This is my first time here. Here it goes...I’ve been with this guy for a very long time. We met when I was very young. When we first met it was great we both smoked you know what and it was fun. I finally grow up...him on the other hand; he has just got worse and worse. He has become a liar, drug addict and domestically violent. He has done some really bad things to me. I also have two kids with him. What are the chances the someone like this will straighten up their life? I pretty much know after some many times of going through this it will probably not work...has anyone been in this kind of relationship before? If so what did you do? Please any advice is appreciated.:shrug:
First of all I just want to give you a big
As I have been where you are at & I know what it is like.
When I first read this I really had to take some time and digest it all, as so many things you have posted were so similar to my past situation.
In all honesty you have to reach your breaking point, that point of no return. When all the empty promises have run dry, but yet your tears still flow. If your situation is at all like mine he probably treats the kids okay, but you like crap?
There are honestly not enough pages in any thread that is on here that I could use to describe the magnitude of what I lived with ,enabled ,endured and most importantly overcame.
When I had numerous opportunities to make him leave or leave myself, I ultimately made the choice to stay and it was bottom line because I was scared. When an individual shreds you to the core, to where no matter what you do you feel worthless, then you let them own your soul.You have relinquished all the power and he knows it.
Yes, there are still parts of you that choose to be set free and I swear to you if you are strong enough the inner you, the survivor so to speak will overcome all the nasty comments and broken promises and you will find the strength to be free.
As I said there are not enough pages to even touch on what I went through and when the end arrived for me, I was so scared I had given myself anxiety attacks.
Until the first night I slept in my new place with my children on my terms. That night will be four years ago this August.
It's four years later though and even though the ex and his issues still plague my life. I know that when I go to bed at night there is no fear, no pain and no emptiness. There is life after all this.
Please if you need a shoulder to lean on let me know. I wish you and yours the best.
Get out and do not look back...
I think men eventually grow up. You need to just let him go and be on your own for awhile and maybe he'll realize that he needs to straighten up.