Cowgirl
Well-Known Member
Maybe she should get pregnant again. He might change if they had another baby. :shrug:
Maybe she should get pregnant again. He might change if they had another baby. :shrug:
Larry Gude
Strung Out
That could...
...be a new forum feature; Paid mommying. They pay you a consulting fee for what they should be doing and you give them advice, some literature, stats, background info, an idea of what life could be and they either get with your program. Or don't.
if you get certified with the state, then your clients could qualify for some new money or something based on how well they've completed your program. In turn, the state would grant you millions to set up and promote the program plus exposure at clinics, shelters, ER's and at the dentists office.
...be a new forum feature; Paid mommying. They pay you a consulting fee for what they should be doing and you give them advice, some literature, stats, background info, an idea of what life could be and they either get with your program. Or don't.
if you get certified with the state, then your clients could qualify for some new money or something based on how well they've completed your program. In turn, the state would grant you millions to set up and promote the program plus exposure at clinics, shelters, ER's and at the dentists office.
Toxick
Splat
I don't know what the actual numeric odds are - but I've seen it happen.
Unfortunately, I've seen it not happen much more often.
So my answer is: Unlikely.
Sorry.
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jjsmommy99
Guest
Hope he doesn't beat u in front of your kids
Chain729
CageKicker Extraordinaire
greeneyes36
New Member
I hate when people answer a question with a question...BUT...what would you tell your daughter she should do??? Is this how you want to raise your son to act???
Good luck
THIS is exactly what i asked myself when i made the decision to divorce my ex. I even asked him, if it were him in my shoes what would he do... If i was the one who refused to see the light and make any changes? I decided for myself pretty quickly that i would tell my daughter to leave and make a better life for herself and her kids. It's hard to grasp at first, but that was the reality check....thinking about my daughter living my life and the advice i would give her. I gave myself that advice, took it and made the change for the better.
latinamomma
Transam's wife
Now, that's not very nice....she does have a problem....him.
Maybe she should get pregnant again. He might change if they had another baby.
Having another child never saved anyone or anyone's relationship....she needs to take the children she has now and run! It's not a healthy relationship for any of them.
aps45819
24/7 Single Dad
That's what I said. She has a problem, not him.
He's doing exactly what he wants, getting high, getting laid, eating regular and sleeping indoors.
The only problem HE has is some nag that wants him to stop, but she'll shut the hell up after a couple of good slaps across the mouth.
she might want to stop ENABLING him to do these things.
Cowgirl
Well-Known Member
donbarzini
Well-Known Member
I didn't think I needed to add the. Guess I was wrong.
No you weren't
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juicylove
Guest
Thanks for your opinion
Ok maybe I should have expanded on the domestic abuse it is not physical more mentally and emotionally. Not to say that this any better…but no he does not beat me. For an example name calling, constantly checking up on me, I can’t go anywhere but work without him, accusing me of things I haven’t done, belittlement and pretty much just trying to make me feel like crap. I know it’s not good for me or my kids. He mainly has a drug problem. He is presently in a rehabilitation center. I just wanted someone’s opinion that has been thought this. What are the chances that he will actually change? I’m seriously thinking about moving while he is in treatment…would I be wrong to do that. I don’t know what to do…what if this does help him? I’m so confused…my kids keep asking for him.
Ok maybe I should have expanded on the domestic abuse it is not physical more mentally and emotionally. Not to say that this any better…but no he does not beat me. For an example name calling, constantly checking up on me, I can’t go anywhere but work without him, accusing me of things I haven’t done, belittlement and pretty much just trying to make me feel like crap. I know it’s not good for me or my kids. He mainly has a drug problem. He is presently in a rehabilitation center. I just wanted someone’s opinion that has been thought this. What are the chances that he will actually change? I’m seriously thinking about moving while he is in treatment…would I be wrong to do that. I don’t know what to do…what if this does help him? I’m so confused…my kids keep asking for him.
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juicylove
Guest
Thanks for your opinion
Ok maybe I should have expanded on the domestic abuse it is not physical more mentally and emotionally. Not to say that this any better…but no he does not beat me. For an example name calling, constantly checking up on me, I can’t go anywhere but work without him, accusing me of things I haven’t done, belittlement and pretty much just trying to make me feel like crap. I know it’s not good for me or my kids. He mainly has a drug problem. He is presently in a rehabilitation center. I just wanted someone’s opinion that has been thought this. What are the chances that he will actually change? I’m seriously thinking about moving while he is in treatment…would I be wrong to do that. I don’t know what to do…what if this does help him? I’m so confused…my kids keep asking for him.
Ok maybe I should have expanded on the domestic abuse it is not physical more mentally and emotionally. Not to say that this any better…but no he does not beat me. For an example name calling, constantly checking up on me, I can’t go anywhere but work without him, accusing me of things I haven’t done, belittlement and pretty much just trying to make me feel like crap. I know it’s not good for me or my kids. He mainly has a drug problem. He is presently in a rehabilitation center. I just wanted someone’s opinion that has been thought this. What are the chances that he will actually change? I’m seriously thinking about moving while he is in treatment…would I be wrong to do that. I don’t know what to do…what if this does help him? I’m so confused…my kids keep asking for him.
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juicylove
Guest
aps45819
24/7 Single Dad
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juicylove
Guest
Thanks...I've already tried them they are booked. Some for most shelters...I can't win
Robin
New Member
Thanks...I've already tried them they are booked. Some for most shelters...I can't win
How about your family?
C
CalvertNewbie
Guest
Ok maybe I should have expanded on the domestic abuse it is not physical more mentally and emotionally. Not to say that this any better…but no he does not beat me. For an example name calling, constantly checking up on me, I can’t go anywhere but work without him, accusing me of things I haven’t done, belittlement and pretty much just trying to make me feel like crap. I know it’s not good for me or my kids. He mainly has a drug problem. He is presently in a rehabilitation center. I just wanted someone’s opinion that has been thought this. What are the chances that he will actually change? I’m seriously thinking about moving while he is in treatment…would I be wrong to do that. I don’t know what to do…what if this does help him? I’m so confused…my kids keep asking for him.
I stupidly dealt with an A-hole for 6 years. He was ridiculously possessive & controlling and if he had gotten his way, I'd have no family or friends in my life. He was threatened by my career and always tried to get me to believe that nobody would ever love me like he did. Luckily for me, I refused to live together and called off a wedding before I really screwed my life up. Also, I didn't have kids with him so it was a lot easier for me to leave. He didn't smoke anything but he did do steroids throughout much of our relationship. Roid rage is not just some rumor - it really happens. So I understand the verbal/emotional issues that can come along with drug use. When I woke up to him trying to strangle me one night, I finally told him to eff off for good and called the police to get him out of my apartment because he wouldn't leave. If your man is that verbally abusive and controlling, it could be a matter of time before the abuse turns physical. IMO, if he can't or won't get off the drugs then you should get the hell out and quick. He's in rehab. Was that his choice?
I wish you a lot of luck with whatever decision you make. Ultimately, nobody can make this decision except you because you're the only one that knows him. Is it possible for him to change? Sure, anything's possible. But is it likely? I'm not so sure about that, unless it is HIS decision. Like others have said, he will not change unless he is ready to. You can "nag" all you want. Hell, everyone he knows can "nag" him all they want but unless he sees something wrong with his behavior, he won't change.
ocean733
New Member
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juicylove
Guest
I don't have much family and they have worse problems than mine so that won't work. I have decide to leave him. Now is the hard put...I wish I had more support from my family
