I am NOT going to school!

[nawty1]

Okay...I have tried everything in MY mommy handbook and nothing is working! Here is the dilemma...my 6 year old refuses to go to school. I have to forcefully dress him, take him into the school and then go home and wait for the call 20 mins. later to come get him because he is threatening to run away, or acting up and disrupting classes.

I have tried everything that I can think of. He has been a leukemia patient for 3 1/2 years, and the psych at the hospital says that is "normal" with young cancer patients. And of course discipline nowdays like we had when we were growing up is not an option because spanking is considered a nono now. His 9 year old brother goes and has no problems. The little one is made to stay in his room and stare at the walls doing schoolwork when he is home, so I would think that he would be bored with no other kids, but he doesn't seem to mind.

I have threatened taking him to the police station and letting them explain what truancy is.

Has anyone else ever gone through this??? I am at my wits end and not feeling very good at this parenting thing.

 

[AC/DC]

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[nawty1]

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Left those at BF's house...choot! My dad says to go make him get a "switch" from the tree....owwwwch....I remember that!

 

[HollowSoul]

beat his @SS

 

[Christy]

Ever considered private school? :shrug:

 

[citysherry]

I would start with his teacher. Schedule a parent/teacher conference and find out what is going on at school. Have you asked your child if he's having problems with other kids at school, does the teacher yell at him, etc.

 

[dreamland]

beat his @SS

 

[mainman]

And of course discipline nowdays like we had when we were growing up is not an option because spanking is considered a nono now.

I didn't get that memo...:shrug:

 

[AC/DC]

I didn't get that memo...:shrug:

I did, I rolled it up and beat their asses with it.

 

[Railroad]

And of course discipline nowdays like we had when we were growing up is not an option because spanking is considered a nono now.

What's more important? Being politically correct or raising your child correctly? You could ask the corrections folks what they think about that, when you schedule the truancy appointment.

And try this:

"YOU, little kid, are not old enough to tell me what you will and will not do. I am your parent, worthy of more respect than you can imagine, and I will TELL YOU what you will or will not do, until further notice!!!"

 

[Suz]

I would start with his teacher. Schedule a parent/teacher conference and find out what is going on at school. Have you asked your child if he's having problems with other kids at school, does the teacher yell at him, etc.

Definitely do that! If you don't they'll be making one with you and then the accusations/investigations (by school admin) will begin. Or they'll label your child and it will follow him to the day he graduates.

"And disipline has not been outlawed. That's what the a$$ is for. Just don't leave marks." per a St. Mary's county law officer.

 

[kwillia]

I did, I rolled it up and beat their asses with it.

 

[nawty1]

Ever considered private school? :shrug:

He was in private school for 2 years (preK and K). They did the same thing. When all goes wrong...call Mom and have her pick him up. I spent 2 months going to school with him every day and sitting in the class to make sure he wasn't gonna cause trouble. But that didn't work and the minute I spank his butt I got the OMG looks.

I was actually trying to find a school for "troubled" kids but can only find ones for teens.

Leukemia Society suggested a school in Pa. for patients, but I think it is my responsibility to get him straight. I respect MY parents alot more after going through this for the last few years!

Kids nowdays are told that spanking is abuse, so if I smack his arse he threatens to tell the hospital that I abuse him and with the Leukemia he bruises easier than a "normal" child so not going down that road.

Do you think the police station is a good idea? Maybe it would scare him like that little girl in Florida.

I just keep telling myself "1 more month of this!".

 

[nawty1]

And try this:

"YOU, little kid, are not old enough to tell me what you will and will not do. I am your parent, worthy of more respect than you can imagine, and I will TELL YOU what you will or will not do, until further notice!!!"

I like this one! Don't think I have really ever tried the "talk down" approach. Gonna try it tomorrow! Maybe just need to get a good strong voice.

I talk with his teacher, Principal, Guidance Counselor and Vice Principal every other day. They just throw their hands up. He says he doesn't get picked on he just says school is stupid. His brother and the neighbor's kids say he has alot of friends that he plays with at recess.

I will put "my dad's" voice on and try the stern talking to. Let ya know how it goes tomorrow! Thx RR!

 

[Pete]

I like this one! Don't think I have really ever tried the "talk down" approach. Gonna try it tomorrow! Maybe just need to get a good strong voice.

I talk with his teacher, Principal, Guidance Counselor and Vice Principal every other day. They just throw their hands up. He says he doesn't get picked on he just says school is stupid. His brother and the neighbor's kids say he has alot of friends that he plays with at recess.

I will put "my dad's" voice on and try the stern talking to. Let ya know how it goes tomorrow! Thx RR!

Try to make your nostrils flair and foam at the mouth a little for effect

 

[Railroad]

Kids nowdays are told that spanking is abuse, so if I smack his arse he threatens to tell the hospital that I abuse him and with the Leukemia he bruises easier than a "normal" child so not going down that road.

AFTER THE SPANKING, tell the kid to believe you, not the school, because you love him and they don't. Let him know that some of the people at the hospital are parents, too, that sometimes have to smack their kids to teach them not to misbehave, so they won't panic the way he thinks they will. Tell the kid that spanking is NOT abuse, and then explain what abuse IS. Some examples might include whipping him with a lamp cord until his legs bleed, or (as I had done to me) beating him with a 1/2" thick piece of tabletop, formica on one side and a peg on the other. If dad was mad I got the peg side.

But warming the bottom of the out of control, spoiled little brat is something you have to have the courage to do - it's part of being a parent. Sorry he's sick, but that's not carte blanche to be a turd.

 

[mAlice]

When he wants something, tell him you don't want to take him, don't want to buy it, don't want to do it. Just simply "I don't want to". Show him how it feels.

 

[Toxick]

I was under the impression that in the great state of Maryland there is no ban or statute against the admission of corporal punishment.

I could be wrong. But I dont' think so.

 

[Pete]

I was under the impression that in the great state of Maryland there is no ban or statute against the admission of corporal punishment.

I could be wrong. But I dont' think so.

It is too restrictive, take these 2 BS restrictions; they have to be "your" kid and under the age of 16

 

[Tigerlily]

Definitely do that! If you don't they'll be making one with you and then the accusations/investigations (by school admin) will begin. Or they'll label your child and it will follow him to the day he graduates.

"And disipline has not been outlawed. That's what the a$$ is for. Just don't leave marks." per a St. Mary's county law officer.