they walk by what they think of your boyfriend and your relationship? Sound crazy? Well, it amounts to the same thing - talking with strangers about something personal.

If you really wanted straight forward answers, why not ask mutual friends, your family, his family, etc? You know, people that actually know you and your personal situation.

Actually, she isn't getting all upset. Calm down. There is no reason for YOU to get upset.

I think she was using us as a sounding board, and we all seemed to know that and gave our input off what parts of the story we were seeing and our life experiences.

That's what advice is.

And sometimes, it's easier to ask strangers for input rather than whining to your fmaily and friends. :shrug:

No worries. Besides this was a good a little tread for a while. I also hope InMarsh keeps us informed semi-regularly on their relationship.

I wish her the best.

 

[lnmarsh]

We're only going off the information you provided. :shrug:

This whole story is nothing but a hot mess! He's a junkie detoxing from pain meds, <-- nasty accusation doesn't call, is a DD but got drunk and is obviously a liar by the whole my cell phone didn't have service story in the er <-- <-- nasty accusation ....news flash ask to use the hospital phone they'll let you. You're a gullible naieve young woman who is getting played <-- nasty accusation wake up and smell the Folgers coffee brewing honey. Roll in sh$$ smell like sh$$ as my mom used to tell me. Get out before he sucks you in to his loser drama and brings you down. And yes it's unfortunate that you miscarried but you were 12 weeks it wasn't like you delivered a baby and it died. For what ever reason it just wasn't meant to be. I've had 2 miscarriages it's hard but life goes on. You're young and your time will come to have children. 10 years from now you will see this as a blessing that you're not tied to that loser by being his baby mama. He had a hard time with the miscarriage? Ya ok....he's playing the sympathy card. <-- nasty accusation Grow up, get over it and move on and put on your big girl panties on and deal with it.

This is the type of stuff thats irking me. Saying "he's a junkie" is pure nastyness. Its rude, harsh, and uncalled for. IMO. Maybe Im wrong...

High-Def: Sorry if it seems like Im picking on you but Im just using you as an example.

 

[retiredweaxman]

MIGTIG - I am not upset...after rereading my post, I am not sure how you came to the conclusion that I am..but that is another problem with internet forums - people can only infer what is being said.

I truly believe a face to face conversation with family/friends/coworkers is better than randomly asking stranger's advice on a forum. I know that I would never throw out on a forum my personal problems for people to discuss that I do not know.

 

[Chasey_Lane]

This is the type of stuff thats irking me. Saying "he's a junkie" is pure nastyness. Its rude, harsh, and uncalled for. IMO. Maybe Im wrong...

High-Def: Sorry if it seems like Im picking on you but Im just using you as an example.

You certainly have the option to not put your private information on a public site that many have access to. You asked for honest opinions. You got exactly what you asked for.

 

[lnmarsh]

Yeah, but we don't have ALL the information. :shrug:

Thank you...



Actually, she isn't getting all upset. Calm down. There is no reason for YOU to get upset.

I think she was using us as a sounding board, and we all seemed to know that and gave our input off what parts of the story we were seeing and our life experiences.

That's what advice is.

And sometimes, it's easier to ask strangers for input rather than whining to your fmaily and friends. :shrug:

No worries. Besides this was a good a little tread for a while. I also hope InMarsh keeps us informed semi-regularly on their relationship.

I wish her the best.

OMG thank you. You definitely put together into forum-speak everything everything that I had swarming in my head Thank you

 

[migtig]

MIGTIG - I am not upset...after rereading my post, I am not sure how you came to the conclusion that I am..but that is another problem with internet forums - people can only infer what is being said.

I truly believe a face to face conversation with family/friends/coworkers is better than randomly asking stranger's advice on a forum. I know that I would never throw out on a forum my personal problems for people to discuss that I do not know.

I'm just saying there's no reason for anybody to get upset if she chooses not to follow their advice. That's what advice is - people can take it or leave it.

Different generation and the OP's current age play factors into using forums as sounding boards. :shrug: And actually none of the posters, regardless of their age, had a problem giving advice, now did they?

And I personally can see there are times when a stranger's advice is better than a biased loved ones' advice. JMO

 

[hooknline]

My pleasure!

Ditiest halo I ever seen

I know, right?! Im not necesserarily upset, just a little annoyed by and shaking my head at some of the more close-minded persons on here.

