I am NOT going to school!

[vraiblonde]

Hitting a little kid with leukemia! What is this world coming to???


What does he say when you ask him why he doesn't want to go to school? Doesn't like his teacher? Kids pick on him? Serve crappy food for lunch? What?

I'd do the PA school thing, if you can. Don't fight this battle because you feel it's your "responsibility". Maybe he doesn't like school because he feels "different" because of his illness. Maybe he would be more comfortable with other kids that are going through the same thing he is.

 

[vraiblonde]

When he wants something, tell him you don't want to take him, don't want to buy it, don't want to do it. Just simply "I don't want to". Show him how it feels.

This is an excellent tactic, btw.

 

[Toxick]

It is too restrictive, take these 2 BS restrictions; they have to be "your" kid and under the age of 16

Heh.. well. I think that proxies should be allowed: i.e. parent gives the school the right to administer ass-tannings.



As far as under the age of 16, I kind of agree with. For two reasons. If you haven't learned your brat to respect authoritah by age 16, it's too late. And by 16 they should be old enough to listen to reason.


That opinion only stretches as far as spankies though. As long as your sprog is living in your house you should still be allowed to administer phyisical restraint, denial of food and sleep, and emotional torture.

 

[RoseRed]

This is an excellent tactic, btw.

Works for me!

 

[Chasey_Lane]

Why do I get a visioin of the Maury Povich Show? At 6 years old, your child doesn't have a choice. Maybe he's just a spoiled brat? :shrug:

 

[nawty1]

I was under the impression that in the great state of Maryland there is no ban or statute against the admission of corporal punishment.

I could be wrong. But I dont' think so.[/QUOTE

Googled it and YOU ARE RIGHT!!!!

Law does not prohibit reasonable punishment by parent or stepparent, including reasonable corporal punishment, evaluated in light of the age and condition of child. Sec. 4-501.[Ci.] ]

Oh his world just got skeeery! Not gonna go overboard, but I think a red bottom might occur! Guess I should have looked up the laws before but I just took everyone's word for it.

 

[mAlice]

Maybe he's just a spoiled brat? :shrug:

Unfortunately, this happens to children with illnesses. Parents over-compensate. I probably would, too.

 

[Chasey_Lane]

Works for me!

Doesn't work for me; my daughter will just say, "Fine, then I'm not doing this."

 

[Chasey_Lane]

Unfortunately, this happens to children with illnesses. Parents over-compensate. I probably would, too.

Understand. He's just doing what he's always been able to get away with.

 

[mAlice]

Doesn't work for me; my daughter will just say, "Fine, then I'm not doing this."

As the parent, you can beat her at the game of one-upmanship.

 

[Kizzy]

Unfortunately, this happens to children with illnesses. Parents over-compensate. I probably would, too.

Yep, and I know I would do the same thing.

 

[Ehesef]

Googled it and YOU ARE RIGHT!!!!

Law does not prohibit reasonable punishment by parent or stepparent, including reasonable corporal punishment, evaluated in light of the age and condition of child. Sec. 4-501.[Ci.] ]

Oh his world just got skeeery! Not gonna go overboard, but I think a red bottom might occur! Guess I should have looked up the laws before but I just took everyone's word for it.

I think you should be allowed to beat other people's kids too. Those little bastages in Walmart...

 

[Chasey_Lane]

As the parent, you can beat her at the game of one-upmanship.

I didn't say she wins.

 

[nawty1]

Hitting a little kid with leukemia! What is this world coming to???


What does he say when you ask him why he doesn't want to go to school? Doesn't like his teacher? Kids pick on him? Serve crappy food for lunch? What?

I'd do the PA school thing, if you can. Don't fight this battle because you feel it's your "responsibility". Maybe he doesn't like school because he feels "different" because of his illness. Maybe he would be more comfortable with other kids that are going through the same thing he is.

When he first got diagnosed, I really gave in to his every whim. My ex's cousin had lost his daughter to Leukemia just 3 years prior. So naturally, I was scared out of my mind that I could lose him.

Then after being told he was in remission and would pull through, I realized he was milking the illness to get things done his way. I put a stop to it and that is when all he!! broke loose. It has made him a stronger (mentally) kid, but he is different from other kids. He would rather hang out with adults (teachers, my friends, kids' parents) than other kids.

The psych at the hospital said the best thing to do IS treat him like a "normal" child and normal children who act up get disciplined. I just told him and showed him the site where it says spanking is legal. He said someone just made that up...hahaha...we'll see wabbit!

 

[Chasey_Lane]

I just told him and showed him the site where it says spanking is legal.

It's called discipline.

 

[nawty1]

to ALL of you! Without ya I would have never thought about alot of these things! I feel I have some control back and will use it to get him on the right track so he doesn't end up on the news! It is hard because we are soooo close to Southeast and I see alot of the neighboring kids getting into the "wrong" crowd and I am afraid that he would end up there too. The only thing keeping me here is my farm (last one in the area )

It is a shame kids don't come with a step by step guide

 

[vraiblonde]

When he first got diagnosed, I really gave in to his every whim.

A-ha. But a natural response, I would think.

The psych at the hospital said the best thing to do IS treat him like a "normal" child and normal children who act up get disciplined.

First of all, don't talk about whipping his ass - do it. Surprise him. When he acts up or refuses to go to school, don't threaten him with action - TAKE ACTION. You don't need a website to back you up. You are the Mommy. Take control.

 

[baileydog]

Coat hangers, anyone? Either beat them with it or retro abortion them.

 

[RoseRed]

Bamboo plants stakes really hurt.

 

[mrweb]

You must figure out what his "currency" is. Crimminy, I sound like Dr. Phil. Anyway, find it out so you can take it away when you need to redirect some behavior. Currently my teenager's is IM. Grades slip, room doesn't get picked up, I filter out her IP and bingo, no more IM. She can earn it back with her weekly grade sheets with good grades on them, all work done, turned in, etc. Works like a charm. In a few years that currency will be the car keys along with IM.