How to discipline your toddler?

[barncat]

When I worked for social services, the CPS workers used to give parents lessons in just how hard and where they could smack their kids to keep them in line without getting in trouble with CPS....

If it doesn't leave a mark...:shrug:

My favorite is a quick smack on the back of the head. Her butt is padded (diaper) and normally hard to get to (she's sitting on it), but her head is at the perfect height to smack the back of real quick and carry on with whatever we were doing.

 

[rkrider]

Hugging rewards the undesired behavior.

Totally ignore him until he regains control.

 

[myjobismommy]

Just because you punish your kids because of anger rather than justice, doesn't mean the rest of the world does, moron.

spanking = anger = not good parenting.

 

[Chain729]

spanking = anger = not good parenting.

If you really believe that, you have an IQ rivaled only by garden tools. I suppose you believe the only reason anyone ever yells is because they're angry too? I mean, heaven forbid it's for a practical reason, like oh, being louder so that someone out of talking distance can hear you. Of course, that analogy is probably also beyond your comprehension, huh?

 

[Beth_kennedy]

I have a 3 year old boy and he is starting to get really rowdy. We do the naughty step which seems to be working some of the time. He has had a few tantrums that were really bad. Kicking and screaming. It is frustrating and i don't spank my kids as i was a child of abuse. I tried just hugging him and telling him i love him. I thought it would detract him from his tantrum and be like what is this women doing...lol! I just want to know how you guys handle it. I get embarrassed sometimes in public when he does act up.

Sorry but hugging him and telling him you love hime when he is acting badly is like rewarding him for bad behavior.

Child abuse is not the same as smacking a bottom. Kids get away with too much crap these days. No fear of their actions. Time out is a joke. I am not saying to beat your kid, but a firm smack to the bottom may get his attention.

 

[Beth_kennedy]

I did that in the beginning and it had the opposite affect. Till this day if someone raises the hand up to fast i flinch. Just a reaction. That is why i don't even want to swat my child on the butt. It might work for other parents but not me.

Don't take this the wrong way but get over it. That happened along time ago and under different circumstances. Smacking a childs bottom is not child abuse.

You have to let them know there is consquences to their actions. They will not get confused if you smack their bottom with hitting another child if you explain it. Would you rather him grow thinking he can do whatever he wants and will be rewarded for it becasue people are so damn overly PC these days?

 

[Beth_kennedy]

Sounds to me like both of you need birth control when you are drinking. By the way, who is watching the kids while you 2 are off to the Tiki?

I have kids, and I choose not to drink.

Good for you supermom

 

[MissKitty]

My favorite is a quick smack on the back of the head. Her butt is padded (diaper) and normally hard to get to (she's sitting on it), but her head is at the perfect height to smack the back of real quick and carry on with whatever we were doing.

I prefer to give mine a quick punch in the throat instead of the back of the head.

 

[Beth_kennedy]

spanking = anger = not good parenting.

Ummm bullshait

Just because you punish your kids because of anger rather than justice, doesn't mean the rest of the world does, moron.

Chain....could not have said it better myself.

 

[Wenchy]

My favorite is a quick smack on the back of the head. Her butt is padded (diaper) and normally hard to get to (she's sitting on it), but her head is at the perfect height to smack the back of real quick and carry on with whatever we were doing.

When my son got out of hand when we were out and about I would yank his hair. I didn't care who saw me do it. I never had to leave a place because once I did the "yank" he was a perfect angel. A simple time out worked when we were at home.

When my daughter was very young she pulled my hair. I pulled hers right back. Shortly afterwards she took a liking to my earring and tugged on it...HARD. I yanked right back (HARD) on her earlobe. She never did either again.

Is "yank" even a word?

I punished my son (now 11) during the summer for being disrespectful to me. His punishment? I took away his game cube, or whatever that thing is, for a week. He threatened to call CPS and I handed him the phone.

 

[Dymphna]

I punished my son (now 11) during the summer for being disrespectful to me. His punishment? I took away his game cube, or whatever that thing is, for a week. He threatened to call CPS and I handed him the phone.

If he'd called CPS over a game cube, they probably would have come out to your house and taken it away for good.

 

[CalvertNewbie]

If he'd called CPS over a game cube, they probably would have come out to your house and taken it away for good.

Now there's an idea. When our son/daughter (not sure which we're having yet) gets old enough to start that crap about calling CPS over something like this, I'm going to have one of my friends come over, act like they're from CPS, and tell the child that because he/she called "CPS" for no reason two toys will now be taken away instead of one.

 

[puggymom]

My brother threatened to call CPS on my parents once when he claimed there was no food in the house. Of course he was 20 years old and home from college on a break.

 

[Chain729]

My brother threatened to call CPS on my parents once when he claimed there was no food in the house. Of course he was 20 years old and home from college on a break.

Please tell me they stopped paying any and all of his bills and changed the locks.

 

[barncat]

I prefer to give mine a quick punch in the throat instead of the back of the head.

Good for you!!

 

[Elle]

I have a 3 year old boy and he is starting to get really rowdy. We do the naughty step which seems to be working some of the time. He has had a few tantrums that were really bad. Kicking and screaming. It is frustrating and i don't spank my kids as i was a child of abuse. I tried just hugging him and telling him i love him. I thought it would detract him from his tantrum and be like what is this women doing...lol! I just want to know how you guys handle it. I get embarrassed sometimes in public when he does act up.

Who is the parent?

When the 2 year old came to us he would throw fits for anything – I mean kicking, screaming, ramming his head back fits – and at least 10 of them a day (no exaggeration). It only took a week of a stern “that is not allowed here” followed by picking him up and putting him in the corner for a 2 minute timeout for that habit to break. He’s not a bad kid but that’s how he was used to getting attention, once he realized that it would only get him a brief isolation he changed his ways quickly.

The corner punishment still works very well for other various wrong doings when they occasionally happen – and you’d be surprised that there are corners everywhere – even out in public not just at home – but I guess it would probably embarrass you too though for someone to see you standing over your child while they were standing in a corner for doing something wrong.