But honestly, I appreciate everyone's honesty. And I did get some decent advice

Just remember that the Marines teach HONOR and yeah their are some bad apples everywhere, for the most part believe in your Man untill your heart tells you different. As far as the disibility and ER charges, the VA and tricare work together for service related matters and really only comes down to what bucket of cash do you draw from. The VA has multiple levels of service (up to eight) depending on service persons status and disibility. The tricare is more set up like a health insurance network and would simply be the initial start of the process to admitt him to a private emergency service and garentee payment and they would then sort out the "what bucket of cash do we draw from". Remind him that there are alot of private non profit groups that could possibly help with his back such as wounded warrior and others. Sorry to hear about his buddy. This happens way to much with our vets in America. Remind your former Marine that Maryland State has a new (upgraded) veterans program that he might want to check out. Maryland State is doing alot more to supplement the U.S Gov VA system. Good Luck to both of you.

 

[vraiblonde]

Tip #1:

Don't put your SO business out there if you're unsure, overreacting, or when you're angry/hurt. You will present a case that makes said SO sound like a real dick, then it will turn out to be your overactive imagination, but we will still be stuck in dick mode and our comments will reflect that.

Had I known at the beginning he was a medically discharged combat vet, my opinion would have been very different. So if you're going to tell the story, tell the WHOLE story and don't make us form opinions, then be hit with new information.

 

[migtig]

Tip #1:

Don't put your SO business out there if you're unsure, overreacting, or when you're angry/hurt. You will present a case that makes said SO sound like a real dick, then it will turn out to be your overactive imagination, but we will still be stuck in dick mode and our comments will reflect that.

Had I known at the beginning he was a medically discharged combat vet, my opinion would have been very different. So if you're going to tell the story, tell the WHOLE story and don't make us form opinions, then be hit with new information.

She did say that he was a wonded Marine early on. Just fyi. Which is why my first suggestion had her trying to contact the Corps Key Wives programs.

 

[libertytyranny]

Actually, I am surprised it took this long to get nasty..must be a record. Either way, I wish you luck. SOunds like you got what you were worried about straightened out, and I see no evidnec that he was doing coke off a hookers ass or anything else others have imagined. Sounds like he wanted a weekend away without having to call. I want that too, sometimes..to go out with my girls and not have to check in anywhere. i'm glad thigns worked out for you and hope they continue.

 

[lnmarsh]

Tip #1:

Don't put your SO business out there if you're unsure, overreacting, or when you're angry/hurt. You will present a case that makes said SO sound like a real dick, then it will turn out to be your overactive imagination, but we will still be stuck in dick mode and our comments will reflect that.

I understand that. And I was hoping my original post didnt reflect my tone of "hurt." Which I dont think it entirely did considering I had some people (including yourself) rooting for him and I at at least one point

Had I known at the beginning he was a medically discharged combat vet, my opinion would have been very different. So if you're going to tell the story, tell the WHOLE story and don't make us form opinions, then be hit with new information.

Sorry if I hadnt made that part clear from the beginning. When you're living it, sometimes you forget to relay important points about a situation to people on the outside. My bad.

 

[K_Jo]

I don't believe that's true. I've had a meaningful relationship with my two best friends for almost 20 years now, and it's been completely effortless. Zero drama, zero insecurity, zero conversations about the state of our friendship.

Why should you have to work hard and sacrifice for a romantic relationship? Why can't it just work out and be?

Because men are from Mars and Women are from Venus.

 

[High-Def]

This is the type of stuff thats irking me. Saying "he's a junkie" is pure nastyness. Its rude, harsh, and uncalled for. IMO. Maybe Im wrong...

High-Def: Sorry if it seems like Im picking on you but Im just using you as an example.

1) If you have to detox then yes you have a problem and can be labled a junkie.

2) Which is it he was detoxing or had food poisoning? I'm confused

3) Who drove him home? He wouldn't be allowed to drive home after recieving morphine and anti nauseua meds hospitals make you get a ride home and will let you use the phone to call for one.

4) Yes, it is my assertation that he is lying to you and playing on you sympathy and is playing you based on the facts that you provided in your posts.

5) Yes I'm sure for him "losing" the baby was hurtful but it is far harder on women and most men with testicles don't question their relationship with their girlfriend of 4 years because she miscarried their baby

6) Good for him that he was a Marine and served our country my hubby is a retired service member and I have nothing but respect for them....however the fact that he was an honerably discharged Marine doesn't mean that that alone make him an upstanding guy. Based on YOUR posts he comes across as dishonest person.

Men who are in love with their women DO NOT forget to call, text when they say they will and do not cause you to worry all weekend about their whereabouts. PERIOD real men don't do that. I wish you all the best I was with a man that sounds like your guy for 2 years. He too didn't call when he said he would, would forget to text, could never be reached and was shady about where he was. Just trying to spare you some heartache. Good luck with him because unfortunately it sounds like you are going to need it.